Jennifer Oney Coaching

Jennifer Oney Coaching The Guilt-Free Mom Coach: Unlocking Joy and Freedom in Motherhood I am one of your biggest fans and biggest cheerleaders, you just don't know it quite yet.

I am a life coach and the woman that is going to help you in creating the infrastructure for you to become the BEST version of yourself! Join me on the journey to the life of your dreams!

Check out my recent blog at: jenniferoney.com or read on:In my last blog post, I invited you to rewrite your story. To s...
03/11/2025

Check out my recent blog at: jenniferoney.com or read on:

In my last blog post, I invited you to rewrite your story. To start fresh, free from the weight of outdated beliefs, focusing only on the facts and identifying which stories no longer serve you—or may not even be true. I hope you’ve taken the time to reflect on those questions and uncovered the beliefs you’ve been carrying around. Remember, this is an ongoing journey. As you continue, more stories and beliefs will surface, illuminating what’s been holding you back and giving you the chance to release what no longer fits.

Now, it’s time to choose the filter through which you’ll evaluate these beliefs. What will be your guiding principle, your North Star? What core beliefs will help you determine what is truly serving your life? For me, it’s the Bible and the wisdom found within its scriptures. Every story I’ve told myself has been examined through this lens, serving as a yardstick to measure what truly belongs in my life. Without a compass or a true North, we can easily become lost—unable to distinguish between what’s real and what’s been shaped by society, or even well-intentioned influences from our family.

Your filter doesn’t have to be spiritual. It could be a set of core values—non-negotiable principles that guide your life. These values should support you in becoming the best version of yourself. If you’re unsure where to begin, try this powerful exercise: Imagine yourself at 85 years old, sitting on the front porch, reflecting on your life with a loved one or close friend. What would you want to say about your journey? Who did you show up as for yourself and others? Or take it a step further—what would you want to hear others say about you in your final hour? This exercise can help you define the principles that will serve as your filter, helping you assess and refine the stories you’ve accumulated along the way.

The stories you carry should inspire you, not limit you. They should propel you toward growth and fulfillment, not hold you back. What would it look like if every story you embraced were aligned with the highest vision of who you are meant to be? Now is the time to rewrite your story—not just for today, but for the rest of your life.

🔥 You’ve Been Lied To—And It’s Keeping You Stuck 🔥You’ve been told:�❌ “This is just who I am.”�❌ “It’s too late to chang...
03/01/2025

🔥 You’ve Been Lied To—And It’s Keeping You Stuck 🔥
You’ve been told:�❌ “This is just who I am.”�❌ “It’s too late to change.”�❌ “I’ll always struggle with this.”
🚨 NONE of that is true. 🚨
The only thing keeping you stuck is the story you’ve been telling yourself—and the good news? You have the power to rewrite it.
💥 Imagine waking up feeling lighter, confident, and finally free—no longer held back by old doubts and limits. It’s 100% possible, and I’m breaking it all down in my latest blog.
⚡ It’s time to take control. Click here to read the entire blog: https://liveurgentlyblog.wordpress.com/2025/03/01/you-are-more-than-your-story-its-time-to-rewrite-it/
Your new story starts NOW.

02/12/2025

You will have days where you feel better, and you will have days where you want to die. Both are ok. There is no magical cure. You just need to close your eyes, and trust that the waves will pass, and soon you’ll be able to breathe again. -Anonymous

Finishing 2024 as a Gift to Our Future SelvesIf you’re anything like me or the rest of the human population, you have go...
06/29/2024

Finishing 2024 as a Gift to Our Future Selves

If you’re anything like me or the rest of the human population, you have goals that you’d love to accomplish, but often they get lost in the weeds of day-to-day activity and never come to fruition.

It’s so easy to tell ourselves that we will do it when the time is right, in the next season, or completely convince ourselves that it’s not what we wanted in the first place. Or we will believe there’s no way that we could reach the goal by starting small daily habits, because most of us believe the compound effect will not be enough to fulfill them.

