11/15/2025
Grief can have a huge effect on our body!
🌿 The Lymphatic System of a Griever
When Fear After Trauma Changes the Body, the Weight & the Lymph - Post 2/30
There is a kind of fear that goes deeper than emotion.
A fear born from facing death up close — whether it was your own, or someone you love —
a fear so sharp and so catastrophic that it rewires your entire body.
This is the fear of the griever.
A fear that lingers long after the danger is gone.
A fear that settles into your tissues, your breath, your sleep, your weight…
and especially, into your lymphatic system.
Tonight, I want to speak about that fear.
The kind that makes you so broken, so shocked, so emotionally paralysed…
that your own body, health, and weight no longer matter.
🩵 Trauma & Fear: What They Do to the Lymphatic System
Fear — especially the kind tied to grief and life-or-death trauma — is not “just in the mind.”
It becomes a biochemical storm that affects the entire lymphatic network.
1️⃣ The nervous system locks into survival mode
When fear is chronic, the body shifts into a constant sympathetic state.
Heart rate rises. Muscles stiffen. Breath becomes shallow.
And the lymphatic system — which depends on calmness and movement — begins to shut down.
2️⃣ Fascia tightens over the lymphatic vessels
Fascia contracts under stress.
When this happens, the lymphatic vessels underneath become compressed,
preventing lymph from flowing freely.
3️⃣ Cortisol triggers widespread inflammation
High cortisol thickens the lymph, increases fluid retention, and slows detoxification.
Swelling, puffiness, and heaviness become daily companions.
4️⃣ The glymphatic system (brain drainage) slows by up to 60%
This is why grief survivors experience:
• Head pressure
• Brain fog
• Exhaustion
• Poor memory
• Waking up feeling “inflamed”
The brain simply cannot detox while the body is stuck in fear.
🩵 When Fear Steals Your Relationship With Your Body
There is a specific kind of heartbreak in grief where your physical body becomes the least of your worries.
Your weight doesn’t matter.
Your meals don’t matter.
Your inflammation doesn’t matter.
Your sleep doesn’t matter.
Your own well-being becomes invisible.
Not because you don’t care…
but because you are broken.
Because survival is the only thing your nervous system can focus on.
Food becomes escape or comfort.
Sleep becomes fragmented.
Movement feels impossible.
Self-care feels irrelevant.
You are not lazy.
You are not irresponsible.
You are grieving — and your body is trying to keep you alive.
🩵 The Science Behind Weight Gain in Grievers
People underestimate how profoundly grief changes the body.
When trauma and fear collide, weight gain becomes almost unavoidable:
1️⃣ Cortisol blocks lymphatic flow
This leads to swelling, water retention, stubborn weight, and slow metabolism.
2️⃣ Liver overload
Stress hormones + poor sleep + emotional eating overload the liver,
leading to toxin recirculation and lymphatic stagnation.
3️⃣ Emotional eating is a survival response
The brain seeks glucose and dopamine to numb pain.
It is a protective mechanism — not a failure.
4️⃣ Movement decreases drastically
Less movement = less lymph pumping = slowed metabolic rate.
5️⃣ Sleep disruption blocks healing
Without deep sleep, the brain cannot detox and the lymphatic system collapses even more.
Your body is not betraying you.
It is adapting to trauma.
🩵 I Watched My Own Body Change
I don’t speak this only as a practitioner.
I speak this as someone who has lived it — painfully, quietly, and deeply.
I watched my own body change in front of me:
I saw myself slipping into:
• periods of poor mobility
• fatigue that swallowed my days
• insomnia that stole my nights
• severe weight gain
• emotional eating that turned into guilt
• swelling I couldn’t understand
• inflammation everywhere
• a body I no longer recognised
It became a horrible relationship with food —
using it to cope, then punishing myself for it.
Step by step, without realising it,
I was destroying my own lymphatic flow.
Not on purpose.
Not out of neglect.
But because I was shattered.
Because I was terrified.
Because I was trying to survive trauma while still showing up for the world.
Fear had frozen my lymph.
Grief had hijacked my metabolism.
Shock had disconnected me from myself.
And the worst part?
I didn’t even realise it was happening.
🩵 But Healing Begins the Moment Safety Returns
Here is the truth that brought me back to myself:
You are not broken.
Your lymphatic system shut down to protect you.
Your body adapted to keep you alive.
And just as the lymph froze in fear,
it can begin to flow again in safety.
With:
• breath
• movement
• compassion
• faith
• rest
• touch
• connection
• understanding
The body slowly unravels the knots grief tied inside it.
The fascia softens.
The inflammation calms.
The weight begins to shift.
The mind becomes clearer.
And the soul returns to the body.
This is the journey of the griever.
Of coming back home to yourself —
slowly, gently, bravely.
And through it all,
your lymphatic system tells the story
of everything you’ve survived
and everything you are still capable of healing.
