Dr. Dana S. Iyer, Phd

05/13/2015

I have written a new post titled, 'After the Happily Ever After’.

We know falling in love is easier than staying in love, but few of us understand how to change that. This post outlines my work with a couple on the brink of calling it quits, feeling there is no tunnel, they wonder how can they see the light? Using principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy this post examines where we go wrong in love and how to begin to fix it.

You may view the post at:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-insight/201505/after-the-happily-ever-after

http://drdanaiyer.com/after-the-happily-ever-after/

03/13/2014

I have a new post titled The Darkness is the Key.

Excerpt: While many of us stay away from the darkness, there are a few amongst us who are willing to enter it. William James has referred to such people as twice born, those who are willing to look at the things they need to change in order to live a life awakened, not crushed, by adversity. It is only in entering our darkness that we face ourselves, our demons, and find what has been with us all along, the key…

Read more http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-insight/201403/the-darkness-is-the-key

We look for the key where the light is afraid to enter the darkness within

11/11/2013

There are no words to describe how racism feels. Everyone deals with it differently. Some people lash out verbally, others withdraw into themselves. How many of our children are trying to learn in racist classrooms? How does a child reach their full potential...when they are given messages every day that they are worthless human beings? What if it was your son or daughter? What would you do? - Mark Williams, 1999

Read more at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-insight/201311/six-ways-help-your-child-cope-racism-part-2

Racist interactions lead targets to feel helpless and know how to respond

10/07/2013

"I felt relieved when he turned away from me and began to walk away, but looking back he had shouted, loud enough for everyone who had been looking on to hear, “A f---ing dot head is who you are. Go home!”...Read more at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-insight/201310/racial-teasing-reflections-being-different-part-1

Racial teasing targets an individual’s ethnically distinct features

09/12/2013

Sometimes our eyes keep from us the things our heart doesn’t want to see

09/12/2013

The word of the day is, Reason.

09/09/2013

Follow your heart and put in the effort, and when you find yourself in the right place, in the place you need to be, all the doors and windows will fly open to help you become who you were meant to be. - Dana Iyer, Read more on Psychology Today

When it's best not to do something, and just lie there

09/09/2013

It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.

09/06/2013

09/06/2013

My blog "On Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Insight" will now be featured on Psychology Today. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-insight

Life doesn’t spare any of us. It doesn’t matter if you are a movie star, a psychologist, or a writer, we all experience disappointment, heartbreak, discouragement, and despondence. We just need to get back up one more time than we are knocked down. Read More