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The Unleashed Heart, LLC, Lake George, CO (2025)

07/24/2025

Self-love isn’t just about bubble baths and feel-good quotes — it’s about creating a life that feels true to who you are. It's about setting boundaries, speaking kindly to yourself, and choosing what nourishes your mind, body, and spirit.

If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, burnout, or feeling like you're constantly pouring into others without filling your own cup — this is for you.

Here are 5 of the most powerful tips to help you build deep, lasting self-love that leads to a happier, healthier life from the inside out.

🌱 1. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
Learn to say no to what drains you and yes to what aligns with your values. Boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re essential for protecting your energy and mental well-being. ✅ Tip: Start small. Say no to one request this week that you know isn't right for you.

🪞 2. Speak to Yourself Like Someone You Deeply Love
Your inner voice shapes your reality. Ditch the harsh self-talk and replace it with compassion. If you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, don’t say it to yourself. ✅ Tip: Try this: Every morning, say out loud one kind thing to yourself in the mirror — even if it feels awkward.

🧘‍♀️ 3. Make Time for Your Needs — Daily
Self-love is not spa days (although those are nice). It’s about honoring your body, emotions, and goals consistently. Sleep, hydration, movement, rest, joy — these are non-negotiables. ✅ Tip: Schedule a 15-minute “you” time block every day, just for recharging or doing something you love.

📓 4. Forgive Yourself and Let Go of Perfection
Self-love requires self-acceptance — even when you mess up. Growth comes from progress, not perfection. Be proud of trying. Mistakes are proof you're learning. ✅ Tip: Write a letter to yourself forgiving something you’ve been holding over your head.

❤️ 5. Surround Yourself with People Who Reflect Your Worth
You become like the people you spend time with. Let go of relationships that diminish your light. Choose those who uplift, support, and believe in you. ✅ Tip: Audit your circle. Ask: “Who makes me feel safe and seen?” Prioritize those connections.

With love + light,
Victoria💛

07/23/2025

PSA for all those who know me (or if you relate to this, share this with your friends/family). 😆🥰

👐Since becoming a reiki master & certified biofield tuning practitioner, I've learned how my environment and emotional internal environment impact my energy.

✨Energy is all around us. We are made up of energy - right down to every bajillionth (I like to make up words 🤪) cell in our bodies.

📚We learned in school that energy must stay in motion and can only be moved or transformed (not destroyed). What happens, then, when our energy can't flow? It becomes lodged in our bodies or energy fields, and we become imbalanced. Reiki and Biofield Tuning restore harmony and balance to our energy within our bodies or in our energy field (depending on the modality).

💫So, when I feel out of balance because I've neglected to ensure my energy can stay fluid, I feel the need to retreat. And the introvert in me doesn't mind either.

❓Are you sensitive to the energy of your environment? One way to know is if you feel drained after a night out or after having a lot of interaction during the day. Or, check in with your body and reflect on your feelings, feeling down and overwhelmed? This, too, impacts your overall energy because thoughts have energy behind them, and thoughts lead to feelings. It's all connected.

💛So, my introvert/Human Design Manifestor/HSP/empath pals, sometimes we have to say: "Thanks, but I'm going to have to pass. Thank you for thinking of me, though -- and for asking. Please, never stop asking." You may also need to feel your way into your response (like me), so when you receive an invitation, you can say, "Let me get back to you."

👉Do you relate?
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07/22/2025

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It's easy to get stuck in the past and hold onto the pain of what could have been. But the truth is, we cannot change what has already happened. We can only control how we respond to it.

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful acts of self-love and healing. It's not about excusing someone's behavior or forgetting what happened. It's about releasing the burden of anger, resentment, and hurt that we carry within ourselves.

When we forgive, we free ourselves from the past and open ourselves up to a brighter future. We create space for love, joy, and peace to enter our lives.

So if you're struggling with forgiveness, know that it's okay to take your time and process your emotions. But don't let the pain hold you back from living a full and happy life.

