Myers Mortuary

11/20/2025

Next week is Thanksgiving, a holiday of football, questionable side dishes, and the annual debate over whether the turkey is moist or not. But for some of us, the idea of stuffing and cranberry sauce doesn’t bring comfort; it just underscores the empty chair at the table and the piece of our hearts that's missing.

Let's be honest: the only thing “stuffed” right now is our list of emotions.

While everyone else passes the gravy, We’re passing memories back and forth, hoping one still makes us smile instead of tear up. The truth is, the menu can be as traditional as a Norman Rockwell painting, yet there’s still nothing on it to fill the ache where our loved one should be sitting.

I know there’s advice out there, (I’m often the one giving it), light a candle, make their favorite dish, raise a toast. And yes, I’ve suggested setting out a plate just for them, but honestly, the idea that their portion of mashed potatoes might go uneaten feels rude. They’d probably never approve of wasting good food.

Maybe this Thanksgiving it’s really just about learning to accept the “happy-sad” moments.

Nobody wants to be the one who brings the sadness to Thanksgiving, right?

But if we’re making awkward jokes at the table about our dead person, we can only hope that people know we’re not just being cynical, we’re just trying our best to survive with whatever scraps of the memories we have left.

Because sometimes…what feels most present is the person who isn’t.

So if you’re like me, already bracing yourself for the moment when someone asks, “What are you thankful for this year?” remember: it’s okay to feel all of it. Maybe what you’re grateful for is surviving another year, even if you did it holding your broken heart together with duct tape.

Maybe it’s sharing one small memory of the person you miss, so their spirit shows up alongside the pumpkin pie.

However you patch your way through next week, this season isn’t a fix for grief, and you don’t have to fake being happy either. If you find yourself needing to pass on the stuffing but extra helpings of patience, that’s completely allowed.

So let’s make a toast to the missing, who’re still with us in every way we can find.

From my grieving heart to yours: even if Thanksgiving looks nothing like the commercials, we’re still at the table, together in our loss.

Gary Sturgis – Author Gary Sturgis

11/15/2025

Funeral Service For Bertie L Spencer, Jr

11/15/2025

Join us for this free webinar on December 17th at 12:00 pm EST. The holiday season can intensify grief, highlighting what - and who - is missing. In this compassionate and practical session, we will explore why grief often feels different during the holidays and how to navigate the secondary losses that surface this time of year. Participants will learn how to create a personalized plan for coping, approach traditions with intention, and find meaningful ways to honor both loved ones and themselves throughout the season. Visit our website to register to attend.

11/15/2025

Thank you Donna Ashworth

11/11/2025

🇺🇸 Thanking all Veterans and current Servicemen today for their dedication to our great nation. You are appreciated. 🇺🇸

🇺🇸 Happy Birthday to the United States Marines 🇺🇸

🇺🇸 Happy Birthday to this special Marine, John P. 🇺🇸

11/08/2025

Funeral Service For Michael and Jane Dobbins

11/05/2025

11/05/2025

Funeral Service For Ellen E. Adams

11/05/2025

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This year's Worldwide Candle Lighting will be held on December 14th. Local chapters and organizations will hold candle lightings throughout the United States and even worldwide. Visit our website to find more details.

11/04/2025

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10/22/2025

We can never forget about our 4-legged family members 🐶🐱
They give such unconditional love 💕

I just saw this beautiful tribute from Jimmy Fallon about his beloved dog, Gary. It’s such a powerful reminder of how deeply our pets touch our lives.
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“She was the last name we signed on every birthday card.

She was our first baby, a therapist, a pillow, a big sister, a schoolmarm, a comedian, a party girl and a rebel. Definitely not a watchdog, she would have let burglars in and shown them where we kept the bacon and American cheese slices.

Always smiling even when she slept. She loved a good scratch and would lean into you if she liked you, though “if” is generous, she did this for basically everyone. She would jump into the pool immediately after being shampooed and dried (noooooo!) then she’d do her laps (backstroke – just kidding…doggie paddle) then lie in the grass on her back doing bunny kicks with her tongue sticking out. That meant summer to me.

13 and a half years we were lucky to have with you.

Franny, Winnie, Mommy and I miss you. The house misses you.
The house is so quiet.
The quiet is so loud.

But that quiet is slowly being filled with stories about you and laughter amongst the sniffles. Thank you for everything. Gosh, we miss you so much.

Goodnight, Gary.”

- Jimmy Fallon

Gary Sturgis - Author Gary Sturgis