09/29/2025
Welcome to the world of boundaries, where clarity creates freedom.
When understood and implemented, boundaries change everything. They protect your peace, strengthen your relationships, and help you honor your truth.
Let’s break it down into 3 key types of boundaries:
1. Parameters – These are your personal limits. Emotional, physical, spiritual, whatever feels tolerable or acceptable to you. Parameters protect your energy and your values.
2. Compromises – This is the middle ground. Both people agree to meet in the middle, equally, based on value (not necessarily money, but meaning). Healthy compromise means both sides feel respected, and both sides are willing to sacrifice something to meet at a balanced halfway.
3. Dealbreakers – These are your non-negotiables. When crossed, the relationship cannot continue in a healthy way. Think core values, ethics, or life goals. If a dealbreaker is violated, it’s time to re-evaluate the connection.
Now, let’s be clear:
A boundary is not a boundary until it’s communicated.
Please do not expect someone to honor a boundary they didn’t know existed.
Think about it like this:
You give someone a gift. Then later, you use that gift to ask for a favor they never agreed to. That wasn’t a boundary, it was an unspoken expectation.
Boundaries are not always easy to hear, but that doesn’t make them disrespectful.
If someone doesn’t like your boundary, that’s okay. But if they disrespect it, you may need to reassess where they fall in your life.
Boundaries get to be cyclical:
You can’t demand your boundary be honored while disregarding someone else’s.
If your values and theirs don’t align, you get to ask: What kind of relationship is possible now?
And yes, that might mean letting go, but it also might mean the beginning of a healthier, more honest, and safer connection.
Both outcomes are sacred.