Choose forgiveness today and watch as your life transforms before your eyes. You deserve to live a life full of love, joy, and peace.

With love & peace,
Victoria💛

07/21/2025

Grief is a journey we all must navigate, and it's essential to remember that it's okay to feel the weight of our emotions. Every tear we shed, every moment of sadness we encounter, is a testament to the love we have experienced. 🖤 Allow yourself to embrace these feelings, for they are not a sign of weakness but rather a reflection of the strength of your heart. It’s through the act of feeling that we honor those we’ve lost and validate our own experiences.

As you walk through the valleys of sorrow, take time to reflect on the beautiful memories that live within you. Each regret, each moment of longing, can serve as a stepping stone toward healing. Rather than burying your grief, tend to it with care. Cultivate a space where your memories can flourish and where your emotions can be expressed freely. 🌱 This can be a journal where you pour out your thoughts, or perhaps a dedicated time each week for reflection and remembrance. Engaging in these practices can transform your sorrow into a cherished part of your journey.

Remember, it’s through our deepest struggles that we discover our truest selves. Use this time to grow, to learn, and to transform your grief into something beautiful. 🌈 Surround yourself with love and support, and allow your journey to inspire others. Share your story, and you might find that your experiences resonate with those around you, creating a ripple effect of healing and connection.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, reach out and connect with those who can support you. Your journey matters, and you’re never alone. 💖 There is strength in vulnerability, and by opening up, you allow others to do the same. Together, we can navigate the complexities of grief and emerge stronger on the other side. 💛

07/18/2025

Mindfulness Tip for Grievers:

❤️‍🩹 The "Name and Claim" Practice ❤️‍🩹

🌊 When a wave of grief hits, instead of fighting it or trying to push through it, pause and say out loud (or internally): "This is grief. Grief is here right now."

😮‍💨 Then take three conscious breaths and add:
"This feeling belongs to me. It's not wrong. It's not too much. It's normal and natural."

🎯 Why this works for grievers:
- It stops the secondary suffering of judging your grief as "wrong" or "too much."
- It provides a different way to perceive grief in the moment.
- It gives you something concrete to DO when you feel overwhelmed.
- It honors the grief instead of trying to escape it.
- It reminds you that feeling grief means you're human, not broken.

Most grief isn't actually about the feeling itself—it's about our resistance to the feeling. When you can name it, claim it, and recognize it, you reduce the struggle against it, and the powerlessness you can feel in the waves.
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07/17/2025

Up until 2019, I wouldn't have known a boundary unless it slapped me in the face.

For years, I was the "yes" woman—saying yes to requests that violated my values, yes to people who took advantage of my silence, yes to everything except what my soul was screaming for: respect. I was the emotional caretaker of those around me because that was a role I had known and understood since childhood.

Here's what I didn't understand: When your physical boundaries are crossed as a child, you don't just lose your sense of safety—you lose your internal compass for where you end and others begin.

I thought being "nice" meant sacrificing myself on the altar of everyone else's comfort or happiness. I thought my voice didn't matter. I thought people-pleasing was love.

I was wrong.

Through Grief Recovery, I discovered I wasn't just struggling to set my own boundaries—I couldn't even recognize other people's boundaries. The very foundation of healthy relationships was foreign to me.

But here's the transformative truth that changed everything: Your boundaries aren't walls to keep people out—they're bridges to deeper, more authentic connection.

When we don't communicate our limits, we rob others of the chance to truly know us. We rob ourselves of the opportunity to be genuinely loved for who we are, not who we pretend to be. It also allows others to become aware of their boundaries.

The woman who couldn't say "no" has learned to say "yes" to herself first. And in doing so, I've discovered that the people who truly belong in my life don't just respect my boundaries—they celebrate them.

💬 What would change in your life if you started honoring your own limits as sacred?

Your voice matters. Your values matter. You matter. 💛

07/16/2025

The most self-loving thing you can do for yourself in your grief is to get crystal clear and honest about what healing requires.

