07/25/2025
Is there anyone you know who always seems to attract the same relationship issues with different partners? Or who starts new jobs with great excitement, only to find familiar problems disguised in new situations? Life has a unique way of teaching lessons. When we have something to learn or work on, the same pattern will repeat itself until we either learn the lesson or find a healing approach to deal with it.
Though the tendency is to blame other people, the truth is we take ourselves wherever we go. The “issues” are usually not in the surroundings; they are that we are trying to heal childhood wounds (feelings of not being enough, not being supported, not being seen) through new interactions.
The good news is that life will continue to provide us with opportunities to grow, to heal and to evolve.
When we can observe our emotions (how am I feeling - give it a name - and how can I choose to better respond)
when we honor our intuition (I am feeling __ for a reason - I need to ___)
we develop new ways to recognize patterns and gently move forward.
Awareness is always the first step.
The key is to be alert. When you're willing to recognize a pattern, you can change it by being open to the lesson, supporting yourself, and changing your life in the process.
“What we call chaos is just patterns we haven’t recognized. What we call random is just patterns we can’t decipher.” ~Chuck Palahniuk
Comment a đź’š if you are starting to look at the patterns in your life.