Jenée Wilson, MS, LLPC, SST - A New Day CCC

03/31/2026

Maybe you were never broken… just hurting. And there’s a difference. Broken feels like something needs to be thrown away. But hurting… means something needs to be cared for. ❤️

God doesn’t look at you and see something to fix... He sees someone to heal. Someone to restore. Someone to gently bring back to wholeness. So if you’ve been hard on yourself lately, take a breath… You’re not beyond repair. You’re in the middle of healing. And God is patient with every step of it. 🙏 We’ve created devotionals and peaceful worship to help you slow down, heal deeply, and stay grounded in God’s love through every season. Worship + devotionals in bio.

What does healing look like for you right now?

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03/27/2026

Do you really know what a narcissist is?

Social media throws the word around like it means “selfish” or “a jerk.” But that is not accurate, and it matters.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is someone with a long term pattern of inflated self importance, a strong drive for success and recognition, a constant need for admiration, a lack of empathy.

They will probably never admit you or anyone else in their life are wrong. They NEED to be the most important person in their personal and work life because it comes from in inner insecurity that produces rage when they believe someone points it out.

Let’s be honest. We all have narcissistic tendencies at times. That is part of being human. But not everyone who hurts you, acts selfish, manipulates, or gaslights is a narcissist. Sometimes they are people with unhealthy coping skills, poor communication, or emotional immaturity.

Overusing the word creates a blame game, labels people too quickly, and pulls focus away from what actually matters, your ability to understand yourself, recognize your needs, and respond accordingly.

Instead of asking “Are they a narcissist?” ask yourself, do they respect me, do they take accountability, and do I feel safe, heard, and valued. If the answer is no, you do not need a diagnosis to justify your feelings. You need clarity, self awareness, and the confidence to honor your needs with healthy boundaries.

03/25/2026

When you look back on your life, does it feel like people were kinder, society had stronger morals, and everything seemed a little less stressful?

That feeling is very common. But what if your brain is not telling you the full truth? Not because it is trying to deceive you, but because of how memory actually works. Your brain does not store memories like a recording. It rebuilds them over time. And during that process, the difficult parts often fade while the positive parts remain easier to access.

Psychologists call this the positivity effect. As people age, they become more likely to remember positive experiences and less likely to focus on negative ones. Stressful moments, conflict, and uncertainty do not disappear, but they lose their emotional intensity. There is also something called fading affect bias. Negative emotions attached to memories weaken faster than positive ones. Over time, even difficult periods can feel calmer and more manageable than they really were.

Nostalgia adds another layer. It reshapes the past into something that feels meaningful and coherent. It highlights connection, belonging, and simpler moments, while leaving out much of the tension that was present at the time. So when you think that people were nicer, or that society had better morals, or that life was less stressful, you may not be remembering the past as it actually was. You may be remembering a version that has been gradually edited.

Every period has had conflict, stress, and uncertainty. The difference is that you are experiencing the present in real time, without the benefit of that editing process. Over time, your brain edits your past into a cleaner, more meaningful story, often removing messy or negative details.

Make the most of today. Create moments worth remembering, because those are what your mind carries forward into tomorrow. As we get older, the brain holds on more to what feels meaningful and what we truly notice. This is your advantage. You have the perspective to recognize what matters and the ability to choose where your attention goes. So be present, appreciate where you are, and let today count.

03/22/2026

Lately, I have been thinking about how much our focus shapes our reality.

Research in positive psychology shows that when we intentionally look for the good, such as small wins, kind moments, and things going right, it actually changes how our brains work. Through neuroplasticity, we begin to notice more of those things automatically.

This does not mean ignoring the hard parts of life. Life is still challenging. But it does mean we do not let the negative be the only thing that gets our attention.

Studies, including the work of Martin Seligman, have found that simple habits, such as writing down a few good things each day, can improve happiness and reduce stress over time.

It reminds me of the movie Pollyanna and the idea of the “glad game.” At first, it can feel unrealistic, like something made for Hollywood. But what stands out is the ripple effect. One person choosing to look for the good begins to influence how they speak, how they respond, and how they treat others. That shift spreads. It lifts conversations, strengthens relationships, and can even change the tone of a home or community.

So what does it actually look like to play the glad game?

It is simple, but not always easy.

When something disappointing or frustrating happens, pause and ask:
What is something I can still be glad about here?

Sometimes it is small.
You missed an opportunity, but you learned something.
A plan fell through, but you gained time.
A hard day reminded you what really matters.

