02/01/2026
Left → middle → right.
Not a glow up. A wake up. A nervous system shift.❤️🔥
On the left, I was living in my “good girl” era. Always trying to be chosen. Always trying to be easy to love. I didn’t know who I was. Always needing to be in control so I could assure my needs would get met, and if me being the “good girl” didn’t work I would start to punish so that I could ensure I didn’t have to do this again my nervous system didn’t know how to stop being in this loop. I was operating on such a conditional love. My body was almost always bracing for something.
In the middle, my body told the truth before I could.
Tired. Heavy. Foggy. Lost.
Towards the end of an extremely toxic relationship and I was the heaviest I had ever been. I wanted to get out so bad. I just knew I couldn’t keep living in survival mode.
On the right, this is what safety looks like in a body. Today.
Softer eyes. Brighter Smile. Less tension in my body. Just more regulated.
Codependency doesn’t just live in your thoughts. It lives in your nervous system. In the way you can’t sit still. In the way you breathe because your anxiety is so tense you keep having to gasping for air just to experience physical relief. In the way you wait for the other shoe to drop and prepare for the bad moments again. Things go really good and then there’s the cycle of things getting bad again, to the point where we can almost pinpoint it sometimes.
And healing lives there too.
Somewhere along the way, I learned how to become a safe place for myself. And when I did, I found an amazing relationship that could meet me in that same energy. Steady, unconditional, calm, real. The kind of love that doesn’t make your body feel like it’s always on alert.
If you’re reading this and you can feel the tiredness in your bones, I want you to imagine something else for a second:
You love without feeling depleted. You walk around with a glow because you feel so safe every day.
This isn’t a fantasy, this all can be so real for you. It’s a nervous system learning what safety feels like.
And I want to help you find your way there. ❤️🔥
