07/16/2024
Something I have heard a lot the last couple of weeks is people believing they have “failed”. Failed at life, failed at sobriety, failed at finances, failed at health/making healthy choices/diets, failed at career development/expansion, failed, failed, failed. This was, of course, accompanied by self-punishment/negative self-talk. I wish we could all just kick this word right out of our vocabulary!
If there are areas that you would like to make changes or need to take accountability or make a plan… Do that. Being accountable for the choices you have made can help you evaluate where you are and where you would like to be. Identify a goal and make a plan to get there. Accountability does not include perfectionism, beating yourself up, putting yourself down, or anything of the sort. Self-hatred and perfectionism will keep you from your goals, not help you obtain them. They are forms of self-sabotage. Learn how to guide yourself with love, set boundaries with yourself (and others), and use accountability, not toxic guilt and shame.