02/22/2023
CW: S*xual Assult and S*x Work
(1/2)
This post is longer than expected so I'm breaking it into 2 parts!
So there is something very personal and vulnerable I wana talk about.
If you are a massage therapist, I genuinely hope you read this and CAN'T relate.... though alot of you unfortunately will read this and know exactly what I'm talking about.
First I want to make sure I say that this is NOT at all a post talking poorly about s*x workers. I personally believe s*x work should be legal so the people can have the best care and rights for the work they do! If I say anything in this post that's offensive to s*x workers, please know that's not my intention and please message me directly to educate me if that feels right!
With that being said...
Licensed Massage Therapists are not s*x workers. As a society can we please stop s*xualizing this profession. In my experience, it has put me in dangerous situations just because I'm trying to do my job.
I will say that I may be a little more sensitive on this topic than others and I know my experience is not everyone's.
When I was one week into my internship as a massage therapist I was s*xually assulted by a client who claimed they were also a massage therapist (and a lawyer đ¤ˇââď¸). This is a whole ass story on its own. But the result of that caused me to have a tainted and more sensitive view on Massage Therapy moving forward. During my internship there were countless ways I was asked for services that I don't offer.
The one I got alot which made me feel the most unsafe was what I called "the reach". I'd have clients act as if they were stretching and reach to touch MY body. To the point where I'd have to stand up and stop massaging to move out of the way if their hands throughout the massage.
Or the one where the client just wanted a 90 minute massage, of feather light pressure, just on the legs... and everytime I'd massage up the legs he'd push *himself* towards my hands. Which was one of the few times I cut a massage short.
I'd get asked to give "manual release".
I'd have people leave LARGE amounts of money on the table seeing what they could get for price
I'd have people straight up ask for hand jobs... some would take it well and some wouldn't.
I'd go and clean up after a client with... fluids... left on the sheets.
I'd get the "joke"... What about a happy ending?... followed by I'm just kidding... followed by the look of *unless you'd do it*.
I'd get people who, while on my table, would make a reference to Seinfeld and say "it moved"... and then explain to me what they were talking about as if I hadn't heard that "joke" a million times.
And all of that was JUST in my 3 months of internship where I wasn't even getting paid.
**these pictures are from my graduation/ me during my internship**