Dr Kathy Nickerson

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Dr Kathy Nickerson

Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Author, Affair Recovery & Infidelity Specialist
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09/14/2025

What's your fave way to spend a weekend morning? Mine is to go antiquing, thrifting, or to a flea market. And if I can couple it with blueberry pancakes and some good coffee... perfection. My big find today was a maroon tinted straw hat! You'll see it soon. ❤️

09/14/2025

When you're healing from an affair or infidelity, your head is often swimming in details, fears, worries about the future, and ideas from the past. Please take a break from that and be where your feet are. You are safe in this moment, you are in control of this moment. Focus on what's happening right now and you'll find yourself feeling a little bit better. Sending you a big hug.

09/13/2025

It's very common to feel like you're falling out of love with your partner after an affair. This phenomenon is known as attachment ambivalence and it happens because the attachment system in your brain labels your partner as a threat. So until you feel safe and have healed enough from the betrayal trauma, it's hard to reattach to your partner. Let's talk about some ways to restore your connection. And if you've been through this, what did you do to help yourself get through it?

09/12/2025

As you move through your affair recovery journey, you will likely have moments where you stop and realize, "I'm changing. I'm not the same person I was before."

You may feel like you have lost pieces of yourself along the way... but there may also be things you have gained.

Healing from an affair is not a linear process. You will have good days and bad days, ups and downs. This is all part of the journey, so please don't lose hope. There is nothing "good" about having an affair, but one day, some good can still come out of this experience.

What are some ways you feel you have changed since this journey began, both positively and negatively? Let's talk about it 💜

09/11/2025

After your affair, if your partner is saying, "I don't feel safe." The answer is not to keep telling them they are actually safe. The answer is to show them they are safe. Help them feel safe so how do you do this? Let's talk about five ways to help your partner feel more secure after betrayal and infidelity.

09/10/2025

How are you doing on your affair recovery journey? Do you have any questions about how to heal after infidelity or betrayal? Ask me! I am Dr. Kathy Nickerson, a licensed psychologist, and I specialize in affair recovery. I would love to help you and I will answer as many questions as I can. So many people think it's impossible to heal from an affair, but the research shows us that most people do recover and stay together. You can too. Let's talk about it.

09/09/2025

If you've been betrayed more than once, the roadmap for healing looks very different. If you discovered one affair and then healed from that, then many years later discovered your partner cheated again, you need a different game plan than the first time around. It's completely up to you if you want to give your partner a second chance. If you decide to do so I recommend a different tactic from what's in my book. Let's talk about it and why I recommend a different strategy. Let me know what you think.

09/09/2025

After an affair, betrayed partners need radical honesty from the cheating partner. This is because it's impossible to feel safe when you don't know what is true and what's not true. We need to have painful conversations in order to get to "Ground Zero" and then we can start rebuilding. It's very scary for the straying partner to do this, which is why we need to flip the script. You will not lose your partner by telling the truth, you will lose your partner by keeping secrets. What are your thoughts about this?

09/08/2025

Affairs are not healthy relationships. Even though you may think they are "working" for you and that somebody just wants to be a "good dad" and be there for the kids, living a life based on lies and deception is not healthy. Infidelity is about escapism, the person who is cheating wants to escape their life and escape their painful feelings. There are much healthier ways to do this, the very best thing to do is to talk to your partner about how you're feeling and what's not working for you, rather than creating a secret life. This is a repost of one of the first ever videos I made and I still agree with the advice I gave here. What are your thoughts?

09/08/2025

Please be aware of imposter accounts. I will never ask you for money, I will never reach out to you soliciting you for a session or payment. The only way to connect with me is through my website and I only have one account on this app. You can verify it's me by looking at the number of followers, looking at the spelling of the username, and looking at which URL you are being directed to.

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