The goal is not to pretend everything is good. The goal is to train your mind to notice what is still good, even when things are not perfect.

Over time, this becomes a habit. And that habit shapes your mindset, your relationships, and the energy you bring into every space.

03/22/2026

Some of the kindest people you’ll ever meet are quietly fighting battles you know nothing about. Yet they still choose to help others. They still choose kindness. They still choose love. That kind of love is rare… and beautiful.

03/12/2026

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03/11/2026

Why Do We Argue - And Can We Actually Stop?

Have you ever said something like, “You made me so angry I couldn't help it" or defended an argument by calling it passion?

Most of us believe anger just happens to us. But the science suggests something different.

Anger Isn't Automatic

Research in cognitive neuroscience shows that between a trigger and a response, there is a small gap. In that gap lives choice. Your prefrontal cortex — the part of your brain responsible for reasoning and self-control — doesn’t simply shut off when you're upset. More often, we override it. In other words, anger may feel automatic, but we are usually participating in it.

Proof You Already Know This

The Phone Ring Test

Have you ever been in the middle of an argument when your phone rings — and suddenly it’s your boss, your mom, or your pastor? In less than a second, your entire demeanor changes. Your tone softens. Your words become measured. No cool-down period. No breathing exercise. Just an instant shift. That moment reveals something important: you had control the whole time.

The Pre-Planned Fight

Sometimes the argument doesn’t even start in the moment. We rehearse it beforehand. We replay conversations in our heads. We build our case. By the time the discussion happens, we’ve already decided it’s going to be a fight. But the same mind that can rehearse conflict can also rehearse patience, curiosity, and understanding.

So What Can We Do Instead?

A few simple shifts can change the entire direction of a conversation:

Lead with curiosity, not accusation.

Start with a question instead of a verdict.

Listen to understand, not to reload your next point.

Most arguments continue because no one feels heard.

Know yourself first.

Your triggers often say more about your history than about someone else's intentions.

Stop personalizing everything. Other people’s flaws are rarely a private plot against you.

Name what you actually need. We have not mastered mind reading yet. If something matters to you, say it.

Choose the relationship over the win.
Arguments rarely produce winners, usually just two people who feel worse.

Pause before you pour. Ask yourself: What do I actually want from this conversation?

The Real Goal. The goal isn’t to eliminate conflict. Conflict is part of being human.
The real goal is how we treat each other when tension shows up. Healthy relationships aren’t built by people who never disagree. They’re built by people who practice humility, patience, and empathy when they do. People who slow down before they react. People who care more about understanding than proving a point. People who remember that the person across from them matters more than the moment they’re in.

Arguments can tear relationships apart.
But handled differently, those same moments can deepen trust, strengthen respect, and remind us that at the end of every disagreement is still another human being.

Closing Note

For some people, anger may be connected to a diagnosable condition that deserves professional care. Others may need support learning healthier ways to manage their reactions. And many of us already have the capacity. We simply need to be more intentional in how we show up during difficult moments.

If anger feels hard to manage or is affecting your relationships, speaking with a qualified health professional can help you better understand what is happening and explore helpful treatment or support options.

03/06/2026

Maybe in a more supportive message, but still a good one. Failure should be replaced with learning. It is what makes us grow. ❤️

03/06/2026

03/02/2026

“You have changed.”

No, I healed.
I learned what love is and what it is not.
I grew.
I stopped accepting confusion as affection.
I set boundaries without guilt.
I stopped settling for half love.
I chose peace over chaos.
I walked away when I had to.
I forgave for my own freedom.
I remembered my worth.
I raised my standards quietly.
I put myself first with respect.
I love myself better now.
I am softer but stronger.
I do not chase. I attract what aligns.

So yes, I look different to you. Because I am no longer the version of me that accepted less. I did not change. I evolved into the woman who finally knows her value.💙

02/21/2026

Are you valuable? Let's ask Socrates.

Characters:

Socrates – the philosopher

The Opposer – a person who believes they have no value

Opposer: Socrates, you waste your time speaking with me. I am not valuable. Some people matter — I do not.

Socrates: That is a serious claim, my friend. Tell me, what is it to be valuable as a human?

Opposer: To be useful. To be admired. To achieve something great. I have done none of these.

Socrates: So you say that value depends on usefulness or achievement?

Opposer: Yes. Surely that is obvious.

Socrates: Then let us examine this. Is a newborn child valuable?

Opposer: Of course.

