09/17/2025
Healing wasn’t linear, but these are the lessons that carried me through❤️🩹🫶🏽:
1. I accepted survival mode would happen- Some days I was just trying to make it through while juggling the reality of my marriage ending and the responsibilities of life. And that was okay. Survival mode is still moving forward.
2. Time helps, but healing takes work- Time alone didn’t do the healing. I had to choose how I used it by processing feelings, finding ways to move forward, and giving myself the space to grow.
3. I let myself feel everything and also take breaks- I gave myself full permission to rage, cry, and grieve. Sometimes it was with friends, sometimes in therapy, and sometimes alone in my car. And when I needed a break, I went out and reminded myself of the things that made me feel alive again.
4. I leaned on my support system- I had three close friends I rotated between daily whether texting, calling, or meeting up. They carried me when it was too heavy to carry myself alone.
5. I went to therapy-Even as a therapist, I needed my own safe space to process and heal.
6. I set firm boundaries with my ex- During the process I limited how we communicated. After the divorce, I went no contact as it gave me the peace I needed to truly heal.
7. I redefined who I was- For so long, I was “a wife.” Divorce forced me to rediscover who I was on my own along with my passions, my values, my voice.
8. I celebrated small wins- Sometimes the win was simply getting through a day without tears, or laughing again for the first time in weeks. Those little victories were signs of hope.
9. I created new routines and traditions- So much of life had been “ours.” Making new rituals, even small ones, helped me build a life that felt like mine.
Healing wasn’t about “getting over it.” It was about creating a new version of my life that honored my pain and my growth. 🌱
✨ If you’ve been through a divorce (or another big loss), what helped you the most in your healing?
