12/19/2025
Somewhere along the way, we decided that good mothers create flawless holiday experiences - and that going into debt or working ourselves to exhaustion is just part of the deal.
Elf on the shelf. Matching pajamas. Elaborate decorations. All the "magic" that requires someone's invisible labor - usually women's - and often, money families don't have.
But your kids won't remember how much you spent or how Pinterest-perfect the house looked. They'll remember if you were present or exhausted. They'll remember if December felt joyful or stressful.
Holiday magic built on your burnout or financial strain isn't magic. It's pressure dressed up as tradition.
You're allowed to do less. You're allowed to skip trends. You're allowed to protect your peace and your budget.
The people who love you don't need your debt or your exhaustion - they need you present.