Renovation Biblical Counseling, PLLC

01/28/2026

Back in the office Monday.

01/25/2026

If your marriage is in trouble, you can cry out to God with prayers for marriage restoration. As you pray for God to restore your marriage, you’re praying for Him to fulfill the full meaning of the words restoration and restore. You’re asking Him to give life to your marriage, to rebuild, heal, cure, renew, transform, mend, and perfect it.
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Focus on the Family is dedicated to bringing healing and restoration to couples who are struggling in their marriage. But God’s design for marriage never included abuse, violence or coercive control. Even emotional abuse can bruise or severely harm a person’s heart, mind and soul. If you are in an abusive relationship, go to a safe place and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit them online at thehotline.org.

01/25/2026

As parents, we ultimately wear our kids’ failures as though they were our own. No, I’m not saying we should, just that we usually do. We tend to take too much credit for kids who turn out well and too much blame for kids who rebel. It can be a difficult truth, that none of us can be such good parents that God becomes obligated to save our children’s souls. Yet, on the more encouraging side, none of us can mess up so badly that our children are somehow beyond the reach of God’s mercy.

If your child seems far from the faith, remember, you may not know where your child is with God, but you do know where God is with your child. God, our Savior, loves your child and wants him to be saved. He wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth (1 Timothy 2:4). So keep praying, and take heart in the faithfulness of God to do all things according to His good and perfect will.

01/22/2026

We must be teachable to understand what grace and mercy look like, even when we feel stretched far beyond what is comfortable or known. We can choose to do our part to keep communication open without compromising our convictions.

As His dearly beloved people, God calls us to reflect the image of His Son in the words we speak to those we love. He doesn't ask us to lie or compromise the Truth in His Word. He only asks that we choose grace toward others in our words.

01/19/2026

"Endurance is not passive..it is defiant!"

01/19/2026

For those who don't know, I have a blog! Check it out for some light reading on various topics.

Blog | Marriage Counseling, Individual Counseling and Christian Counseling

01/19/2026

This experience of the "habitual, silent, and secret conversation" is often when I smile and giggle, though seemingly all alone. May it be more so daily!

Brother Lawrence, from "Practicing the Presence of God."

01/18/2026

Lord, help me to separate myself from anything that draws me away from You. I don’t want to waste valuable time and effort on things that have no value for my life. Reveal to me any way I have done that or am doing it now. Help me to recognize all unworthy distractions that compromise who You have called me to be and all You have for me to do. Enable me to eliminate everything in my life that keeps me from serving You in the way I should.

In Jesus’ name I pray.

Excerpt from “Lead Me, Holy Spirit” by Stormie Omartian

01/18/2026

Someone needs to hear this.

In 2026, You’re Going to Respect Yourself

2026 is not a year for shrinking back, tolerating abuse, or allowing people to mishandle what God has entrusted to you. This is a year where many believers are going to learn something deeply biblical and deeply necessary. You are going to respect yourself.

That statement makes some people uncomfortable, especially in church spaces where humility has been confused with passivity and kindness has been mistaken for self neglect. But respecting yourself is not pride. It is stewardship. If God values you, you do not have the right to treat yourself as worthless or allow others to do so.

Respecting yourself means you do not allow people to speak to you in abusive ways. It means you do not tolerate manipulation, control, intimidation, or spiritual gaslighting. It means you do not stay silent while someone consistently dishonors you, crosses boundaries, or treats you in a way that Scripture clearly condemns.

Here is something many people never realize. When you begin to respect yourself, when you calmly and clearly refuse to be mistreated, most people will stop mistreating you. Abuse often continues because access continues. Disrespect often persists because boundaries are never enforced. When lines are drawn, behavior changes. Not always, but far more often than people expect.

The Bible is clear about how people are to be treated. We are called to love one another, honor one another, and speak truth in love. Abuse does not fit anywhere in that framework. Control is not leadership. Manipulation is not discipleship. Fear driven authority is not godly authority.

Many believers allow themselves to be treated wrongly because they are nice, loyal, patient, or deeply sincere. They want peace. They want unity. They want to be Christlike. But peace at the expense of truth is not biblical peace. Unity that requires you to surrender your dignity is not unity from God.

Jesus Christ loved people perfectly, yet He did not allow Himself to be mishandled. He confronted hypocrisy. He withdrew when necessary. He said no. He did not entrust Himself to those whose hearts were not right. That is not harshness. That is wisdom.

Respecting yourself means establishing boundaries. Boundaries are not walls of bitterness. They are lines of clarity. They define what is acceptable and what is not. They protect what is holy. They guard your heart, your calling, your family, and your assignment.

The fear of the Lord does not mean living in fear of people. Scripture teaches that the fear of man brings a snare. When you fear God rightly, you stop allowing people to play God in your life. You stop confusing obedience to the Lord with submission to abuse.

God does not ask you to endure mistreatment to prove your spirituality. He asks you to walk in truth, humility, courage, and discernment. There is a difference between suffering for righteousness and suffering because you refuse to confront what God has already shown you.

In 2026, many are going to stop explaining away bad behavior. They are going to stop calling dysfunction grace. They are going to stop letting guilt manipulate them into silence. They are going to learn that saying no can be one of the most spiritual words they ever speak.

You can serve the Lord wholeheartedly and still have boundaries.
You can be loving and still be firm.
You can be kind and still say this is not okay.
You can forgive and still not allow continued access.

Respecting yourself is not self centered. It is God honoring. You are made in the image of God. You are bought with a price. You are a steward of your life, not a doormat for someone else’s unresolved issues.

2026 is a year where God is restoring healthy identity to His people. He is teaching them how to walk in authority without arrogance and humility without self destruction.

This is the year you draw the line.
This is the year you stop allowing what God never approved.
This is the year you respect yourself.

And you may be surprised how much changes when you do.