And so we fall into groundhog day and a very mundane existence, wondering why our passion and fire for life have disappeared. I’ve been a part of this story and witnessed it too many times to count.

However, I’ve also been a part of the story in which I committed to doing small daily habits and have achieved many of the goals I’ve set out to achieve. And I’ve seen and helped coach many people around me to do the same.

And so I invite you all to commit to some goals for the remainder of 2024. Make sure that you know which values and goals you value most. We often get caught up in what our community or society deems worthy goals, and we end up chasing the wrong things. It’s no wonder that we sabotage ourselves when doing things this way. Who wants to climb a mountain only to discover that we are on top of the wrong peak?

When I am looking at my dreams and goals, I will often fast-forward to the 80-year-old me and ask what story she’d like to tell about the 47-year-old me. Or what will I want the 80-year-old me to be doing, and what do I need to implement now to create the best version of the 80-year-old me?

I know what most of you are probably thinking: I can't seem to make it through a week with kid activities and managing the household, let alone think about 80 year old me. Although it’s easy to get overwhelmed when we think about goals, this is why we work backward.

Ultimately, we figure out daily habits that will have a compound effect and create the person we want to become over time. For example, if the 80-year-old version of you is active with her grandchildren but is doing no activity right now, creating a small sustainable habit goal for the next six months is going to produce a compound effect of better health and fitness. Consequently, this has you moving towards the best and most desired 80-year-old you.

I’m in the process of creating my goals for the next six months as I write this. If I don’t do it, I know what my life will look like. It will look like Groundhog Day, and I’ll be bummed that I haven’t moved towards becoming who I want to be come January 2025.

Two of the best books I’ve read that support this process are Atomic Habits by James Clear as well as The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.

I realize how tough it can be when you’re raising kids to think long-term like this, and that’s why I’m so passionate about supporting moms. I want you to be stepping towards your desired future self, whether that be better health, more connection with your family, or a deeper faith. I’m here to support you. These goals will not happen by themselves, and they are not as daunting as they might seem.

Please reach out for a complementary coaching session (https://calendly.com/bestversion76) and let’s begin the journey towards becoming your best future self with every day that moves toward closing out 2024.

This blog can also be found at: jenniferoney.com.

I was recently prepping to go to my 25th college reunion and a European vacation with my husband and I found myself hung...
06/25/2024

I was recently prepping to go to my 25th college reunion and a European vacation with my husband and I found myself hung up on my choice of white nail polish. This is super low on my list of priorities, but I found myself, for a brief time, obsessing about how I had selected the wrong color.

And can I tell you how awful it felt to do so? I was feeling powerless and uncomfortable thinking about going away and then I decided to focus on the one thing I knew I would not change, my white nail polish.

The truth of the matter is that I had been incredibly anxious about leaving the kids, my dog, and all of the other facets of my life I like to think I can control to a certain degree (which I realize is a huge lie. )

Instead of allowing the uncomfortable feelings I was experiencing, I heaped another one on top, a red herring if you will. And can I tell you that each one of us will do this without realizing it and create more suffering if we aren’t aware of this tendency.

The fix to this situation would have been to get some curiosity and some compassion. The kind that you’d use with a 5-year-old.
Of course, I was uncomfortable leaving my kids. And of course, I came up with an uncomfortable distraction to avoid dealing with the uneasiness I felt about leaving my kids and surrendering my illusion of control for 2 weeks.

Once I realized what my mind had done I was able to embrace the white nail polish selection and be there for myself when the anxiety came up about the situation.
So next time you start obsessing about some trivial thing in your life that doesn’t matter like white nail polish, ask yourself what feeling you are avoiding. Use the curiosity and compassion you would if you were asking a 5-year-old. And that, my friends, is the way out of the extra suffering we so often create.

