Intima Couples and Sex Therapy

10/14/2025

Here’s the beautiful thing… 💛

When you practice wiring your body for safety outside of conflict,
it becomes so much easier to find that same safety during conflict.

You’ve already shown your nervous system what safety feels like.
So when tension rises, your body remembers —
and it knows how to come back home to calm. 🌿

Because safety isn’t just something you talk about…
It’s something you practice. Every. Single. Day.

🎥 Watch the full video here:
👉 https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

(Conflict & Safety Dynamics | Everyday Therapy with Raquel Perez)

✨ Download your free booklet Creating Safety for Insight — your gentle guide to understanding your nervous system and building emotional safety in your relationships.
🌿 Get it here: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

10/13/2025

Connection isn’t just about what happens during conflict —
it’s about the foundation you’re building every day. 💛

Safety grows in the little things:
☕ Saying “thanks for making my coffee.”
😊 Telling your partner, “I love when you smile at me.”
🤗 A hug before you leave the house.
💬 Checking in at the end of the day.
📵 Setting aside time without phones.

These might feel small, but they’re not.
They’re moments that gently wire your body and your relationship for safety.

Because the truth is — safety isn’t built in the big moments.
It’s built in the small, consistent ones. 🌿

🎥 Watch the full video here:
👉 https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

(Conflict & Safety Dynamics | Everyday Therapy with Raquel Perez)

✨ Download your free booklet Creating Safety for Insight — your gentle guide to building emotional safety and connection in your relationships.
🌿 Get it here: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

10/10/2025

Protection doesn’t always look the same for everyone. 💛

Some people pursue — they lean in, ask questions, and want to talk it out right now.
That’s just their nervous system saying,
“If I can get close, maybe I can stay safe.”

Others withdraw — they get quiet, shut down, or walk away.
And that’s their nervous system saying,
“If I can reduce the conflict, maybe I can stay safe.”

Neither one is wrong.
They’re both survival strategies — just different ways our bodies try to protect us.

Which category do you feel like you fall into?

🎥 Watch the full video here:
👉 https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

(Conflict & Safety Dynamics | Everyday Therapy with Raquel Perez)

✨ Download your free booklet Creating Safety for Insight — a gentle guide to understanding your nervous system and building emotional safety in your relationships.
🌿 Get it here: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

10/10/2025

Breaking Silence, Finding Healing - My story of growing up Latina, shame, and reclaiming s*xuality—with tools to begin healing.

A Latina therapist shares her story of silence, shame, and queerness—and offers gentle tools for healing, reclaiming s*xuality, and creating safety for insight.

10/09/2025

Sometimes it’s not just you and your partner talking —
it’s two nervous systems colliding. 💥

That’s why even small arguments can feel so big.
It’s not about the dishwasher…
it’s about safety.

Here’s the secret most people miss:
You can’t connect if your body doesn’t feel safe.
When your nervous system senses danger,
your brain turns off the parts that let you listen, empathize, and stay open.

You’re not being stubborn or cold —
you’re being protective.
And your body is doing its job. 💛

🎥 Watch the full video here:
👉https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

(Conflict & Safety Dynamics | Everyday Therapy with Raquel Perez)

✨ Download your free booklet Creating Safety for Insight — a gentle guide to understanding your nervous system and creating safety within yourself and your relationships.
🌿 Get it here: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

10/08/2025

It’s not about the dishes.
It’s about safety.
Every argument is your nervous system saying, “I don’t feel safe right now.”

When we can see protection instead of just reaction,
conflict begins to soften—
and connection becomes possible again. 💛

🎥 Watch the full video:
👉 https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

(“Conflict & Safety Dynamics | Everyday Therapy with Raquel Perez”)

✨ Follow for more ways to create safety for insight.
🌿 Download your free Creating Safety for Insight booklet —https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

10/07/2025

When conflict shows up in a relationship, what you’re really seeing is two nervous systems trying to stay protected.

💡 Our bodies have one priority above all else—survival.
And just like in the wild, it’s true in our living rooms too.

When your partner raises their voice, looks away, or even sighs a certain way, your body can register that as danger. Without realizing it, both of you quickly shift into protection mode.

✨ The good news? Once you understand this, you can start creating safety instead of distance.

👉 Watch the full video here: https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

📖 And for deeper guidance, download my free booklet Creating Sacred Spaces for Insight—a gentle resource for building safety and connection in your relationships: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

*xTherapy

10/06/2025

Do you ever feel like you and your partner are speaking two completely different languages?
💔 The conversation ends in silence, withdrawal, or even another argument.
💔 It feels like you’re fighting about dishes or bills, but underneath—you’re really fighting to stay protected.

When couples understand this, connection starts to feel possible again.

✨ Watch the full video here for more on breaking these cycles: https://youtu.be/u60N7t29nZ0

📖 Want to go deeper? Download my free booklet Creating Sacred Spaces for Insight—a guide to building safety and connection in your relationships: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

*xTherapy

10/03/2025

S*x is only one piece of intimacy—not the whole picture.
💡 Affection, safety, play, touch, and laughter all help fuel desire over the long term.

When couples broaden their view of intimacy, connection deepens—and desire has space to return naturally.

✨ Watch the full video here for more insights on building lasting intimacy: https://youtu.be/O_NaVKMEa7w
📖 For a deeper guide, download my free booklet Creating Sacred Spaces for Insight—your resource for building safety and connection in your relationships: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

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10/03/2025

🌿 Shame around s*x and pleasure runs deep—yet it isn’t who you are. So many of us were taught that our desires were wrong, that our bodies were too much, or that intimacy was something to hide. But healing is possible. 💫 This Reclaiming Pleasure Meditation is a soft, guided practice to help you meet shame with compassion, reconnect with your body, and reclaim your worthiness for intimacy and joy. ✨ Read the full post here: [Insert Link] ✨ Watch the guided meditation on YouTube: ✨ Download your free guide Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight: Your pleasure is sacred. Your healing is unfolding. 💜

Discover a soft guided meditation to release s*xual shame, reclaim intimacy, and reconnect with your body through safety, compassion, and healing.

10/02/2025

Identity struggles around intimacy are so common—
💔 The higher libido partner often feels like they’re too much.
💔 The lower libido partner often feels like they’re not enough.

This cycle can leave both partners questioning themselves and their relationship. But mismatched desire isn’t about failure—it’s an opportunity to understand each other more deeply. With safety and communication, intimacy can grow again.

✨ Watch the full video here for more on breaking free from this cycle: https://youtu.be/O_NaVKMEa7w

📖 Want a deeper resource? Download my free booklet Creating Sacred Spaces for Insight—a gentle guide to building safety and connection in your relationships: https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

*xTherapy

10/01/2025

“Intimacy ≠ just s*x.”
It’s also the way you laugh together, feel safe with each other, and share touch and play.
That’s what keeps desire alive—not pressure.

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