Intima Couples and Sex Therapy

01/07/2026

✨ “Healing showed up in the space between.” ✨

This week, I noticed something important.
I didn’t go as far into the spiral as I usually do.

Yes — the thoughts still came up.
Yes — the old fears still whispered.
But they didn’t take over.
They didn’t swallow me whole.

I felt myself come back sooner.
Breathe sooner.
Remember love sooner. 🌿

And that’s when it landed for me:
healing isn’t about never spiraling.
It’s about the difference
between the trigger
and the return.

This week, that distance was shorter.

As a therapist, I often remind people that progress
doesn’t mean the absence of fear or old patterns.
It means your nervous system learns how to find its way back —
with less force, less time, and more compassion.

If you’ve noticed yourself recovering a little faster lately,
softening sooner,
or remembering safety more quickly —
that matters.
Those moments are signs that healing is taking root.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

01/06/2026

✨ “Both things can be true.” ✨

This week, in my relationship of four years with my girlfriend,
we shared moments that felt deeply loving and connecting —
the kind that make you feel seen and safe. 🌿

And we also had moments that turned completely upside down.

Because both of us carry wounds.
Both of us have protective patterns.
And sometimes, that old dance shows up.

As a therapist, I talk often about how healing doesn’t mean the absence of rupture.
It means recognizing what’s happening while it’s happening —
seeing the pattern instead of becoming it,
and remembering that protection once served a purpose.

What felt different this time
wasn’t that the hard moments didn’t exist —
it was that they didn’t mean something was wrong.

If you’re in a relationship where love and difficulty coexist,
you’re not failing.
You’re human.
And often, those moments are invitations
to bring more awareness, compassion, and safety into the connection.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

01/05/2026

✨ “This is the kind of love my inner child was waiting for.” ✨

This week, I noticed myself thanking my body
in ways I hadn’t before.

Thanking it for carrying me through —
even during the times when I didn’t make things very easy.

I’ll be honest…
it felt new.
A little strange.
And also really, really beautiful. 🌿

I’ve spent most of my life not fully knowing
what it feels like to genuinely appreciate me.
But this week, I caught myself loving myself
in tiny, gentle ways —
small moments of care, gratitude, and softness.

And that’s when it clicked:
this is the work my inner child had been waiting for.

As a therapist, I often talk about healing
as something relational and embodied.
This was a reminder that it begins
when we stop asking our bodies to prove their worth
and start meeting them with appreciation instead.

If you’ve noticed yourself softening lately —
treating yourself with more kindness than before —
that matters.
Those small moments of self-regard
are often where deep healing truly begins.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

01/02/2026

✨ “Healing met me in stillness.” ✨

Another moment happened during my morning yoga —
something I had just started returning to again.

I moved through the flow the way I normally do.
Nothing dramatic.
Nothing visibly different.

But at the end, something inside me had shifted. 🌿

Instead of thinking about everything I needed to get done
or rushing to fold up my mat and move on with the day,
I stayed.

I laid there.
I held myself.
And I felt this wave of gratitude —
of love for myself.

As a therapist, I often talk about how healing
doesn’t always come through effort or pushing.
Sometimes it arrives in pause.
In presence.
In allowing ourselves to receive the care
we so freely offer others.

If you’ve noticed moments like this —
where you don’t rush past yourself,
where you linger with what feels nourishing —
those moments matter.
They’re often signs that something inside you
is learning it’s safe to rest, to soften, to be.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

01/02/2026

Rebuilding Intimacy After Hurt - After betrayal or heartbreak, intimacy can feel unsafe — even when love is still there. This piece explores how trust and connection return through gentleness, safety, and care.

When intimacy feels unsafe after betrayal or heartbreak, your body may be protecting you. Learn how s*xual trust heals through nervous-system safety, s*x therapy, couples work, and gentle reconnection.

01/01/2026

✨ “This is what softening actually looks like.” ✨

Cleaning didn’t feel like a punishment.
It didn’t feel like another chore to push through.

In that moment, it became an act of care —
a way of tending to myself
the same way I would tend to someone I deeply love. 🌿

That’s when it clicked for me:
this is what softening looks like.

Not one big transformation.
Not a dramatic breakthrough.
But small, quiet moments
where love begins to replace pressure.

As a therapist, I often talk about healing as something embodied.
This was a reminder that it shows up
in how we treat ourselves when no one is watching,
in the tone we use internally,
in whether care comes from force or from love.

