Dr Kathy Nickerson

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Dr Kathy Nickerson

Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Author, Affair Recovery & Infidelity Specialist
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02/10/2026

Looking for an affair recovery support group? We got you! Whether you are the one who was betrayed or the one who strayed, we want to support you in your infidelity recovery journey. I asked my wonderful colleague, Angelika Broederlow, from to take over for me while I am writing my next book. I will include the URL below for where you can join. If you're interested just make a comment on this video and I will ask her to follow up with you. Let's get you all the support you need and deserve on this journey, I believe in you and know you can do it!

02/09/2026

Wondering what to tell your family about your choice to stay after your partner's infidelity or affair? Most people really struggle with this and if you are too, that is understandable. I encourage you to tell them that most people do reconcile after an affair and that people are capable of changing at any time. About 50 factors influence our behavior, including our genetics. There are two studies that have found a genetic component to infidelity. Just because someone has this genetic predisposition does not mean they will cheat; it just increases their risk. I think all of us are more than our worst behavior. I am not trying to excuse infidelity, I am trying to explain it.

02/09/2026

Most people believe once a cheater, always a cheater. Problem is: this isn't true! 2 recent research studies found the majority of people did not cheat again in the same relationship where infidelity occurred (Knopp, 2017; Nickerson et al., 2023). So if this is true, why do so many people believe once a cheater always a cheater? The answer is confirmation bias and the fact that most people who have healed do not talk about it. What are your thoughts about this? Let's discuss. I hope this helps you on your affair recovery journey.

02/07/2026

Healing from an affair is going to look different for everyone. In my experience, it takes most people up to 2 years to feel like they have fully recovered. Some people heal faster, but for others it can take a little longer. It really depends on your individual circumstances, your relationship, whether you've had previous trauma, and more. While the road ahead may feel long, please don't lose hope. True healing is possible, and you don't have to walk this path alone. The affair recovery community is here waiting to help you find your footing again 💜

02/05/2026

It's been a minute since we did a book giveaway so let's do one now! My affair recovery book, the courage to stay, is a step-by-step blueprint for both of you on how to heal from an affair. I'd love to send you a copy, so if you would like this, just make a comment on the video and I will choose a couple of winners to receive a complementary copy. Or if you cannot wait and you wanna have a copy right away, please head over to Amazon and you will find it there. Sending you a big hug and hoping this helps you recover from infidelity, betrayal trauma, and the pain of cheating.

02/05/2026

Replying to - thank you so much for sharing this. You absolutely can heal from an affair, you are not destined to have another affair, and affairs have very little to do with love, they are painkillers! It's very important to uncover the roots of why someone cheated and address those roots. If we don't, it's very likely someone will cheat again. Let's talk about what those roots are and I have a tool that will help you find them. Sending you a big hug and so proud of you! I hope this helps you on your affair recovery journey.

02/04/2026

This is excellent advice...

02/04/2026

I can't believe I missed this when thinking about once a cheater always a cheater. You've probably heard that if someone cheats they are 3.4 times more likely to cheat again. This comes from Kayla Knopp's 2017 study and there are some important details to highlight from her paper. One is that the study was done on 484 people. Another is that the finding is discussing cheating in the next relationship, not the same relationship. So just because someone has an affair does not mean they are guaranteed another affair and to cheat on the same partner. And finally, her study looked at a non-therapeutic population, so people who are not doing therapy to heal from infidelity. The reason this matters is that most people don't change unless they have a reason to change and know how to change. I hope this helps you in your affair recovery journey, sending you a big hug. And no filter on this video! I'm trying to get used to it. :)

02/03/2026

A spouse who forgives a cheater is someone who has no self-respect and no dignity, right? I'm sorry to tell you that if this is how you look at people, then you miss 99% of what makes people wonderful. We do not live in a black-and-white world and making judgments about other people, especially after an affair or infidelity, is not helpful. All of us are more than our worst behavior and all of us are capable of terrible behavior. We need to see people for the messy and wonderful creatures they are, we need to look with compassion and ask for change of our partners who hurt us. Everyone will ultimately disappoint you if you're expecting perfection. Sending you a big hug on your affair recovery journey, I promise you you can recover from betrayal if you both want to.

02/03/2026

with I laughed out loud when I watched this this morning because I could relate to so many of these goofy moments. I am not athletic and if there's an opportunity to make the move go sideways, I will. Life is pretty heavy right now and I figured you could use a little bit of levity. Perhaps I shall record myself attempting one of these stunts and you can see for yourself the splendor of my physical prowess. Hoping you have a great day, sending you a big hug on your affair recovery journey.

02/01/2026

Affairs don't always start in a bar. They start in the office breakroom. In the DMs of an old friend. The moments someone chooses to be vulnerable with someone other than their partner.

When people who stray struggle to open up to those closest to them (often due to avoidant attachment or their relationship being strained), they tend to seek "safe" validation elsewhere. This outside person is familiar, but opening up feels safer because there's no history or heavy expectation there. It's easier to slide into a fantasy where everything is perfect and easy.

But that's the trap. Before Before they know it, they've shared more of their heart with someone who isn't actually their significant other, and the fog of limerence sets in.

Understanding how this happens isn't about making excuses, but seeing the red flags before the line is crossed is important for putting healthy boundaries in place.

02/01/2026

Lots of people ask me how men and women differ when it comes to affairs. In addition to what I've seen in my affair recovery practice, we now have lots of really valuable data on how men and women show up in affairs, and it's really interesting to see. If you'd like to learn more, head on over to my website to read about our findings. I have a post on my blog "Cheating Statistics - How Men and Women Differ Based on 5,783 Reports" that goes into more detail.

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