Debbie Dickey

03/02/2025

For so long, I was convinced that I was the problem…

I even reinforced that lie to myself. It felt easier to take the blame, carry the guilt, and assume responsibility—even when it wasn’t mine to take—because I’ve always had a natural willingness to grow, shift, and adapt in relationships.

And… I also realized I did this because, well, abandonment wounds.

But when I finally sat with this truth, breathed through it, and integrated the depths of my childhood pain, I came to a powerful realization: In adult relationships, no one person is “the problem.” Both people have a role to play. And it is completely okay to set boundaries and stop overextending yourself when the other person is unwilling to grow, shift, or change with you.

And if that means they leave—or you choose to walk away—that’s okay too. 💛

03/01/2025

You deserve care, just as much as you give it.

If you learned that strength means never asking for help, that your needs are a burden, or that receiving support comes with strings attached—please know this: You deserve care, just as much as you give it.

Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It happens in safe, supportive spaces where you can be held, seen, and understood.

Letting yourself receive doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human. And humans are wired for connection, for support, for love.

It’s safe to lean in. It’s safe to be supported. It’s safe to receive. It's safe to learn with someone how you best feel supported.

💛 Does this speaks to you? Let me know in the comments—
co-founder of One Breath Institute, a healing and trauma-informed breathwork training school

02/28/2025