02/28/2024
Back when I used to do my workouts in a gym, I looked forward to mid-February because that was when the crowds thinned out and I could get back to using any piece of equipment I wanted.
These days, I work out at home. During one of my recent workouts, I found myself wondering⦠What caused all those people to give up their fitness goals just a month or two into the new year?
Itās a common phenomenon: People set goals they feel good about, and yet in just a few weeks or months, they feel down about those goals and disappointed in themselves.
If thatās happening to you, know youāre not alone! You might be starting to feel your motivation slip, and you may feel stuck and a little disappointed. Itās perfectly normal, and luckily, there IS a way to turn it around so you can still feel good about yourself and the year ahead!
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Do the goals that you set still feel aligned with what you really want? Are they realistic and attainable? If your answer is ānoā to any of those three things, then letās do a little fine-tuning.
First off, if your goal no longer feels aligned, it may be time to drop the goal and choose another thatās more meaningful. For example, someone with a weight loss goal might really feel better with a goal to just feel better in her body and have more energy. So alignment is the first thing to look at.
Now, if your goal doesnāt feel realistic or attainable, but you still want it, then itās time to explore whether the goal needs to be broken down further. A goal will never feel attainable or realistic if you feel overwhelmed whenever you think about it.
For example, if your goal is to give up sugar, you might find yourself thinking about the sweet treats youāre craving all the time and wondering if itās even worth it. A kinder approach to take with yourself is to set a smaller, more achievable goal like this: This week, I will limit my sugar to once a day. Do you see how this is measurable and time-limited? Itās easy to know whether youāre meeting this goal and there is an end in sight.
This doesnāt mean youāll go back to your old way at the end of the week⦠it just means you can evaluate whatās working and what isnāt! Then you can set another goal ā whether itās time to increase the challenge, decrease the challenge, or keep at it for another week. And of course, celebrate your effort at the end of the week!
Also, please donāt think you have to have done it perfectly to celebrate. We tend to focus on all the ways we fall short, but itās much more helpful to think about all the things we did right and give ourselves a pat on the back.
Part of this is about self-compassion, and self-compassion comes from breaking out of all-or-nothing thinking. Life is often challenging, and *nobody* is perfect. But acknowledging yourself for striving for better self-care, and for taking steps that are positive and meaningful to you even when you donāt do them perfectly, is a major part of creating a year thatās happier and healthier.