There is an old story told about a young woman who, in fixing her first Sunday dinner for her new husband, cut the ends ...
05/23/2024

There is an old story told about a young woman who, in fixing her first Sunday dinner for her new husband, cut the ends off of a pot roast, and threw the perfectly good meat into the garbage. Her husband asked her why she was throwing the good meat away.
She stared at him for a minute, and then shrugged her shoulders and said, “I don’t know. It’s something my mother always did.”
Her husband scratched his head and said it didn’t seem to make a lot of sense to him.
So the young lady made a call to her mother. Her mother said, “I don’t know, honey. I always cut the ends off because I saw my mother do it.”
So then a call was placed to grandma, who was able to clarify things. “Sweetie, your mother saw me cut off the ends of a pot roast one Sunday because it was too big to fit in the roasting pan. I had to cut those ends off just because it wouldn’t have otherwise fit. I had no idea she was even watching me!”
“Well, Grandma,” the young woman said, “Mom has tossed out a lot of good meat through the years. But we won’t do it anymore!” Story found here: https://thedisciplemd.com/the-family-pot-roast/

We inevitably inherit traditions, ways of thinking and a myriad of other qualities from our family of origin as exemplified in the story above. Some are incredibly useful and others are not useful in any way. As moms (and dads), I believe it’s our job to unearth these inherited traits/habits and intentionally decide whether or not we want to pass them to our children.

One of the most common characteristics I’ve seen handed down to almost every mom that I’ve ever talked to is “mom guilt.” We tend to feel bad for everything that isn’t the way we think it should be in our children’s life. We take responsibility for so many things that aren’t ours to own.

In fact, I’ve met quite a few moms that won’t allow themselves to read for fun because they think they shouldn’t as it takes away from what they could be doing with their kids or for their families. I’ve seem some moms who feel bad about not spending time with their kids who end up trying to buy their kids more stuff to try and remedy the situation. Guilt can and often creates a shame cycle which makes us absolutely ineffective for our families.

So, do we try to get rid of guilt completely? No. It’s impossible. We can however create a new habit triggered the guilt that comes to us so very often. Instead of going down “guilt avenue” only to feel worse and end up behaving in ways that push us away from who we want to be, we can attach it to a powerful, useful question that we ask ourselves. That question might be: what would love do in this situation (love for both myself and my children)? We each inevitably have our own question that will motivate us to then act proactively, it’s just a matter of finding it. ��I would love to conclude this by inviting you to identify your inherited “pot roast” habits. Once you’ve figured them out, find a powerful question that you can ask yourself each time guilt (or any other unwanted and un-useful feeling) comes up. This is our work if we want to break the dysfunctional cycles in our families, momma’s.

And if you need help in excavating these unseen habits or beliefs that have been passed down to you, I would be honored to explore this in a complimentary coaching session. Sign up here: https://calendly.com/bestversion76

You read the new book. You tried the new food plan. You listened to multiple audio books. You changed your routine. Yet,...
05/17/2024

You read the new book. You tried the new food plan. You listened to multiple audio books. You changed your routine. Yet, you are still feeling like things aren't working as you desire.

Chances are you are blaming yourself for these things not working. You keep seeing how you are falling short as a mom, especially in comparison with the new approach you just tried. Or you are beating yourself up for not sticking to that food plan so that you can feel better by summer.

I think it's healthy to ask how we could do better or differently before completely abandoning our new strategy. To take notice of how it could go better on this next attempt will help to test the new strategy before jumping ship.

That being said, I think there is a way of viewing these desired habits and tools that will change everything for you. Most of us moms are making ourselves wrong when the new habit doesn't work, but what if it's not pointing to us failing rather it's pointing to the new strategy failing us?

After a hardy try at these new approaches and tweaking them to suit our lives, maybe it is time to look for a new habit or tool. Or maybe it's just time to place the blame on the tool and not ourselves. If we completely eliminate viewing ourselves as the failure we give ourselves permission to tweak the new strategy or try a new one altogether.

What if we decided to never again make anything mean that we've failed? What if we decide that it is impossible that we are a failure? This places the focus on the tools that we try out and how they can work to our advantage instead of using them to beat ourselves up. Would a carpenter get angry because the hammer isn't the appropriate tool for the task and start calling himself a failure? Of course not. He would choose a different tool. Instead of looking at something as a failure, let's shift our focus to see it as a learning opportunity!

