11/26/2025
In my practice, these are a non-negotiable. This is known as holding space.
But what does "holding space" even mean?
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It means; I am being present with people in a way that helps them to feel safe to let their guard down. Sometimes I am sitting in the discomfort or "mess" with them and co-regulating while they process. Most of the time my input isn't even needed but sometimes it's requested.
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It means; I am taking the time to celebrate their accomplishments with them and/or remembering the small details they have shared with me before. It's taking the time to check in so I can meet people where they're at.
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This isn't an added "perk."
This is what community midwifery is about.
This *is* H E A L T H C A R E.
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People have said to me "I don't even know what I would talk about for an hour with people!"
I'll tell you; we've talked about fears of the impending birth, fear of being a good enough parent, domestic abuse, their older child's struggles, the recent loss of a loved one, mental health struggles, parental incarceration, their previous traumatic birth, their annoying mother in law, their overwhelm & decision fatigue, body dysmorphia, & lack of support. It's not always so deep there's a lot of laughter & soapbox rants too!
And then I can feel the shift in energy, witness their shoulders drop, their hands slow or stop gripping/shaking. Their facial expressions shift & sometimes they relax back into the couch.
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We weave in the education to these conversations, ask pertinent questions, & then provide the clinical care. It doesn't even have to take a full hour! A great provider can spend the first 10 minutes of an appointment checking in with you. This is wholistic care. You are more than a vessel for your baby. And we know that when moms are well cared for, so too are their babies.🌀