12/18/2025
When a child pushes back, shouts, or refuses, it’s easy to label it as defiance.
But often, what looks like defiance is actually distress.
👉 Defiance says: “I won’t.”
👉 Distress says: “I can’t.”
Looking beneath the behaviour helps us respond with support, not punishment.
This script is available in
Misunderstood Defiance: the Vulnerable Child Toolkit for Parents & Educators
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