A great quote from the movie Top Gun illuminates this idea. "A good pilot is compelled to evaluate what's happened, so he can apply what he's learned." Viper [TOP GUN]. Evaluate what's working in your life, and what is not, then continue seeking what best works for you.

(Also found on my blog at jenniferoney.com)

Unless you live in a vacuum you are consistently offered so many thoughts to adopt every single day. Most of the people ...
05/09/2024

Unless you live in a vacuum you are consistently offered so many thoughts to adopt every single day. Most of the people making these suggestions are 100 percent sold on the idea that these aren’t just thoughts, but they are facts and are the way things should be done to get what you want out of life.

Whether it be the well intentioned moms that tell you to enjoy the time with your kids now because it goes so fast and if you blink you will miss it or the momma you follow on instagram that tells you the prescription to successful motherhood is to spend 15.8 minutes a day with each child doing exactly what said child wants to do, there are so many suggestions to grab onto if we so desire.

The problem is not the suggestions we are offered. The issue arises when we start believing these suggestions are the ultimate truth and begin using these offerings as a measuring stick of whether or not we are "good enough."

The fact is that some moms enjoy their children even more when their children grow up. And the often viewed as "mundane" moments, when we are driving our kids to an activity, can be just as precious and conducive to strengthening our relationships as spending an hour of undivided attention with our children.

Which ideas and suggestions have you adopted and believed to be the ultimate truth? Have they become a tool you've used to help move you closer towards who you want to become or a tool to measure yourself in which you always fall short? Chances are, like most of us, you are operating your life around false beliefs that you have unconsciously absorbed over the years. But guess what?! This is your opportunity to identify these misguided suggestions and start fresh. This is the first step to enjoying motherhood more fully and creating lifelong connections with your kiddos.

�PS. Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint the beliefs that have been running you. This is where I can help! Sign up for a complimentary coaching session with me and we will uncover what has been holding you down on your journey as a mom: https://calendly.com/bestversion76.

Many of us moms often go around with an underlying discouraged and an “I could be a better at fill in the blank” feeling...
05/03/2024

Many of us moms often go around with an underlying discouraged and an “I could be a better at fill in the blank” feeling.

We feel overwhelmed by our lists of things to accomplish and as though we are falling short of capturing this time with our kids that everyone likes to remind us is going to fly by so we’d better enjoy every moment (no pressure).

Many of us compare ourselves to the lives of other moms and influencers we see as we scroll on social media. And we don’t feel like we measure up much of the time.

In turn, we either beat ourselves up consciously or numb out to escape feeling disappointment or anxiety. We don’t give ourselves the recognition we deserve for showing up for our families and the love that we show them daily.

We don’t acknowledge what we create for our families from the dentist appointments to the birthday parties that we plan to celebrate them and everything in between.

Many of us feel like we can’t give ourselves credit because we aren’t showing up exactly how we think we are supposed to. This creates a shame spiral and it repeats itself over and over. This in turn prevents us from fully enjoying our lives.

We are convinced we don’t deserve the best because we should be doing it better.

Let me ask you something: when was the last time you evaluated your best friend to make sure she deserved your love and kindness?

For example, many of us think we should keep a tidier house or be a mom who does it all. When we don’t, we beat ourselves up. How many times have you asked your friend about the condition of her house or how much she does as a mom before offering her love?

I'm guessing that you have never asked her these things and it may even sound ridiculous to do such a thing.

Yet we do this to ourselves most of the time.

Mommas: the condition of your house and the amount of love and time we give to our kids has absolutely nothing to do with your worth. Somewhere along the way, we attached the two and it’s time to get back to the truth.

We will never be able to live up to what this world dictates that current moms should be. And once we begin to accept that we were never meant to, we can start enjoying our lives. Does this mean we stop trying to be the best we can be? No. It means we stop chasing the unicorn Pinterest robot version of ourselves that we have been sold (thank you consumerism) and start focusing on what love looks like for ourselves and our families. When we stop running after the impossible, we can step into the greatness that God has for each of our lives.

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