Socrates: Yet the child has achieved nothing and is not useful in the way you describe. Why, then, is the child valuable?

Opposer: Because the child has potential.

Socrates: Potential for what?

Opposer: For becoming something worthwhile.

Socrates: And you, do you lack potential?

Opposer: I… perhaps I have wasted it.

Socrates: Wasted entirely? Or merely not yet realized in the way you hoped?

Opposer: I have failed often.

Socrates: Does failure erase potential, or does it merely accompany learning?

Opposer: It feels as though it erases it.

Socrates: Feelings are powerful, but let us ask what is true. If two people fail equally, does one lose their humanity while the other keeps it?

Opposer: No, they would both still be human.

Socrates: Then humanity does not vanish with failure?

Opposer: No.

Socrates: And is being human the condition by which we speak of “human value”?

Opposer: I suppose so.

Socrates: Then tell me — if value belongs to us because we are human, and you are human, how do you escape that value?

Opposer: Perhaps not all humans are equal. Some are wiser, stronger, kinder.

Socrates: Are they more skilled, or more human?

Opposer: More skilled, I suppose.

Socrates: When a runner is faster than another, do we say the slower one is less human?

Opposer: No.

Socrates: Then differences in ability do not alter the amount of humanity one possesses.

Opposer: It seems not.

Socrates: Consider this further. If value is measured by comparison, then the least skilled person would have none at all. But even the least skilled person still thinks, feels pain, hopes, and fears — do they not?

Opposer: Yes.

Socrates: And are those experiences trivial?

Opposer: No. They are deeply real.

Socrates: Then the capacity to experience — to reason, to suffer, to love — is present in each person?

Opposer: Yes.

Socrates: And is this capacity not what makes us human?

Opposer: It is.

Socrates: Then unless you deny that you think, feel, and reason, you must admit you possess the same essential nature as any other person.

Opposer: I cannot deny that.

Socrates: So your claim is not that you are less human, but that you are less accomplished.

Opposer: That sounds more accurate.

Socrates: And accomplishment, we have agreed, does not determine humanity.

Opposer: No.

Socrates: Then perhaps you have confused performance with worth.

Opposer: It seems I have.

Socrates: Tell me, would you say that a lyre has no value because it has not yet been played beautifully?

Opposer: No, it still has the capacity to produce music.

Socrates: And if the lyre strings are out of tune, do we destroy it, or do we tune it?

Opposer: We tune it.

Socrates: Then why treat yourself more harshly than an instrument?

Opposer: I… I had not considered that.

Socrates: My friend, equality in value does not mean equality in talent or outcome. It means that the fundamental condition of being human — the capacity for reason and experience — is shared by all. No one has more of that essence than another.

Opposer: Then my failures do not subtract from my humanity?

Socrates: They may shape your character, but they do not erase your worth. If value depended on perfection, none of us would qualify.

Opposer: Not even you, Socrates?

Socrates: Least of all me. I know only that I know nothing.

Opposer: Then perhaps I have mistaken my current state for my entire being.

Socrates: A common error. You are not your latest failure. You are a reasoning, feeling being — as worthy of dignity as any king or philosopher.

Opposer: I cannot easily dismiss your reasoning.

Socrates: Good. Let us continue questioning until what remains is truth rather than self-judgment.

Opposer: Then perhaps I am not without value after all.

02/15/2026

Neuroscience fun fact: By Daniel Pink
Complaining, judging, or criticizing doesn’t just drag others down
it literally rewires your brain to make you less focused and less effective.
Here’s why:

1. Hebb’s Law: Neurons that fire together, wire together.
Complain often, and you train your brain to see more problems—while missing solutions.

2. Chronic negativity shrinks the prefrontal cortex.
That’s the part of your brain responsible for focus, decision-making, and emotional regulation.

You weaken your problem-solving center while strengthening your problem-spotting one.

3. And yes, research shows complaining makes you less attractive.
Not just socially but neurologically.
Because negativity narrows. Positivity expands.

The inverse is true.
Gratitude and optimism strengthen the prefrontal cortex.
Every time you speak or type, you’re training your brain.
Train it for abundance, not lack.
Because you don’t get what you want in life…
you get what your brain is wired for.

Citation: Servaas, M. N., Riese, H., Renken, R. J., Marsman, J. B., Lambregs, J., Ormel, J., & Aleman, A. (2013). The effect of criticism on functional brain connectivity and associations with neuroticism. PloS one, 8(7), e69606.

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