Spirit Horse, Therapy and Training

09/18/2025

Sitting with my last client of the day out in the field, talking about ways we remember to find our kindness, especially when it’s hard, I heard a little sound behind me. It was Mustang Tobi, in the evening golden hour, with a rainstorm rolling along side the mountains behind him. Those moments that take your breath away with beauty, those are the moments we truly are alive.

08/27/2025

What horses have taught me: 🪶 Sometimes talking about our wounds does very little.
Knowing a lot about things doesn’t mean you will always feel better.
These examples are our head trying to figure out problems that our head can’t always figure out.
There is a difference between knowledge and wisdom.
Knowledge is knowing, often talking.
Wisdom is experience, often found in the fluidity of living our lives.
We can be blessed with both but wisdom is what changes us. It’s not enough to think about being soft. You need to be soft in the moments that really count. It’s not enough to think about being heartfelt. You need to be heartfelt in the moments that really count. It’s not enough to think about being vulnerable. You need to be vulnerable in the moments that really count.
☀️These moments will shape you. 💛

06/29/2025

And the other “office” where the atmosphere is always changing

06/27/2025

What a sacred nook for the heart to explore ❤️‍🩹

06/23/2025

05/16/2025

I am currently reading a book on attachment and how early attachment wounds can shape our experience moving forwards - the way people long to be seen, or when they feel a void, or try to have no needs, or become what they think everyone wants them to be. There are so many ways emotional injury or emotional trauma can manifest in a person but there is a cure.
The cure is, find people to become securely attached to.

Easy, right?

Just find someone and attach to them. Sadly, I think we all know I’m being sarcastic. There can be such a complicated dance between two people trying to attach, especially if they both struggle in connection themselves.

For those that work with horses with me know that the premises of the work is to form an attachment to these beautiful, honest, and non-verbal creatures. They help give the feedback around if we are actually attaching and developing relationship or not.

In a healthy attachment:

- A person wants to see their other’s point of view and relate to it, even if its challenging. Also, the other wants to see the person’s point of view and relate to it, even if it is challenging.

- When we are in need, we want to be comforted by our other. Our other finds comfort in us as well when they are in need.

- We truly care about how the other is doing and we trust that the other truly cares about us too.

- If we were in a catastrophic place, either mentally or physically, we would want this other to be there for us. And the other would want us there too.

We crave consistent time with our other and our other craves consistent time with us.

In short, healing happens by sharing your view, allowing yourself to be comforted, caring for others, being there in hard times, and being consistent in your others’ lives.

Its also about listening to points of view, comforting others, allowing ourselves to be cared for, reaching out in hard times, and sharing our life and time with our others.

It will be messy at time, trying to figure out the wounds and triggers from truth, dealing with illogical reactions that make no sense, but those that stick to the principles, they start to feel like they can be themselves, whole, find a balance once balance is lost.

And because it is me, I truly think we can start with building a healthy attachment to a horse, which in someways is much simpler, before we find our skills and heart to attempt it with the people.

05/02/2025

❤️‍🩹

03/24/2025

Spring! 🪻 I can formally tell you are here now 🤣

02/14/2025

A little project for Valentine’s Day to look at the 8 types of love ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜 *according to the Greeks

❤️Romantic love - physical form
🧡Connected love - powerful, shared minds, connect over hard times
💛Familial love - safety, security, support, joy in memories, a sense of belonging to
💚Love for everyone - spiritual love, empathy, forgiveness, trust and acceptance of people
🩵Playful love - excited, playful affection
💙Long lasting love - endured, grown, working towards staying in love
💜Self love - self care and tenderness towards self
🖤Obsessive love - jealous codependency, wanting someone to come in and cure you

“I love you” can mean so many things! How cool we get to be clear with one another on what our love means.

02/12/2025

“When someone has experienced a trauma or a Trauma, they lose their ability to assess situations accurately. Meaning, they often can’t see a situation clearly without creating a story about it being more or less threatening than it is. When someone is overplaying or underplaying a situation from what it is, that points to an emotional wound of theirs.

This gets extra complicated when two people both have traumas around a situation and neither can see it clearly.”

May this help you understand your people and their wounds! 🤍

01/24/2025

A Secret to Relationship 😉 If a horse trusts you, that you have their best intentions, that what you say means something, that it feels good to be around you, they don’t mind learning along side you, going where you go, slowing down and speeding up to be with you, and you with them, your journey with horses is going to be a lot more enjoyable.

And may I say, this is not just with horses, but also in any relationship that we are interested in growing. I often say to clients that we are trying to create an environment for relationship to flourish, be it horses or people. Being hard on them, critical, uninterested, thinking they are lesser than, holding back your heart, these don’t create a good environment for relationship and any relationship you are trying to create will probably die.

So this becomes the art of feeding yourself ways of being that are conducive to health instead of harm. This takes time, intention, and belief that you can (if you want.) 🎨 So let’s keep creating something conducive to healing, relationship, health, and wisdom!