Lawrenceburg Anderson Mentors Program

05/11/2023

05/11/2023

04/05/2023

🍌🍌Recipe 🍌🍌 https://grumpyshoneybunch.com/banana-crumb-muffins/
These Banana Crumb Muffins are so delicious! Light and fluffy with a sweet brown sugar crumb!

04/05/2023

ℹ🌿 MANAGING ABANDONMENT DEPRESSION IN COMPLEX PTSD | BY PETE WALKER

Here is a map of the layering of defensive reactions to the underlying feelings of abandonment typically found in Complex PTSD. This territory is best viewed through unwinding the dynamics of emotional flashbacks. Flashbacks are at the deepest level painful layers of reactions - physiological, emotional, cognitive, and behavioral - to the reemerging despair of the childhood abandonment depression. One very common flashback-scenario occurs as follows: Internal or external perceptions of possible abandonment trigger fear and shame, which then activates panicky Inner Critic cognitions, which in turn launches an adrenalized fight, flight, freeze or fawn trauma response (subsequently referred to as the 4F's). The 4F's correlate respectively with narcissistic, obsessive-compulsive, dissociative or codependent defensive reactions.

Read fully article:
http://pete-walker.com/managingAbandonDepression.htm

04/05/2023

Wow that is truly love thy neighbors

04/05/2023

04/05/2023

04/01/2023

Have a wonderful month! 😊❤

04/01/2023

I've grieved so much.
Years of grieving.
Grieving everything I didn't have.
Grieving never having a good childhood.
Grieving the good mum and dad I didn't have.
Grieving all the abuse.
Grieving my poor health.
Grieving what I've lost.
It's very painful and I validate that for anyone else grieving.
As painful as it is, you can't heal without it.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
💜
Healing From Complex Trauma and Ptsd/cptsd

04/01/2023

Be happy!

03/05/2023

I am my own best friend.

I am done being my own worst enemy.

I listen to the screams and dreams and echoes she makes.

The Notice Me Please,
This Needs Attention!

and the

That Hurt Hasn't Been Healed Yet! Please Work On That now!

I carefully tend to her. Speak softly and reassure her. Lay my hands flat on her flaws and insecurities and call her

Lovely.
Beloved.
Beautiful.

I breath in and out with quiet intention and marvel at what she has survived.

I celebrate her becoming.

She is worth celebrating.

I know what she's been through. I know what she is capable of. I know how strong and fragile she is. I know where the bottom drops out. I know where her ceiling gets shattered.

I know her and she deserves the best of friends.

She deserves the best of me.

So I am my own best friend.


Words by

12/31/2022

Here's your daily reminder for 2023 and beyond
Tag someone who needs to hear these reminders





Artist: GMF Designs

12/31/2022

Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse, Shattering the Illusion is available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Emotional-Abuse-Shattering-Illusion/dp/1979532834/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1531479933&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=narcissistic+and+emotional+abuse+shattering+the+illusion&dpPl=1&dpID=41k03zC3WYL&ref=

12/31/2022

Nothing else matters in a Narcissist’s world except for THEIR every need no matter what the cost to you and I. If this means destroying a perrson, family, organization, friendship, etc. – so be it – BUT – they will also do everything they can to look like the PERFECT PERSON to hide their destructive and abusive nature. This is how they stay ‘hidden in plain sight!’ Try to expose them and you will be annihilated!

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto - Author - From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

https://www.amazon.com/Charm-Harm-Everything-Narcissist-Narcissistic/dp/1523820179/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468750462&sr=1-1&keywords=from+charm+to+harm

The Narcissist is an EXTREME egomaniac and feels so deserving of everything in life – this is the totality of their infliction and what makes them a Narcissist because nothing else matters in their world except for their every need - AND they seriously do not care who they HARM in the process. We are all steppingstones that they walk on and over to get what they want. ONCE we understand this and internalize this, we must NEVER engage with them or look back at them as anything but the predatory and destructive con-artist that they really are.

They feel that they are BETTER than everybody and deserving of EVERYTHING they want in life, and they will take it no matter if they abuse people or break the law to do so and they just don't care. They act as if they are royalty in life and feel above and even insulted by any unworthy subjects - like YOU and I expecting his/her majesty's affirmation or attention - we are there to serve. It is all part of the fictional novel going on in the Narcissist’s childish mind, that magnanimous work of fiction about themselves in which he/she is the star of a great masterpiece all about themselves.

