Soul Shine - Gretchen Stecher, Psychotherapist

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Soul Shine - Gretchen Stecher, Psychotherapist

Gretchen Stecher, MA. My expertise is helping humans release anxiety and resentments, grow self-love P. I trust the process. I trust that all is well.

Deeply influenced in the early 1990’s by Women Who Run with the Wolves, by C. Estés, I know in my bones that it is possible to move away from the misery of victimhood and grow into love for one’s self and others. I draw on spiritual guides and divine energy in my life and my work, seeking and supporting authentic expression. My 20 years of 12 Step recovery includes membership in Adult Children of Alcoholics, Al-Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous programs. Many of the principles in these programs permeate my inclusive perspective on spirituality, therapy and life. That said, I also know that 12 Step programs are not a great fit for everyone. My body-based, compassionate, collaborative approach to psychotherapy includes mindfulness, deep listening, metaphor, creative expression, home play, humor and sacred ceremonies. Informed by Hakomi, I use parts work, trauma resolution, an attachment perspective, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Gestalt, and touch with permission when appropriate. I love discovering together what works for each person. I’m passionate about humans recovering their vitality and power!

03/23/2022

Essential tools for inside out selfcare, unearthing resentments and deactivating them as triggers – it’s transformational to release these festering, fear-based emotional clusters!

You’re invited to experience this powerful form of inside out selfcare – join us using the link in my bio!

03/22/2022

Much like archeology, when we excavate and deconstruct resentments we can then place the pieces side by side and see the whole picture more clearly. It’s super empowering to experience no shame or judgment about them! It’s remarkably freeing to unearth them and see them for what they are … and do the deactivation process so that they’re no longer hidden triggers waiting to detonate. This is inside out selfcare is deeply transformational, as it de-gunks our nervous system, increasing flow, integrity and alignment with ourselves. The participant list is growing for the next Shine the Light group, where we do this releasing resentments process.

03/16/2022

Tips for releasing resentments …

03/15/2022

While letting go of what doesn’t work is part of inside out selfcare, just “let it go,” can be frustrating to hear (right???!!) when we have no idea how to do it. These are some tips that I’ve learned from decades of working with resentments (both on myself and with others) that can really help … how do these sound to you?

03/08/2022

More on the effects that resentments have on our lives, individually and globally … when we don’t feel good, we struggle to do what we want to do, what feels good to us. Resentments keep us stuck in NOT feeling good, no matter how much outside in selfcare we do. Reps in the gym, the “right” amount of water, or the “perfect” clothes or haircut, in and of themselves don’t generate or sustain clear, clean internal flow. That’s where inside out selfcare, like releasing resentments, can make a difference.

03/02/2022

Resentments are part of our “normal.” We don’t pay them much attention because we turn away from “painful” emotions. They’re found in every culture, however, and they continue to stay under the radar everywhere. They add to feelings of separateness – do you feel close to someone when you’ve got anger or shame smoldering? Holding resentments in our bodies takes energy and space. Because resentments block the physical flow of energy, they keep us from optimal health. Some good reasons to consider releasing them, don’t you think?

03/01/2022

Part of inside out selfcare is feeling our emotions from a grounded place so that they can complete their cycle in our bodies. However, when we repeat fear-based emotions ad nauseum it’s not contributing to our well-being. By definition, resentments are going over and over a past experience filled with fear-based emotions (such as anger, shame, guilt, disgust). Rather than completing their cycles, they hang out in an unsatisfying internal hamster wheel that keeps us feeling stuck, jamming up our feel-good flow. Hmmm, not much fun.

02/23/2022

Ways to find resentments ... what to look for ... Remember: NO JUDGMENT! It's great to know what's in there so we can clean it out. Uncleansed hurts become a deeper, festering mess and they impact the rest of the system, since everything's connected. This first step - identifying resentments - is crucial to the healing process. What do you find when you ask these questions? #

02/22/2022

When it comes to identifying resentments, blame is a key ingredient. Blame is the element in resentments that keeps us from finding the gold, namely the underlying emotions we’ve been conditioned to not feel. Ever heard that we need to feel to heal? Uh huh, yup. So here are all these feelings below the surface in resentments that cluster together and stay jammed up because blame has us lashing out instead of curiously sensing into what’s happening within. Have you thought about blame this way?

02/16/2022

Often we don't even know we're holding resentments. There are signals indicating resentments may be lurking under the surface ... they are a place to start your inquiry ... be curious (no shoulding or blaming or rationalizing!) and for now just notice. Stay tuned for more next week!

02/15/2022

How do we become aware of resentments? Like other inside out selfcare practices, we pay attention to what’s happening internally. We get cues from our bodies when something’s brewing. There’s a rise in energy. You might notice heat, tingling, clenching or your voice getting louder. If you’re complaining about the same things over and over, feeling vengeful or wanting to convince others that you’re right and have them join you against someone else, those are juicy places to look for resentments. It’s great to find them! Any of those sound familiar?

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Lafayette, CO
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