Eliz Coaching - Elizabeth Meeshim Hogsten

06/29/2024

I used to agree with the concept of boundaries theoretically. But in practice, I often didn't feel safe saying no to others.

I was afraid I would lose connection with people who were important to me.

I was afraid certain people would like me less or be offended.

I was afraid I wouldn't get promoted to certain positions or chosen for certain opportunities.

In a toxic church, I even watched people have their loyalty, maturity, spirituality, or morals called into question because they wanted to take a break from serving or because they wanted to prioritize family or personally pursuits over the church. ⛪

It took me awhile to realize that there was a COST to overlooking myself and repeatedly saying no to my own desires and preferences. A big cost.

Some boundaries are needed to protect us - we all have (God-given) limits to our energy and capacity. We need to listen to them.

Some boundaries simply honor ourselves - what we want and desire. I believe God created us to be WHOLE selves, not empty vessels that continually pour out.

When I left my toxic church in 2019, God told me, "You are allowed to say No to me." And that brought a profound shift.

How can our yes be meaningful if we are not truly free to say no?

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06/10/2024

Wrote a new blog on boundaries - how they are violated in controlling churches, why they're important, and how to practice having them.

Feel free to share if you know someone who is looking for clarity around boundaries.

https://elizcoaching.com/healing-from-controlling-religion-the-importance-of-boundaries/

02/26/2024

Controlling religion taught me to distrust myself. So a key part of healing from church trauma has been reconnecting with myself, especially with my body.

Controlling religion taught me to distrust myself. So a key part of healing from church trauma has been reconnecting with myself, especially with my body.

01/01/2024

Some journal prompts to start off the year. Looking back and looking forward. Let’s notice the growth, the steadiness, and the possibility. Let’s grieve the losses, acknowledge the uncertainties, and celebrate the joys.

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12/14/2023

Certainty has become a cornerstone of many Christian spaces in a way that shuts down healthy questioning, doubt, and exploration.

What might it look like to reclaim the healthy questioning, vocalization of doubt, and exploration we see in the psalms, gospels, and many other passages of Scripture?

Are you on a journey of faith deconstruction? Where has it brought you thus far?

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12/14/2023

The end of the year is a great opportunity to look back and notice our growth.

What went well? What went terribly? What unexpected surprises found you this year? How have you grown?

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12/11/2023

Is it truth or a belief? Just realizing a narrative isn’t undeniable truth can bring a gust of fresh life into us.

It's scary to let go of familiar narratives. But what possibilities might open up if we do?

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09/25/2023

Hi, I'm Elizabeth! I'm a Religious Trauma Coach who helps people move forward from church hurt. I am a spiritual abuse survivor with over a decade of experience in ministry who believes in the power of questioning, exploration, and self-compassion.

🌱 New faith, new hope, new vision 🌱

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