Little children do the same thing in their play fantasies, but THEY eventually grow up and deal in reality. The Narcissist totally IDENTIFIES with the fictional character that he/she creates in that mirror that is you and me. WE have a bit part in this show as a character (one of many) that exists to reflect the Narcissist’s greatness through our interactions with them period. They will always share how amazing they are and how they have so many friends, how their family and children love them, etc. BUT in reality, what they share are usually bits and pieces of tiny truths that are ALWAYS the direct opposite. Their immediate family eventually rejects their hideous actions or perversions that they have inflicted on them, but it is always somebody else’s fault. Everybody else picks up the slack for these creatures like raising a family, paying the bills, and keeping up the real responsibilities in life. The real relationship with them is no give and all take but never care or love, it is all about serving the Narcissist – the rest is their fictional story that you believe that locked you into what you believed was a relationship. In time you realized the truth when their words and actions never backed up the façade, they personally created for you.

You will fall out of grace when your eyes reflect the disdain of their lies and manipulation, and you will enter a battle with them where they will destroy you for making them face the reality of who they really are. They will just run off after they have destroyed your integrity and start up a new life of abuse with someone else. Yet, deep down inside, the Narcissist is aware that their life is a sham, and they are vulnerable as far as being exposed and that is what they fear. They are always a step or ten ahead of the game and have gathered up every bit of personal information they can use against you to destroy your integrity so that your voice becomes weak and unheard when you start to speak out. Their out-of-control life is a constant reminder of how unstable their amazing world is AND how weak and feeble they really are! Clinically this is described as the Narcissist’s Grandiosity Gap - or it other words they are gift wrapped box that is EMPTY inside when you unwrap it.

The Narcissist can pretend to know everything, in every field of the human condition and is seamless with all the knowledge that spills out. Again, they are all confabulations and lies that the Narcissist prevaricates to avoid the exposure of their real ignorance AND their dark world they MUST hide. Their knowledge and experience are just copycat information that has no basis of reality or is earned through realistic education, goals, hard work, relationship bonding, human compassion, real love, or anything else. AGAIN - they have no reality to back it up or empathy to understand life at any level! The Narcissist resorts to numerous prefabricated ‘imitations of life’ to support their God-like omnipotence. What goes on in the shadows is what really defines them and exists in their REAL world, and that is their vast neediness and out-of-control lifestyle that betrays all of life and love. You can take the power away from the Narcissist by removing yourself from their diabolical and delusional world and stop supplying them with your life. Start with no/minimal contact! Greg

12/31/2022

When you reframe it from this perspective, the next time you encounter a toxic person, you may be less likely to give so much of your time and energy because you'll think, "Am I getting paid for all this labor they're expecting from me and will fail to reciprocate? No? It's time to protect myself, because I am not their therapist and even therapists are allowed to place boundaries and can choose not to work with clients that are harmful to their well-being." Go to www.selfcarehaven.org to learn more.

12/31/2022

"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." "You need to learn to be quiet even when you have a lot to say."."

12/31/2022

The more you thank life, the more life gives you to be thankful for.

12/31/2022

Pat.

12/31/2022

🖤

12/31/2022

10 Things Narcissists will NOT say .. 10 Things Narcissists will NOT DO... if they do use any of the 10 listed, it’ll be fake and manipulation and only used to blindside you, especially if you haven’t detected your narcissistic relationship person yet! No 9... using people’s names, the narcissist will use a name that could apply to anyone in a relationship.. some examples... ‘Babe’ ‘Honey’ ‘Darling’ ‘Sweetie’ ‘Sugar’ etc etc... endearment names are neutral names for anyone .. they serve the narcissist when s/he can’t remember your name in situations, especially if their cheating with someone else, the narcissist can forget which scenario
she or he is acting in, they may need a minute to remember how to behave in front of you... a neutral name comes in handy for a narcissist when they can’t remember which character/role/scenario their playing in when in a relationship with their victim!!

12/31/2022

Learn to value yourself. "Look at yourself in a mirror and tell yourself how proud you are to have come this far."

12/31/2022

🐝