Dr. Phil Boucher

Dr. Phil Boucher If you're like most of my readers, you’re a parent or parent-to-be looking for straight-forward advice to do the best you can for your kids and family.

And that's exactly what I'm here for!

Parents often worry (unneccessarily) that they must catch & correct every mistake or their child won’t learn.Let me reas...
11/22/2025

Parents often worry (unneccessarily) that they must catch & correct every mistake or their child won’t learn.

Let me reassure you…

You, as the parent & adult, make plenty of mistakes that aren’t corrected by anyone and yet you continue to grow, learn, and try to do better in the future.

You, as the parent & adult, receive grace from loved ones at trying moments despite mistakes and yet you continue to grow, learn and try to do better in the future.

Your child is the same. You do not need to worry that an uncorrected mistake will show your child that they can “get away with” misbehaviors. You can extend grace, empathy, and understanding that sometimes circumstances make it hard to act as you as the parent would prefer.

Grace, understanding, and empathy will NOT spoil your child but will make him feel heard, understood, connected, and supported.

If you’d like more assistance in helping your child in the midst of meltdowns, comment meltdown and I’ll DM you the link to my recent workshop on moving through meltdowns. Hang in there!! 🙌🏼

Pssst. You don't have to fill out 7 sheets of questions before your appointment.We focus our question set on STRENGTHS a...
11/21/2025

Pssst. You don't have to fill out 7 sheets of questions before your appointment.

We focus our question set on STRENGTHS and SUPPORT.

It doesn't have to be all gloom doom worry overwhelm when it comes to filling out forms for your visit. We know you're busy. We know you don't want to answer 75 questions and then answer them again at the visit. We focus on what matters to you and make you feel supported and excited about all your baby is doing! We LOVE reading the responses and focusing on our time & messages on supporting our parents.

There is another way :)

11/20/2025

BITING GETS RESULTS!!

All kids bite or get bit and the way you react as parent impacts how quickly it fades away.

You don't have to do some sort of evening inquisition or lecture on biting because your kid, whether the biter or the bitee, has already moved on. A lecture sure won't make them stop and consider their actions next week when some snatches their toy and they can't communicate "hey bruh, I was playing with that!"

I recently answered a parents question on speech delay over on my substack, dear parents, about a 27 month old who mom wonders if is delayed in speech. We talk through what to do to get reassurance and move through difficult moments. Comment substack to watch the whole video.

11/19/2025

Not here (nebraska) just yet but will be after thanksgiving based on trends around the country.

Said it a million times…MODEL MODEL MODEL. Model what you want to see…talk it up…and soon enough you’ll see more and mo...
11/19/2025

Said it a million times…MODEL MODEL MODEL. Model what you want to see…talk it up…and soon enough you’ll see more and more of it (and sometimes your kids will even go above what you’ve modeled!) 😂 🥶

11/18/2025

KIDS NEED RISK. Providing risk is not just putting them in potentially harmful situations (which should be avoided of course) but the risk of uncertainty, doubt, and even failure.

She didn't know how to do this...now she does.

Risk helps raise our confidence when we figure it out and when things don't go as we expected...."Hey this didn't go as expected so here's what I did...."

Cooking is a fantastic way to introduce risk, have fun with your child, and increase the likelihood of them trying the food - who wouldn't want to see how what they made turned out. It also is a great life skill not just to be able to cook but ENJOY cooking.

COMMENT BELOW - how do you let your child experience risk?

11/17/2025

I spoke at a local parenting event at Victress and answered loads of very common parenting questions, mostly about the under 5 crowd....we talked in a big circle for over 2 hours...this is a clip talking about sibling-sibling physical aggression which is VERY COMMON.

When this happens:
1) Focus attention on victim rather than instinct to focus on aggressor
2) Look at what's happening as a missing skill
3) Focus on skill building AFTER agressor is not longer in red brain instead of punishment shame blame guilt

If you want more help, I recently did a workshop on moving through meltdowns...comment meltdown and I'll send you the link!

11/16/2025

Worst thing you can do (even if your pediatrician suggests it) is "just wait and see how next school year goes"....NOPE NOPE NOPE.

Next school year? Going to go pretty much just like this year...but the demands will be higher and you'll have spent more time when you instead could have spent the summer getting help, understanding your child better, and acquiring skills that will last a life time.

No reason to wait especially when summer is a fantastic time because all those big time demands are reduced and we can make serious strides and have time to practice.

Don't sleep on getting help.

We have several therapists in our practice with availability within the next week or so!! They see children, adolescents, and adults (if you're looking for help, too!) Comment THERPY and I'll DM you the info (and feel free to DM me the word THERAPIST if you prefer to not comment!)

This tiny phrase difference and minder shift can drastically impact your child’s trajectory.
11/15/2025

This tiny phrase difference and minder shift can drastically impact your child’s trajectory.

There are a lot of common myths that persevere about autism and one is the persistent myth that it is caused by parentin...
11/14/2025

There are a lot of common myths that persevere about autism and one is the persistent myth that it is caused by parenting style, in particular: “frigid mothers” who don’t emotionally attach or support their child.

This is a completely false theory which has been debunked but persists and causes:

➡️ guilt…huge amounts of guilt amongst loving parents that they “could have done more” or are to blame

➡️ avoidance…avoidance of diagnosis or discussion of the child because of fear of being labeled, shamed, or blamed for their child’s diagnosis

➡️ isolation…isolation because of [undeserved] feelings of shame or to protect from perceived/actual judgement because of their child’s diagnosis

If your child has autism, it is not your fault.

If you have a friend or loved one whose child has autism, realize they may shoulder a lot of blame/guilt/shame and could use a bit of supporting care.

11/13/2025

What's your reaction to something like this? What would you like it to be if it actually helped your child to move through and (hopefully+overtime) not do this again?

If yelling is a struggle for you or if you just want to learn more self-reg strategies for yourself (which then you can *model* for your child!) comment CHALLENGE and I'll DM you the info for my upcoming Yell Less Challenge starting Wednesday where I help parents (only 50 spots per week) learn how to actually yell less and regulate themselves more in just 5 days of bite-sized lessons!

11/12/2025



This year, I’m taking every step I can to help protect myself from the flu. 🙌

Last year’s flu season was awful—over 200 children passed away, thousands were hospitalized, and so many families were knocked flat by high fevers and days of recovery.��

With a big family like mine, life can get busy. That’s why I already ordered FluMist® (Influenza Vaccine Live, Intranasal) for myself, the only

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There’s a thousand parenting books. There are so many approaches. Attachment, barefoot, tiger, helicopter, free-range…. It used to be you felt the need to keep up with your neighbors and friends…now it’s all of Facebook. You see the beautifully framed and filtered shots of happy children and parents on Instagram.

Household peace, even momentary, is more difficult than you thought. The tug of work (do those emails ever quit?), keeping house (didn’t we just pick up this room?), giving your children positive attention, making sure they are being stimulated with outings, lessons, athletics….

I’d like to share my experiences, knowledge, and expertise with you. To help you be a better parent. To enjoy your children, spouse, and family more. To grow closer to each other and God. You already have most of what you need. I can give you the confidence and reassurance that you can do this.