The Hungry Feminine

09/05/2023

How was your body controlled at a young age? What somatic instincts were you conditioned to ignore? How was your body treated by the people responsible for caring for younger you? How did you receive love physically? And how did you receive something else that masqueraded as love?

12/21/2022

A message for winter.

11/25/2022

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11/23/2022

This isn't without acknowledging external restraints and wounds, for we do have to identify and confront where we learned about our badness, our lack of worth, and whatever ideas of ourselves were inherited without our conscious awareness. But it is inherited, which means it's within us now, and that's where the work is.

11/16/2022

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11/09/2022

11/08/2022

Research is only recently showing us that ADHD and PMDD have a high correlation. This information is game-changing for menstruators with ADHD.

11/07/2022

Why do you think we happen to be here?

11/04/2022

The depth of the earth is not to be avoided.

11/03/2022

Before I went to therapy the first time, I was in a major depressive episode and thought:
-- I don't deserve help
-- I'm suffering because I suck at life, no one can help me with that
-- Friends come to me for help, why can't I help myself?
-- I shouldn't take up a spot that someone who actually needs therapy could have
-- A therapist is only going to shame me for every dumb decision I've ever made. I don't need that.
-- They're going to change me; take away every part of me that I love because some of those parts are also what make me hurt.
-- I should just suck it up and move on.

None of those things -- absolutely zero -- were true.

A good therapist, like my first therapist, will help you find a way to awaken who you are, not destroy it. And if they shame you -- like my second therapist who rolled her eyes at me twice and talked more about herself than I did -- you get the hell out of there and find someone who's actually safe to talk to. Don't let a bad therapy experience take you out of the hunt for someone who can help you.

11/01/2022

I know this because I do this.
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended as clinical advice as it draws from my own personal and professional experiences and does not assert universality. Content created sans your participation in a clinical dyad may not capture your experience entirely or at all, and therefore may not always be best suited for your situation. Reactions, whether resonance or resistance, are best brought to your support people for processing. I am a licensed therapist, but I am not your therapist unless we've entered that relationship together in a clinical environment with informed consent. 🧡
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10/31/2022

This month I played with the concept of ghosts that haunt us from within. This correlates to my own inner world as much as it does to the work I do with clients in therapy. Here are 4 episodes of a little something I call Therapy Ghost Stories.

"I'm inclined to think that we're all ghosts... It's not only the things that we've inherited from our fathers and mothers that live on in us, but all sorts of old dead ideas and old dead beliefs, and things of that sort. They're not actually alive in us, but they're rooted there all the same, and we can't rid ourselves of them..." -Henrik Ibsen

I had fun connecting to my inner ghosts. From shame, to addiction, to unrealized purpose, and the immortal inner child, it was empowering to imagine sometimes-disruptive parts of me in this vivid, creative, and loving (albeit frightfully) kind of way; with personalities, with agendas, with their own kind of protective-love-gone-off-the-rails.

A silly but meaningful way to foster a deeper connection with what makes me me, while adding some light to the shadowy corners.

Happy Halloween! 👻

One need not be a Chamber—to be Haunted—One need not be a House—The Brain has Corridors—surpassingMaterial Place—Far safer, of a Midnight MeetingExternal Gho...

10/26/2022

What do you think?

10/25/2022

An excerpt from my reflection journal as I was processing my 30-something ADHD diagnosis. More essays and journal entries are included in the upcoming Archetypal ADHD program.

To my fellow spacially-impaired folks, I see you. I can't tell exactly how far away you are or if I'm about to walk into you but I do see you.

10/24/2022

Inner work is inherently selfish. But when we make selfishness entirely a bad thing, we overlook the fact that human beings have innate emotional needs and, spoiler alert, we're historically bad at meeting each others' and our own. White-knuckling through emotional needs in order to work, acquiesce, or remain loyal to people who hurt you can actually make us more selfish in our relationships. Ignoring an entire, critical part of you is not the way to community. The key is to do your inner work and then also see how that makes you better out in the world, with the people you love, and the people you don't even know but can empathize with in a deeper way.

10/21/2022

Accurate expression. Fun for the whole family.

10/19/2022

Submitted for your approval.

10/17/2022

Starting therapy can be scary. But use the free consultation to find someone who feels comfortable talking to, minds your boundaries, and challenges you respectfully.