10/23/2025
Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect. It’s about trying to fill a void with achievement.
That’s why it leaves so many of us anxious, exhausted, and in pain — because no achievement can fill what only self-worth and safety can.
So much of our suffering is directly tied to the desire to control the perception of others and please them.
Will they approve of my decision?
What if I let them down?
What if I fail? Will they still love me?
But here’s the thing…
We’re never going to please everyone. We are going to disappoint. We are going to fail.
What we are seeking must come from within.
We can strive for the dream job, the perfect partner, house, and life – but if we haven’t found the space inside where we are deeply at peace with ourselves, achieving these goals will only feel good in the moment. We will always fall back into the same state of discontent.
The good news? Even small shifts in how we breathe, move, and relate to ourselves can start to unravel the loop.
Healing is possible. I know, because I’ve lived it. 💙
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