If you’ve noticed moments like this —
where something ordinary suddenly feels gentler —
they matter.
They’re often signs that your nervous system
is beginning to feel safer.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/31/2025

✨ “Healing showed up in the most ordinary moment.” ✨

The first place I noticed something was different
was during something as ordinary as cleaning my house.

Normally, I push right through it —
overwhelmed, annoyed, and exhausted before I even begin.

But this time, something shifted.
It wasn’t coming from pressure or obligation.
It was coming from love. 🌿

I caught myself thinking,
I love myself so much.
I deserve a clean, orderly space to live my life in.

And that thought stopped me right in my tracks.

As a therapist, I often talk about how healing
doesn’t always show up in big emotional moments.
Sometimes it shows up in self-regard.
In care.
In the way we treat ourselves when no one else is watching.

If you’ve noticed yourself doing something differently lately —
with more gentleness, more patience, more respect —
that matters.
Those moments are often signs that something inside you
is beginning to feel safer and more worthy of care.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/30/2025

✨ “Healing shows up first in everyday life.” ✨

This week taught me something important.
When healing begins to take root,
your everyday life is often the first place you see it.

Last week, I shared a moment where my inner child came forward —
a moment that felt like a doorway opening.
I held her.
I loved her.
And something inside me shifted. 🌿

What I didn’t realize at the time
was just how far-reaching that moment would be.

It wasn’t until the days began to pass
that I noticed it —
in how I moved through my life,
in how my body responded,
in the quiet, ordinary moments that followed.

As a therapist, I often remind clients
that healing doesn’t stay contained to a single insight.
When safety is created inside the body,
it ripples outward —
into relationships, daily rhythms, and how we meet the world.

If you’ve had a moment of insight or emotional release
and wondered whether it “really mattered,”
this is your reminder:
healing often reveals itself afterward,
in the way life begins to feel a little different.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/29/2025

✨ “Have you ever had a week where something just feels… different?” ✨

Not in a big, dramatic way.
Not a breakthrough you can point to.
But in the smallest things.

The way you speak to yourself.
The way you move through your day.
The way you feel inside your own skin —
just a little softer than before. 🌿

This week, I noticed old defenses in me beginning to soften.
And it didn’t show up in big moments —
it showed up in the ordinary ones.
That’s how I knew healing was happening
in ways I hadn’t even expected.

As a therapist, I often remind clients that healing
doesn’t always announce itself loudly.
Sometimes it whispers.
Sometimes it shows up as gentleness, ease, or presence
where there used to be tension.

If you’ve had moments like this —
small, quiet shifts that are easy to overlook —
they matter.
They’re often signs that something inside you
is finally feeling a little safer.

Hi there, if we haven’t met yet —
I’m Raquel Perez, a licensed therapist in Colorado
and the creator of Everyday Therapy.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/26/2025

✨ “Safety is the foundation for insight.” ✨

One of the most important parts of healing
is having a space where your body feels safe enough
to slow down, soften, and reflect.

That’s why I created my free booklet, Sacred Spaces. 🌿

It’s designed to help you create your own space at home —
a space where you don’t have to perform, explain, or protect…
a space where self-reflection, emotional safety,
and insight can naturally unfold.

So much of healing doesn’t happen through effort or pushing.
It happens when the nervous system finally feels supported enough
to be honest, curious, and present.

If you’re longing for a place — internally or externally —
where you can reconnect with yourself
and explore your inner world with gentleness,
this booklet is for you.

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

12/26/2025

Releasing Walls of Protection | A Meditation for Trust - If trust feels hard after heartbreak or betrayal, this gentle, therapist-guided meditation offers grounding, safety, and compassion.

A trauma-informed guided meditation by therapist Raquel Perez to help rebuild trust, soften emotional protection, and create nervous system safety.

12/25/2025

✨ “Healing didn’t mean being finished — it meant beginning to trust love.” ✨

I can’t sit here and say that I’ve completely healed my inner child.
That wouldn’t be honest.

But I can say that something inside of me has begun to trust love again. 🌿

And for me, that’s where healing truly began —
not in perfection,
not in resolution,
but in the moment love finally felt safe enough to feel.

Healing isn’t about erasing the past or arriving at some final version of ourselves.
It’s about creating enough safety in the body
that we no longer have to brace against connection.

As a therapist, I see this again and again:
when love starts to feel safe — even just a little —
something fundamental begins to shift.
The nervous system softens.
Protection loosens.
Presence becomes possible.

If you’re on a healing journey and it feels unfinished,
this is your reminder:
beginning to trust love again is healing.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet