Lyndsey Stubenbort, LMHC

11/04/2022

07/15/2021

Some hard but healthy truths...... make sure you have some support for yourself if this is a path you are walking.....

Most of us would agree that it isn’t really possible to change another person. But then we get placed in a situation where not doing so seems to contain realities too harsh to bear . . . so we exhaust ourselves trying to do the impossible.

Trying to change another person will only lead to maddening frustration both for you and the other person, though. Trust me, the people who you think need to change the most will wind up changing the least when your efforts are greater than their own.

Why? Because true heart change? A lasting transformation? If the other person doesn’t personally pursue it, they’ll never be able to keep choosing better behaviors for themselves. And the minute you let them out of your cage of control, they’ll get worse, not better. And not only will they get worse, but so will the situation and, even more tragic, so will you.

Please don’t miss that last statement. When you empty all your emotional, physical, financial, or relational resources to help another person who doesn’t want to be helped, you will become more and more unhealthy in the process. The more you allow their actions to cost you, the greater the debt will be that you eventually have to forgive.

This situation has already cost you enough, sweet friend. If you keep handing over more and more, it will be the most draining experience of your life. In the end, you will have used up everything you have and find yourself crying in a heap of frustration at best, devastation at worst. It truly is one of the most heartbreaking moments of anyone’s life when they have to release a loved one to the consequences of their own choices. But it’s also the only chance that either of you have to get any better. And it’s the only shot you have at staying healthy enough to walk the road of forgiveness.

Where the limitless grace of God provides a way for all to be forgiven, the truth of God provides appropriate parameters so that wrong behavior can be addressed. And one of the wisest things we can do today may be to ask Him where boundaries need to be established with equal measures of mercy and tough love.

08/05/2020

May we always be teachable and may we continue to learn about and stand up for those cannot yet on their own.....

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07/03/2020

A little Friday funny.......🤣

04/14/2020

A good read..... I’m adding to the list of helpful tactics to drink water... and be kind to yourself (and others)

More than two weeks ago, confirmed cases of COVID-19 jumped up in the U.S. and thousands of people died, prompting states to set intense restrictions for residents. Schools closed, restaurants started only offering takeout, and non-essential businesses shuttered. People were told to stay in their ho...

03/21/2020

Some helpful hints for all of us. This unknown territory we find ourselves in might be the first time your or someone u know finds themselves struggling. Try to pick a few of these areas to make a priority for yourself and if I can answer any questions or help please just let me know.

03/20/2020

Another way to be looking out for each other and yourself.

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😢The coronavirus has been declared a pandemic - the widespread impact it is having is truly devastating. There has been a lot of attention of course on the physical health consequences, the societal impact, the economic impact... but very little on the impact it is having on mental health 💚

Unfortunately it looks like the situation is getting worse and will continue to (at least short-term) - this is why it’s so important to:
1) Acknowledge the role it will/ is having on your mental health (as illustrated in this post)
2) Prioritise your mental health ESPECIALLY during this period - the “outer world” is very uncertain / volatile at present which makes our “inner world” vulnerable. Please look after it!
💚Please share to raise awareness of the mental health impacts - there’s been so little coverage of them and it’s so important to raise awareness of this