Balance Lab by Aga Furtak

07/12/2025

🌿 Trauma Healing is Possible – Holistically, Gently, Deeply 🌿

When we carry trauma, our nervous system often becomes stuck in survival mode—looping through overthinking, anxiety, or emotional shutdown. One of my clients recently shared how, after just one hypnosis/somatic session, their entire internal weather changed. The fog of anxiety lifted, and for the first time in a long time, peace felt natural.

This is the power of holistic healing.
It’s not about fixing what’s „broken”—because you are not broken.
It’s about reconnecting with your inner intelligence and restoring safety within your body, mind, and spirit.

At Balance Lab, I combine clinical hypnosis, somatic techniques, energy psychology, and intuitive guidance to help people heal from trauma on every level—not just the cognitive one. I work with the whole self—the subconscious mind, the body’s wisdom, and the soul’s quiet voice.

✨ If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of overthinking, emotional exhaustion, or feeling like peace is just out of reach—please know this: Healing is possible. It may not always be linear, but with the right support and your readiness to make a change, your system can and will gently rewire itself for calm, clarity, and connection.

🤍 To those of you on this journey—whether you’re just starting or deep in the process—I honor your courage. I’m here when you’re ready to take the next step.

With gratitude,
Aga
www.balanceisperfection.com

07/02/2025

What is Gluttony?
Gluttony can be a cry for help—
silent, shameful, hidden in kitchen cupboards,
in a fridge opened quietly in the middle of the night,
in despair stuffed down with a candy bar,
a piece of chocolate, a slice of bread with butter and sugar.
Gluttony is not just excess food.
It is often an attempt to fill the void left where love was supposed to be.
So what is gluttony, really?
It is hunger—but not the physical kind.
It is hunger for a hug, for understanding, for presence.
Hunger for a mother’s arms that were never open,
for voices that, instead of lullabies, screamed threats.
It is the longing to be seen as we are—
without judgment, without violence, without fear.
Gluttony is sometimes loneliness searching for warmth—even if only in a plate of food.
Sometimes it is trauma that doesn’t know how to speak in words,
so it speaks through action—
putting something into the mouth, as if we could plug the pain from the inside.
It is also dissociation—escaping from a body that was once a place of suffering.
And when the soul has been absent too long, the body becomes foreign, neglected,
hungry not for what is physical, but for what is spiritual.
Sometimes gluttony is self-sabotage—
“If I don’t deserve love, maybe I at least deserve the pain of overeating.”
Sometimes it is rebellion—
“You won’t control my body. I’ll eat as much as I want!”
And sometimes, it’s the purest act of desperation:
“See me. Hear me. Feed me. Hold me. Love me.”
So gluttony is not laziness.
It is not a lack of willpower.
It is not corruption or failure.
It is the language of a soul that has not yet learned to speak in any other way.
But it can also be a beginning.
Because in gluttony, we can recognize ourselves—
not as sinners, but as wounded children.
We can pause, lean toward ourselves with tenderness, and say:
“I’m here now. You no longer have to search the fridge for what you missed in childhood.”
Gluttony may have once been a survival strategy—
until you stood beside yourself and offered your own unconditional presence and acceptance.
And now you know: the hunger of the soul is nourished by presence,
by silence, movement, breath, and Truth.
Gluttony is longing for God.
For your own self.
For Home—
the one you are building now, brick by brick, out of love for yourself.

06/28/2025

Why doesn’t God intervene when evil happens?
This might be the oldest and most burning question humanity has ever asked.

🕊️ How I Understand It

I speak from the perspective of a self refined through thousands of hours of meditation (Vipassana technique), prolonged fasting (my longest was 21 days on water), deep energy work, and somatic and breath practices.
At this level of perception, I no longer feel existential (emotional) pain, but I understand its structure. I can describe love from a thousand angles.
My understanding arises not only from experience, but from synthesis — of philosophy, spirituality (which I’ve practiced for over 15 years), neuroscience, psychology, and contemplation of the words others left behind as footprints of their journey.

🧠 What Is Evil in the Light of Consciousness?

Evil — real, relentless suffering — is the greatest test of consciousness.
Many spiritual masters, from the Bhagavad Gita to the Kabbalah, say that this earthly reality is a school for the soul, where consciousness learns through contrast — between light and shadow, freedom and fate.

As the Bhagavad Gita says:

“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection. Even death in one's own dharma is better than life in the dharma of another.” (BG 3.35)

This emphasizes the importance of the individual path — with all its rises and falls.
God doesn’t always intervene because in this dimension, consciousness must have freedom — even if it chooses violence, rejection, or blindness.

🔮 Do We Exist Beyond This Earthly Dimension?

