Yasmine Khoushab, LMFT #130055

07/31/2024

We expect others to be impeccable to our word. Why? Because it creates consistency, reliability, consideration, and stability. These factors are all important indicators for us to gauge whether the decisions we make are aligned for our wellbeing. But, what if you were the one the was inconsistent, unreliable, inconsiderate, and unstable. How do you trust yourself to make proper choices then? In order for change to happen, as codependents, we have to see where we have failed ourselves so much, that we dismissed how to be impeccable. Being impeccable takes accountability. In order to be impeccable, we need to be trust-worthy and in order to be trust worthy, we must have accountability. ❤️

07/25/2024

This powerful quote reminds us that true safety and security are not things we stumble upon or are given by others—they are things we build for ourselves. In the context of codependency, many people often look to others to feel safe and validated. However, real and lasting safety comes from within, through self-awareness, self-love, and establishing healthy boundaries.

Many of us spend our lives searching for safety externally because we have been enabled to rely on others, rather than developing the skills to create it ourselves. We look to relationships, material possessions, or external validation to feel secure. This cycle can keep us trapped, never truly finding the safety we seek.

Real safety is about empowering yourself to create a stable and fulfilling life. By taking control of your emotional well-being, fostering resilience, and building a strong sense of self, you pave the way for genuine inner peace and security. It’s a journey of self-discovery and growth, where you learn to trust and rely on your own abilities to create the life you deserve. 🌟

07/25/2024

This powerful quote reminds us that true safety and security are not things we stumble upon or are given by others—they are things we build for ourselves. In the context of codependency, many people often look to others to feel safe and validated. However, real and lasting safety comes from within, through self-awareness, self-love, and establishing healthy boundaries.

Many of us spend our lives searching for safety externally because we have been enabled to rely on others, rather than developing the skills to create it ourselves. We look to relationships, material possessions, or external validation to feel secure. This cycle can keep us trapped, never truly finding the safety we seek.

Real safety is about empowering yourself to create a stable and fulfilling life. By taking control of your emotional well-being, fostering resilience, and building a strong sense of self, you pave the way for genuine inner peace and security. It’s a journey of self-discovery and growth, where you learn to trust and rely on your own abilities to create the life you deserve. 🌟

07/16/2024

When people are in conflict, they are often forced to confront and communicate their true feelings, needs, and desires, which might otherwise remain hidden. This process can lead to greater authenticity in relationships and personal interactions, as individuals drop facades and reveal their true selves in order to resolve the issue at hand. Change and growth happens always at the edge of discomfort. If you don’t create room for discomfort, you can’t create room for the new.

07/06/2024

07/05/2024

While identifying as an empath can be seen as a positive trait, offering deep understanding and connection with others, it can also be a manifestation of codependency and a trauma response. Codependency often stems from early experiences where one’s needs were overshadowed by the needs of others, leading to an excessive focus on other people’s emotions and wellbeing.

In this context, calling oneself an empath can be a way to justify or normalize this behavior, masking the underlying issues of unresolved trauma and emotional neglect. Instead of taking pride in this identity, it’s important to recognize that this heightened sensitivity and caretaking may be rooted in a survival mechanism developed during difficult times.

By understanding this, individuals can start to address their own needs, set healthy boundaries, and work towards healing their past traumas. This shift allows for a more balanced approach to empathy, one that includes self-compassion and personal wellbeing alongside the care for others.