12/03/2025
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What Is Future Faking?
Future faking is when a narcissist makes big promises about the future
with zero intention of keeping them.
It’s not hope.
It’s not vision.
It’s not commitment.
It’s a manipulation tactic,
designed to bond you, calm you, and keep you invested
while they give you nothing real in the present.
Here’s exactly how future faking works — and why narcissists rely on it.
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1. Making Grand Promises
“We’re going to move in together.”
“I want a family with you.”
“We’ll take that trip next year.”
“I’m planning our whole future.”
What they’re really doing:
Buying time.
Locking in your emotional investment.
Creating a fantasy you attach to.
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2. Using Words Instead of Actions
They talk endlessly about what they’ll do “soon,”
but nothing ever actually happens.
They rely on one thing:
Your belief that tomorrow will be better than today.
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3. Offering Just Enough to Keep You Hooked
They sprinkle small gestures:
• a hint of progress
• a random plan
• a sudden moment of affection
Just enough to keep you waiting,
never enough to build anything real.
It’s emotional bait.
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4. Shifting the Goalposts
Every time you get close to the promise,
they delay it.
“I need more time.”
“Work is crazy right now.”
“Things just aren’t right yet.”
“We’ll get there, I promise.”
But “there” never comes.
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5. Avoiding Accountability
If you bring it up:
You’re “pressuring them.”
You’re “too demanding.”
You’re “never satisfied.”
The problem becomes you —
not their empty promises.
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6. Why They Future Fake
Because commitment is control — but only if it’s verbal, not real.
Future faking allows them to:
• keep you loyal
• avoid losing you
• look like a good partner
• bypass real effort
• keep you emotionally invested
• distract from their bad behavior
It’s manipulation disguised as hope.
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7. The Crash
Eventually, you realize:
You were in love with the *promise*, not the person.
You were building a future alone.
They never planned anything.
The illusion collapses,
and you’re left holding the blueprint to a life they never intended to build.
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Final Word
Future faking is not immaturity.
It’s not insecurity.
It’s not lack of planning.
It’s deliberate emotional deception.
A narcissist doesn’t use the future to grow with you.
They use the future to control you.
If their actions don’t match their words,
believe the actions every time.
