Grief Recovery & Healing

12/27/2022

Do you find yourself reflecting on your life as the new year approaches?

I don’t know about you, but Christmas carols and Auld Lang Syne always make me reminiscent of the past. New Year’s Resolutions make me think about areas where I could improve or things I wish I had done better. Is it the same for you?

Maybe you’re thinking about relationships that didn’t end the way you wanted or things you wish you would have said to someone when you had the opportunity to do so. Maybe you feel regret over things you wish would have ended differently, better or more.

Things like,

➡️I wish I had told him that I loved him.
➡️I never thanked her for always making my favorite meal on my birthday.
➡️I wish she would have started cancer treatment sooner.
➡️I wish I could take back what I said.
➡️We should have gone on vacations.
➡️I wish I was more present when we were together.
➡️We should have taken that vacation before she died.

The problem with regret is that it keeps you out of the moment and it robs you of joy. Regretting things you wish you’d said or done can stay with you for a long time and limit your capacity for happiness. Sadly, it can impact your current and future relationships as well.

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11/21/2022

"Grief" is such an incredibly sad term. It conjures up the emotions attached to loss - death, divorce and so many other things in our lives. There is a way to let go of the sadness. A way to keep the memories without the pain.

11/03/2022

"At The End Of My Journey
I just want to let you know I’m okay. I still feel your presence in my everyday life. I talk to you all the time…and I see the signs you send me.
I smile when I think of something you would say to make me laugh. I can still hear your voice in my head and feel your love in my heart.
I don’t feel like you’re gone just because I can’t see you…I know you’re now just a part of me. A very important part…just as you’ve always been.
I try really hard not to feel quilt, regret or anger…because those emotions only make me feel further away from you. I’m also not sad all the time…I know you would hate to see me that way.
I talk to you just as I always have…sometimes even out in public. I don’t care what other people think. They don’t know us…and they don’t know our story.
I know as much as I tried I couldn’t save you. I did the best I could with the knowledge I had at the time. I made the right decisions based on what I believed was best for you…and us.
I know you know that.
Here’s the thing…I’m here…and you’re there…and I hope where you are is better…because I’ll see you there someday…when I find my way back to you.
Thank you for being a part of my journey…even though I wish it could’ve been longer…and for teaching me about the promise of never-ending love.
Until we meet again I promise you I’ll continue to honor our relationship by releasing the anger that no longer serves me, forgiving myself for what I might have done wrong…and living the best life I can…with no regrets.
I’ll honor your memory by living my life for both of us…and at the end of my journey…I know you’ll be waiting."
Gary Sturgis - “Surviving Grief”

Carrie Brewer, Loss and Grief Recovery Specialist, one on one sessions available, call (720) 576-6129 for questions

10/20/2022

Have you ever heard that it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them? Or that it takes a certain amount of time to grieve the death of a loved one?

10/16/2022

While the official beginning of Fall has passed, for me October is when Fall really begins. The air has a feel to it, belonging to a deep-rooted sense within all of us that says, “Get ready”. Perhaps that feeling is a harken back to a deep and old evolutional necessity. A knowing when the days grow shorter and the nights are cooler, food and a warmth are paramount to survival. Or perhaps that feeling is from our childhood when school is back in session, friends and family gather more frequently, fireplaces warm our homes and heart, and winter is on the horizon.

One Fall our family took turns making weekly visits to the chemotherapy treatment center with Dad as he fought cancer. Even there, in the battle ground, stark environment of medical equipment, lab draws and x-rays there was a charge to the air. On a particular Fall day as I sat with Dad, I became aware I was witness to a drawing together of many different people for the in-common goal of battling cancer. Some would continue toil for survival, some would celebrate another Spring, and some would face the loss of their warriors.

I was so struck by the common ground we all experienced together in this place! Below are my thoughts written that day.

Common Ground

While I sit among the patients and friends and families, I become one with them. We are here drawn of a common purpose. To fight.

We fight and plead and cry and hope. We resolve to win. Or we resolve that we will not.

There is no prejudice here. Cancer strikes and works it's bidding without regard to race, color, or creed.

On this trip I meet a young black man. I see pallor under his lovely dark skin. I sense he is very sick, and I can tell he is tall. We exchange small talk- as if this were not a place for larger words. I say to him, "I can tell you are going to be tall when you stand up". But when he stands his height is compromised by obvious pain. I watch his wife move close and offer her shoulder for support and I know this is not only literal. She is white. But here, in this place skin color makes no difference.

We are one here and our fight is common. Two recliners down from where Dad is seated there is a Hispanic man. Today they are drawing a unit of blood from him. He sits without emotion while the life fluid leaves his body and traverses a clear tube to a clear glass bottle. His blood is red. His eyes bright and noncommittal. His skin is brown. This disease is not prejudiced.

I marvel even at the staff here. They too are every creed and color and race, just as the patients and their families. Day after day they care for the patients that come here. And day after day the staff wage the war against the cancers.

I marvel too at families while they sit. While they watch. Perfect guardians. They watch for signs of defeat or victory. They watch the medicine pumps and small appetites. They keep watch and mostly they watch their loved one. This is common ground here and I sit among them. Waiting. Watching. Sharing this common ground.

Carrie

10/07/2022

09/17/2022

If your heart is broken consider coming to this informational session on grief recovery.

Grief Recovery Method “Grief” is such an incredibly sad term. It conjures up the emotions attached to loss – death divorce, health. There is a way to let go of the sadness. A way to keep the memories without the pain. Carrie Brewer invites you to come learn about Grief Recovery. In-person at T...

09/10/2022

Artist Celeste Roberge's sculpture RISING CAIRN was not intended to represent grief but reportedly she is happy the viewer can derive their own interpretation from her work.

I believe the coldness of the stones and the rigid steel structure of this 4000-pound cairn bring imagery to the crippling emotion of grief. I believe we all experience grief in different forms from any and every kind of loss that breaks your heart. I believe each of us are capable of healing that broken heart.

08/27/2022

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06/02/2022

The Grief Recovery and Healing program stands alone. So does yoga. Do both.

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05/25/2022

Commonly we think of grief as related to death of a loved one. Grief is LOSS. Loss of hopes, dreams and expectations related to death... and divorce... innocence... independence... finances... pets.

Writing about it often helps. The words below lament a relationship when one left to be alone.

05/20/2022

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05/10/2022

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Wondering how the Grief Recovery Method is different from traditional grief support?

Great Question!

One big difference is that we don’t separate people by the type of loss they’ve experienced. Everyone is welcome no matter why their heart is broken. That may sound wild since it’s not how most grief support groups work, so let’s take a look at why we do that.
Even if two people experienced the same type of loss they still wouldn’t have the exact same experiences because all relationships are unique. For example, let’s say the father of two twin sisters died. That sounds about as close as you can get to people experiencing the same type of loss right? Well those two sisters are still individual people. One might have had a great relationship with her dad and the other not so much.

To compare one person’s loss to another’s, regardless of the cause or type of loss, discounts, minimizes, or trivializes their feelings or experience.

We have found that focusing on the type of loss puts the focus in the wrong place. Yes, the type of loss is important because it’s why someone’s heart is broken, but we mainly focus on how to help people. The Grief Recovery Method is a universal solution that will work for anyone that is willing to do the work.

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