For too long, we've been fed gentle lies about grief:
🚫"Time heals all wounds."
🚫 "They wouldn't want you to be sad."
🚫 "You need to let go and move forward."

Grief doesn't need your permission to exist, and healing doesn't happen on anyone else's timeline.

Real healing requires a level of courage that many people are unwilling to discuss. It demands that you:

❤️‍🩹 Stop performing recovery for the comfort of others.
Your grief makes them uncomfortable? That's their work, not yours. Your healing journey isn't a performance piece designed to make others feel better about loss.

❤️‍🩹 Get ruthlessly honest about what you actually need.
Not what you think you should need. Not what worked for someone else. What do YOU need to feel whole again? More therapy? Different therapy? Time alone? Community? Permission to rage? Permission to fall apart? Stop apologizing for your requirements.

❤️‍🩹 Challenge every single "should" that's been placed on your grief.
You should be grateful for the time you had. You should focus on happy memories. You should be "better" by now. Says who? Your grief is as unique as your fingerprint, and it deserves to be honored exactly as it is.

❤️‍🩹 Face the terrifying reality that no one is coming to save you.
The most empowering and devastating truth about grief is this: You have to choose to do the work. You have to choose to feel the feelings. You have to decide to rebuild your life from the inside out. No one else can do it for you.

👉 Here's what I know after walking this path: The people who truly heal from the pain of their grief aren't the ones who "get over it" the fastest. They're the ones who get clear about what they need and are brave enough to seek it and ask for it. 🎯

💬 What would happen if you stopped managing everyone else's discomfort with your grief and started honoring what you actually need to heal?

Your grief deserves advocacy-- that starts with you. 💛

07/15/2025

🕯️ "If you have knowledge, let others light their candle in it." - Margaret Fuller🕯️

Years ago, I was drowning in the darkness of suffering, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I was then filled with shame and guilt on top of my grief when I chose to soothe myself in unhelpful and harmful ways (alcohol was a biggie). I thought I'd never find my way back to anything resembling light. But here's what I discovered: the wisdom we gain from walking through our deepest pain isn't meant to be hoarded—it's meant to be shared.

The door for others' transformation is potentially opened when we stop protecting our hard-earned insights and start freely offering them.

Sharing wisdom doesn't require writing books or giving speeches, although those are great options. Even the smallest outreach can be impactful:

→ Texting someone going through a divorce: "This phase won't last forever, but feeling lost right now is completely normal."

→ Sitting with a friend in their grief without trying to fix anything.

→ Sharing what helped (and what didn't) when someone asks, "How did you get through it?"

→ Being honest about the messy middle parts of healing that no one talks about.

Here's the truthbomb that changed everything for me: no one was going to rescue or save me but me. It was up to me to choose, be, and do grief differently. I talk about it frequently, but trauma is what happens, and grief is what's left.

What knowledge have you gained from your hardest chapters? Who might need to light their candle in your wisdom today?

The world needs what you've learned. Please don't keep it locked away. 💛 And if you're needing some support and guidance through the darkness, and are ready to Do Grief Differently, I'm here to be of service. ❤️‍🩹

07/14/2025

✨ What is meant for me will never pass me by. ✨

Sometimes we worry we're running out of time, missing opportunities, or that we're somehow "behind" in life. But here's the truth: your path is uniquely yours, and divine timing is always at work.

That job that didn't work out? It made space for something better. That relationship that ended? It cleared the way for deeper love. Those doors that closed? They redirected you toward the ones meant to open.

Trust the timing of your life. Trust that you're exactly where you need to be. What's meant for you - the right opportunities, the right people, the right moments - will find their way to you when the time is perfect.

Trust is a significant aspect of my personal work that I'm here to explore; it's a concept mentioned numerous times in the literature related to my Human Design. And yet, it's sooooo hard, right? We trust that the sun is shining on a cloudy day, or trust there's a higher power at work (and that can be challenging, too), and yet, to trust that the Universe/God/Higher Power (whatever you choose to call it) has our back is part of our work. It takes conscious effort to drop out of the monkey mind and into the body, allowing yourself to feel into a sense of trust.

