10/30/2024
Dearest friends, family, and community,
I’m sitting on my living room floor, writing with much on my heart.
I remember being a child and standing in front of the mirror, shirtless and flexing. As an adult, the first time I put on a binder I almost cried. I couldn’t believe how much I had longed for having a flat chest, until I saw it—the pure joy of seeing my true self reflected back to me. At that moment, I knew I wanted to get top surgery and have been waiting for the right time to realize the version of myself I saw in the mirror.
In September I met with Dr. Aldridge, a Lawrence based surgeon, for a consultation. I was blown away by the care she provided; she took the time to answer all my questions, discuss every single option, and was kind and affirming. Last week surgery was pre-approved by my insurance, and now it’s scheduled for November 25, 2024. I will turn 40 on November 13th, 2024. This is an unbelievable gift to receive as I enter a new decade cycle.
I’m in pre-hab right now, preparing my body for both surgery and recovery. Recovery will take between 6-12 weeks before I am ready to attend births again.
As an independent midwife, single parent, and the sole breadwinner for my family, I’m accustomed to riding the seasonal waves of life even if it means greater financial strain. I’m grateful to find myself in a slower season now. With fewer clients this Winter I have been able to schedule surgery and a full period for recovery.
While insurance is covering a good chunk of the surgery, I still need communal support to cover out-of-pocket costs; such as my sister’s plane ticket to come take care of me, the cost of rent, groceries, food delivery, childcare, and extra items for personal care needed during recovery.
I need $5500 total:
Out-of-pocket surgery cost: $1500
Rent and bills: $1500
Groceries and meals: $1000
Childcare: $500
Personal care: $500
Plane ticket: $500
When I had a hysterectomy last year I was blown away and completely humbled by the people that showed up to bring me food, do chores, or help with my kids. I have spent much of my life feeling like I can and should do things on my own, so I’m filled with gratitude and tenderness knowing I have a community I can reach out to and ask for help. I also feel vulnerable because receiving support can be difficult too.
Dearest friends, family, and community, I’m sitting on my living room floor, writing with mu… sus jones needs your support for Top Surgery Support for Sus
