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Jake Thiessen, PhD

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Jake Thiessen, PhD

I've been a psychotherapist working primarily with couples for over 45 years. I am privileged to be a part of that work. Author of Tiny Shifts.

In my world, there are few things more important than developing a deep connection with another human being. Couple's therapist with over 35 years experience, speaker, and guide for couples at a crossroads. I help people create connection through small, meaningful change.

02/01/2026

Cards, flowers, chocolates and jewelry...all great ideas for Valentine's Day. But...a serious commitment to making yourself the best partner you can be is, perhaps, a good idea as well.

01/30/2026

Want more insight between the reels?

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01/29/2026

Disappointment is universal. How you handle it says a lot about who you are. https://jakethiessen.substack.com/p/what-to-do-when-disappointment-shows?r=38d3y

01/28/2026

“Are we going in circles?”

Not all repetition means you’re stuck. Some couples spin like a top, frustrated and going nowhere. But others move like a screw, turning in circles while slowly digging deeper.

Progress in relationships is often quiet, subtle, and easy to miss.
Look closer. What felt like the same conversation might actually be a deeper one.

Motion isn’t always progress. But sometimes, it is.

01/26/2026

It’s not really about the money.

This argument between Marge and Homer is about something deeper: the tension between freedom and structure in a relationship.

Too much freedom? It feels chaotic.
Too many limits? It feels suffocating.

The truth is, every relationship needs both.
When one partner craves flexibility and the other needs predictability, things get tense fast.

But here’s the shift:
✨ “I get that you need room.”
✨ “And I get that you need some boundaries.”

That mutual understanding? That’s where growth starts.

01/23/2026

We often want our relationships to be simple,
but real intimacy is full of both/ands.

You want independence and connection.
You want to be accepted and challenged.
You want safety and passion.

Couples who thrive are the ones who learn to live in the tension without trying to resolve it.

What paradoxes are showing up in your relationship right now?

01/21/2026

You crave closeness, but need space.
You want change, but also security.
You want to be fully known, but still accepted.

None of these are contradictions. They’re paradoxes—two seemingly opposing truths that can coexist.

The healthiest relationships don’t try to “solve” the paradox. They learn to hold both sides with care.

01/19/2026

Feeling trust isn’t the same as living it.
You might believe the bungee cord will hold…
But that doesn’t mean you’re ready to jump.

In relationships, it’s easy to say “I trust you”—
Harder to show it through vulnerability, risk, and letting go of control.

🎢 When’s the last time you jumped?

Pick up your copy of “Tiny Shifts” to get some ideas for leveling up your trust: https://amzn.to/46T8Fgi

01/16/2026

Co-regulation is the dynamic, moment-by-moment exchange where partners shape each other’s emotional state.

In healthy relationships, calm is contagious.

When one person steadies the ship, the other feels safe to soften.

It’s how couples move from reactivity to calm, together.

01/14/2026

In every relationship, we all need some measure of control—over our space, our needs, our boundaries. The real question is: how are you using it?

Are you leading with anger and dominance?
Or are you expressing your needs with clarity and kindness?

In this clip, I break down why control itself isn’t the enemy. It’s the energy behind it that makes the difference.

Check out “Tiny Shifts” to learn more about how to exercise good control: https://amzn.to/46T8Fgi

01/12/2026

It can feel confusing when you want independence and intimacy. Or when you crave stability and change. But these aren’t signs that something’s wrong. They are signs you’re human.

Most of us try to resolve paradoxes by choosing sides. But in relationships, the real growth comes from learning to hold both truths at once.

When you stop trying to “fix the tension” and start exploring it, you open the door to deeper understanding and connection.

01/09/2026

🗣️ Want to be a better listener in your relationship?

It’s not just about staying quiet, it’s about being present.

Here are 3 simple ways to improve your listening game:

When your partner feels seen, heard, and understood, everything shifts.

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525 N 12th Street
Lemoyne, PA
17043

Opening Hours

Monday	7:30am - 5:30pm
Tuesday	7:30am - 5:30pm
Wednesday	7:30am - 5:30pm
Thursday	7:30am - 5:30pm
Friday	7:30am - 5:30pm

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+17177434223

Website

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