03/10/2026
Sometimes love is middle of the night footsies around a sleeping baby.
I subconsciously search for my hubby during the night for safety, connection, reassurance. But if I sleep more soundly knowing my husband is close, as a grown woman with a fully developed frontal lobe and honed self regulation skills - how could I expect my baby to need anything less.
To us, supporting this attachment is beneficial in multiple ways and I couldn’t imagine it any different.
Our baby has known this closeness through growing within my body, to now exploring the world beyond it.
It’s not a bad habit.
It’s not ruining my relationship.
We don’t need to train biology.
There’s no perfect way, as long as we lean into what feels right.
And really, who benefits from me battling my intuition?
So our game of nighttime footsies feels reassuring in more ways than one.
We thrive through this connection as babies and continue searching for it as adults.