KC Life Counseling

09/24/2025

09/24/2025

Maybe this seems obvious reading it here, but it's something MANY of us struggle with.

Why don't you see it the same way I do?
Why aren't you upset?
Why aren't you more excited about this?

Because we're all different, that's why!

We all move at our own pace and process things in our own way (based on our lived experiences, our mood, our values, our traumas, our emotional patterns, our triggers, etc), and it's really important that we're given the time and space to do so,
AND it's important that we allow that space for others.

This is not an out to ignore a conversation or a conflict, but it's moreso to help those who feel really anxious or upset when someone doesn't react in the way that you expect them to, in the timeframe in which you expect them to.

Instead of creating stories about why this might be, get curious instead.

Ask questions about what's going on.
Meet your own fears with tenderness and compassion.
And ask the other what they need from you (and then really listen to the answer).

Try to understand their perspective BEFORE trying to get them to understand yours.
I promise you, asking to understand before forcing someone else to understand you first will yield enormous returns in your relationships.

In the Relationship Workshop beginning Oct 23, we deep dive into what secure behaviors in conflict look like - and how to take greater responsibility for what's your while respecting the other person, and how to start to navigate it with more honesty, integrity, and safety.
This is the last workshop of 2025!
The 4pm cohort is filling up!
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

09/24/2025

We live in a world that sometimes mistakes softness for weakness, but being sensitive and gentle is nothing to be ashamed of!

09/09/2025

Sometimes we get so busy surviving that we forget to be kind to ourselves. Consider this your official permission slip: do something sweet and kind just for you today.

09/09/2025

Good grief I want to tattoo this on the back of hands!!

Being imperfect doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means you’re human. Please stop expecting yourself to be superhuman and flawless. Meet yourself where you are.

09/09/2025

YEEEESSSSS!!!

"The love and understanding of a friend, like a deep well of the purest water, refreshes the very source of our being."

If our one pursuit was friendship—unconditional friendliness with each other, our inner life, all nature—ah, what a world!

09/09/2025

A shift can be a glimmer of joy or spark of happiness. Sometimes these sound a bit unrealistic or toxic. If the smell of your shampoo is pleasant linger a bit longer in the shower and enjoy.

09/01/2025

09/01/2025

09/01/2025

Happy Labor Day! One of the kindest things we can do is show appreciation to those whose efforts often go unnoticed.

💛 Take a moment today to thank a worker in your community...it might just make their day!

09/01/2025

⭐️ Everyone has the right to communicate in the language that feels most comfortable to them.

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[Digital illustration of a woman sitting against a blue background. She has long dark hair, a red sweater and blue jeans. She's pointing at a speech bubble that reads, 'English is a language, not a way to measure someone's intelligence.']