Stop chasing what isn't yours and start embracing what is. Your blessings are on their way. 🙏

07/11/2025

Sometimes we look at our progress and wonder if we’re doing enough. In a world that celebrates speed, productivity, and constant motion, moving slowly can feel like falling behind. But the truth is — no matter how slow you go, you're still moving forward. Every small step, every quiet choice to keep going, is a victory.

Progress isn’t always visible. It’s not always marked by big wins or life-changing moments. Sometimes it looks like getting out of bed when it’s hard. Sometimes it’s choosing kindness when you're hurting, or showing up for yourself in the smallest way. Real growth often happens in silence — unnoticed by the world, but deeply transformational inside.

If all you did today was refuse to give up, that’s enough. That’s progress. You don’t have to be loud to be strong. You don’t need to move fast to be on the right path. Your pace is not a reflection of your worth — your persistence is.

So if today feels heavy, breathe. Rest if you need to, but don’t forget: you’re doing the work. You’re still becoming. Keep going gently, and remember that forward is forward — always. 💛

07/10/2025

💔 My heart is heavy as I think about everyone impacted by the devastating flooding in Kerr County, Texas.

To have to search for those you love among debris, not knowing if or when you're loved one will be returned home... to see everything you've worked for, for some, their whole lives, and it's taken away in a matter of minutes.

Natural disasters have this raw way of stripping life down to what truly matters. In these moments, we remember that our homes are just structures, but our people - our people are everything. We remember that communities aren't just places on a map, but living, breathing networks of souls who show up for each other when everything else falls away. The same hearts that are breaking today are opening their doors to strangers who need shelter.

What can we do from afar? We can hold space for the magnitude of this loss. We can donate to trusted relief organizations. We can resist the urge to look away when the news cycle moves on, because recovery takes months and years, not days.

But most importantly, we can remember that connection transcends geography. Our thoughts, our prayers, our energy - they travel and become part of the collective strength.

Kerr County, my heart is with you. As a Reiki Master and energy healing practitioner, I send you intentional love. 👉 Anyone reading this can do this right now, too -- you don't need any special skills or certificates. Close your eyes, bring Kerr County, Texas, to your mind, and imagine a loving, warm light surrounding the hurting hearts. 💓💫

💫 If you'd like to support those in Kerr County, Texas, there's a great post CBS News shared that lists a lot of vetted organizations to choose from: https://www.cbsnews.com/texas/news/where-to-donate-help-central-texas-flood-recovery/

07/09/2025

🌫️ "The fog has lifted." - Linda, Recent Do Grief Differently Program Graduate 🎓

I often speak to a veil that grief places over our faces, causing us not to see ourselves or others clearly. There's too much emotional dis-ease within our bodies, making it challenging to discern what is ours and what is not.

As I learn more about Human Design, I have begun to draw connections between how grief manifests differently, which has been fascinating in supporting my clients' understanding of the mechanics of their emotional energy. But that's for another post.

Back to the veil...
🌫️ My recent client described it as fog. This client came to me after so much loss in recent years; she couldn't tell which way was up anymore. Her memory was suffering; she was emotionally overwhelmed by the pain of her losses. She was looking for support in lifting that fog, and throughout the program, that's precisely what I helped her do.

There's more; I didn't mention that this woman is in her retirement, and she can now fully embrace it - spiritually, emotionally, and physically, because she has worked through and addressed the emotional pain. This is a perfect illustration of how it's never too soon and it's never too late to Do Grief Differently. ❤️‍🩹 💫

Are you ready to dig deep, move to another side of loss that doesn't have you suffering inside daily? Learn more about Do Grief Differently on my website, theunleashedheart.com. Or, if you're on IG, there's a link in my bio! ✨💛

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