10/06/2025
William James, the Father of American Psychology said it best: “We do not sing because we are happy. We are happy because we sing.” And Emerson wrote: “Do the thing, and you will have the power. But they who do not the thing have not the power.” The message? Don’t wait until you feel “good” to do something. Do it, and THEN you will feel good. Last week, after a difficult, long day of seeing patients, I wanted nothing more than climb into bed, shut the door, and turn off the light. The problem, was that my friend Ofer, and his team of volunteers were on their way to my house to help build our Sukkah, a temporary hut/dwelling, made of wood with palm leaves for a roof, for the Holiday of Sukkot (The Festival of Tabernacles). We have paid hundreds of dollars previously to have someone construct it and hundreds more to take it down. Ofer and his friends do not accept or desire payment, but request a small donation made to our synagogue. Amazing. And I knew that what I really needed in order to feel better, wasn’t becoming a recluse, or sleep, but was to do the thing that I didn’t feel good enough to do, but knew once I was engaged in it that, I would feel great. And that is what happened. No prescription, no co-pay, no potential side effects, no time spent sitting in a waiting room, but engaging in a worthy project with friends who sought not payment, but to do a service that would benefit other people. Try it! We are a curious species, indeed. When we find ourselves engaged in a project, building something, creating something, and working towards a worthy goal, we are at our best, and least susceptible to depression. Do not wait until you feel good to get started, for perhaps, you will never feel good enough to start. Thank you again Ofer Simani, Simon Simani, Ilan Aberman, and Ariel Tehrani for your generous help.
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Tziporah Simani
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