01/22/2026
When did female friendship become scheduling coffee three weeks out and canceling because life got busy? Or saying, "I miss you, let's hang out." And getting no reply, or "sure"- and that was that. When did it become surface-level conversations about kids and weather? And that's it? No depth.
When did we decide as a group we'll chase people? We'll let them decide when they have time for us and how our friendship will be? Beg them to be our friends, hang out with us, respond to a text.
Our grandmothers had each other. They lived on the same streets, raised kids together, sat on porches and talked about real things. They had community by default. What happened?
We have to build it intentionally now. And that’s exhausting. But it’s also needed. As mothers today we desperately need women in our life- to vent to, to to lean on, to laugh with. Women we can be our true selves around, unmask.
We can't keep chasing and holding onto friendships that are one-sided, or people who, honestly, just don't care. Our time and our energy is so limited, with so little to give we have to be intentional with where it goes.
Because here’s what I know: You cannot heal in isolation. You cannot grow in isolation. You cannot figure out who you are beyond “mom” and “wife” and “employee” without other women reflecting back to you that you’re allowed to be more. And to want more. You need friendship. Period.
And we've got to get away from the narrative that as mothers we don't need friendship, or that it comes last.
The Wildflower Society exists because Miria and I truly believe women need other women, we need community and we deserve it. We deserve- friendships that go deeper, women who get it, permission to take up space and to want more and be “too much” without apologizing.
And every single event we host, I’m reminded - we’re not alone in this. So many women are starving for real connection.
So this is your reminder: You’re not meant to do this alone. And the women you’re looking for? They’re looking for you too.
- Christina 💕