Brittany Fella, LMFT

10/23/2025

Teens that walk thru the world with a high degree of self respect and confidence, seem to also have a high degree of self compassion.

Self compassion is how we relate to ourselves, when we notice our imperfection’s.

Teens that master this, are respectful, curious, neutral and fair with themselves. They try to have an inner monologue that refuses to “shred themselves.” Instead they hold themselves accountable, in an objective way.

Many of my teen athletes have learned to workout, without neglecting their limits. They try for PRs, versus comparing themselves to others. They skate the line of their thresholds, in a mindful way.

This self-acceptance allows them to accept others more, and allows them to walk thru life lighter, and with greater freedom.

Having a bad sporting event allows them data to advance their game, but self rejecting is not an option when it goes bad.

Loosing objectivity on oneself is not an option, if you want to walk thru this world confident.

10/21/2025

Teenagers don’t have to take 1000 wrong turns in life to figure things out.

Yes experience brings wisdom, but what if they learned their value earlier on? What if they exited unhealthy dynamics sooner?

What if adolescence wasn’t marked by chaos, but every challenge lead to greater and greater clarity. A lot happens in adolescence, but the change can be deliberate and remarkable.

It is absolutely possible that we can expect more of what teens want to learn.

If your uncertain as a parent how to do this in a relatable and empowering way, I’d love to help you. You don’t have to have the answers, we can create a unique path for your family together.

10/18/2025

I started running teen groups to provide spaces for teens to speak on a deeper level with one another, and with themselves.

Teens desperately need our help in learning how relationships work, both the relationship they have with themselves, and the world around them.

09/25/2025

One of the most important things parents can learn in guiding their teen is what behavior is “normal” in order to leave the teen years, and be ready for young adulthood.

Education is key and every parenting stage and can remove the emotion and shame in thinking you are doing something “wrong”.

If they don’t do this now, how do they get to the next stage successfully?

If you need support as a parent I am launching a 10 week private parent community. You need a team, just as much as your teen does.

07/12/2025

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07/01/2025

In tonight’s group the teens learned a great life skill.

How to provide generosity and hospitality thru shared food.

They can use this in business, when they move into college or a new neighborhood. We discussed the value in this, and how it can open doors.

I’m super excited they came up with the idea. They voted next to watch “Life is Beautiful”, and discuss the film.

They are a joy to engage with!

06/28/2025

Wonder and imagination have returned among teens. Gone are the days of scrolling to live in someone else’s life.

But to full embody living in your own, is scary, confronting and who wants to do that? As teens have had enough time with the alternative, they are coming forward- hopeful, full of wonder.

Summer always has a way of doing this for teens. Throwing them into their natural environment at beaches, parks and the pool and their energy returns.

If you are a teen and you have stopped feeling hopeful, we should chat. I’ve developed communities to help teens come together. This week we are having a potluck. Last week we took a walk.

Being seen, heard and understood among people your age is possible.

06/26/2025

06/15/2025

This past week I trained with .janet.edgette. Her timely humor, frank candor and real conversations, lead adolescents into a space that matters to them.

She’s constantly refining how she comes across to them, and looking and creative ways to connect.

Stay tuned for more tips on our conversations and take aways!

06/07/2025

Happy 3rd Birthday Gussie!

I’ll never forget the day I drove out to pick up Gussie. I wasn’t sure what his story was, with half the information I got. Together we worked hard to figure out the type of love he needed, and in turn, without him even trying, I felt more loved than I’ve ever felt before.

You can go on a quest in life looking to receive love, or you can continue to give it away, and be surprised how loved you feel.

Any day now, Gussie will become the father of our first foster child. I’m confident he will he will be a catalyst to the child’s healing and joy.

Thank you Gussie for being the apple of my eye and the absolute love of my life (for now). I am so excited to see what unfolds for our family. 🩷

05/23/2025

05/20/2025

🎯 Redefining Success: A Teen's Guide

Success isn't one-size-fits-all. It's not just about grades or college admissions. True success is about personal growth, resilience, and living a life aligned with your values.

1. Define Your Own Success

Ask yourself: What does success mean to me? Is it mastering a new skill, building strong relationships, or contributing to my community?

2. Embrace Growth Over Perfection
Mistakes are stepping stones to growth. Each challenge faced is an opportunity to learn and evolve.

3. Set Meaningful Goals
Focus on goals that resonate with your passions and interests. Remember, it's about the journey, not just the destination.

4. Celebrate Small Wins
Every step forward, no matter how small, is progress. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements along the way.

5. Stay True to Yourself
Avoid comparing your path to others. Your journey is unique, and your definition of success should reflect that.