08/04/2025
Rushing the process 🏃♀️⌛️
Feeling a bit fired up after reading a post that had been shared well over 100x saying that if you push for more than 15 min without seeing obvious progress, then you probably started pushing too early 🤯 I was shocked to see people in the natural birth world promoting this!
The idea that if birth is not fast then something is wrong needs to be stopped 🛑 Why would we, in the home birth and natural birth community, perpetuate this idea that brings so much trouble to moms and babies in the hospital system?! 🏥
10cm 📏 is not a magic number to start pushing, which I agree with the post on, most of my clients I’m not checking to see if they are 10cm and I’m definitely not telling them when to start pushing. The body knows when to start pushing the vast majority of the time in unmedicated labor, AND ALSO, it’s very normal and not wrong or a problem if first time moms spontaneously push for over an hour!
✨Patience✨ when nothing is wrong is something that has shown up again and again in different ways over the past year in my practice. I had two clients that spontaneously pushed for over 4 hours 😮💨 (most don’t 😂), and they still had beautiful home births! They needed support in the process, but they didn’t start pushing “too soon”. One had been 10cm for hours before getting a spontaneous urge to push.
Telling moms when they should or shouldn’t push 🙅♀️ or putting them on the clock 🕰️ to get their baby out 👶 has no place in the normal, healthy, unmedicated labor process. If something does seem wrong 🚨 concerns there may be cervix left, an exhausted mom, concerning heart rate for baby, good reason to suspect a malpositioned baby, or another legitimate concern - we make recommendations to assess and intervene, but time on a clock is not a reason ⏰