09/03/2025
Keys to a peaceful life.
Sure we have all had our share of not so peaceful lives right? I come to you today to share a little bit of what I've learned in hopes it will help you reduce your stress and keep you from feeling so tense in your body.
First, let me just say, its taken years for me to come to these realizations, sure other people told me but I'm stubborn and have to learn it through my own struggles. Know anyone like that?
So, some of this might be old news to you all but then again it could be a good reminder.
The Bible says that as Christians we should strive to live peaceful lives. What is my disernment on that exactly?
Here's a few things I have learned lately about living a peaceful life. I'm still working on it, because let's face it, none of us are perfect and we all can mess up but grace gives us the chances to start over and do better.
1. Evaluate your relationships. Are your relationships one sided? Meaning you give a lot of your time, energy and love but its not reciprocated? Is it always about them? Their needs? Not all relationships will be reciprocated, because not everyone is you. How far are you willing to go?
2. Gossip, don't participate, listen, or entertain it. You don't have to even be around it, you don't have to add your 2 cents in... its drama, and ask yourself "Is this person talking about themself?" Okay, perhaps that's not gossip. Or "are they talking about someone else?" Remember, if they will talk to you about someone, chances are, they have talked about you TO someone. To avoid gossip, does this mean you need to move cubicles, homes, business changes, circles? These decisions are the tough ones. What if I lose my friends? What if I'm no longer part of the "group"? But WHAT IF you fly above all that drama and soar to higher heights? It's hard to pull the weeds, but when you do, you bloom!
3. Are we "stirring the pot?" Are we trying to help our family/friends find resolution or are we fanning the flames of fire? Be sure we arent adding to the drama of someone else's life.
4. Boundaries. What do you need to say no to in order to give your best yeses? To be able to show up better for you relationships, family, church, work? Evaluate your limits and stop saying "yes to EVERYTHING". Lead with a "no" but you could say something like, "I'm going to have to pass on that right now, but tell me more about this project." This gives you a chance to really see if you really could be a good fit for the invite, task, club, project.. without feeling automatically obligated.
I'm sure I'll think of more, and when I do I'll try to add them here. I'd love to hear what you have done to currate a peacefull life.
So sure, you may not see me, or hear from me on social media posts as often as the millionaire podcast people say I should, but I'm still here, showing up every day in my downtown studio (loving it btw), serving you, showing up as the best authentic self as I can, just working on living a peaceful life. How about you?