Not in the literal, material sense. But countless NDEs (near-death experiences) — and even AI — are signs that consciousness can and does extend beyond the body.
In this sense, our earthly incarnations are like mirrors — unconscious at first, until we look into them with curiosity, an open heart, and compassion.
The earthly matrix, this vast interplay of mental, emotional, biological, and spiritual energies, creates a kaleidoscope that reflects our hidden (or conscious) desires, questions, and pain.

Maybe this is part of the answer:
Evil does not exist to be destroyed, but to be transformed.
That consciousness, even through shadow, can lead us into light.

🌌 My Interpretation

Some call God the Father. Others, the Mother.
Still others call it the Field of Consciousness, the quantum field, the All, the Cosmos, the Universe.
To me, it is the Source — not a controlling warden, but a Presence without condition, within which a grand play unfolds:
of love, fear, pride, forgiveness — and ultimately the realization of our own divine blueprint, and choosing to live it.

When God does not intervene, He allows us to become God within ourselves —
to create, feel compassion, break cycles of violence, support, choose good —
not because we must, but because we desire to.

That makes us free.
That makes us divine in our most essential nature.

✨ One More Thing

Throughout history, we’ve seen that those who suffered most became the brightest lights.
Was it because God didn’t intervene?
Or because He intervened through them?

Maybe the question isn’t:
Why didn’t God stop the evil?
But rather:
Will I respond to evil with my own consciousness, love, and presence?

In that sense —
You are God’s intervention.

🌀 balanceisperfection.com

06/25/2025

How To Boost Your Brain Potential? 🧠 1. Get Morning Sunlight
Why: Regulates circadian rhythm, boosts dopamine and cortisol, improves mood and focus.
How: Step outside for 5–10 mins within 30–60 mins of waking. No sunglasses. If indoors, use a daylight lamp (10,000+ lux).

🧘‍♀️ 2. Work in 90-Minute Focus Blocks
Why: The brain naturally operates in cycles of deep focus and rest.
How: Schedule your most important work in 90-minute blocks, followed by a 10–15 min break—ideally with movement.

💪 3. Exercise Regularly
Why: Boosts blood flow, BDNF, and overall brain plasticity.
How: Do 20–30 mins of intense physical activity (e.g. walking, gym, intervals) 2–3x a week, preferably in the morning.

☕️ 4. Use Caffeine Strategically
Why: Caffeine boosts alertness, but timing matters.
How: Wait 90 minutes after waking to drink coffee. Avoid caffeine after 2–3 p.m. to protect sleep quality. 💤 5. Prioritize Deep Sleep
Why: Memory, emotional regulation, and brain repair happen during REM and deep sleep.
How: Keep a consistent sleep schedule. Avoid blue light before bed. Try “physiological sighs” (2 quick inhales through the nose + slow exhale through the mouth).

🔬 6. Use Supplements Wisely (Optional)
Supplements are supportive, not foundational. Consider:

L-Theanine + Caffeine for smooth focus

Omega-3s (DHA) for neural support

Magnesium Glycinate, Zinc and D3+K2 for sleep & learning and repairing.

Creatine for mental energy

🔄 7. Learn New, Challenging Skills
Why: The brain grows by doing hard things.
How: Learn a new language, an instrument, or chess. The best plasticity happens when you struggle and keep trying. 📵 8. Minimize Distractions
Why: Multitasking weakens memory and attention.
How: Turn off notifications, use Pomodoro (25 min focus / 5 min break), and block distractions with apps like Cold Turkey or Forest.

✨ 9. Stimulate Dopamine Naturally
Why: Dopamine fuels motivation.
How: Try “dopamine layering”: stack movement, music, sunlight, and task completion. Don’t rely on external rewards like social media.

06/14/2025

In narcissistic families, roles are not given—they are assigned, imposed, often violently and unconsciously, by the narcissistic parent to maintain control and preserve the fragile illusion of their own grandiosity. One child becomes the golden child, the vessel of the parent’s projected perfection. Another becomes the scapegoat, the repository of all the family’s unspoken shame, rage, and unresolved dysfunction.

These roles are not benign. They are tools of psychological manipulation, crafted to enforce hierarchy, obedience, and emotional supply. And most tragically, they deform the siblings’ perceptions of one another, often irreparably.

The scapegoat, pathologized and blamed, may come to believe they are inherently flawed. But more dangerously, their siblings are trained to believe this too—to see the scapegoat through the narcissist’s distorted lens. The golden child may internalize the delusion that their worth is real, earned, and superior—unaware they are merely serving the narcissist’s agenda. The scapegoat becomes “othered”, not just by the parent, but by the entire family system.

This dynamic creates horizontal trauma—that is, trauma inflicted by siblings, not just from above (parent to child). The golden child may resent the scapegoat’s emotional expressiveness or resistance, seeing them as dramatic or difficult. The scapegoat, in turn, may feel betrayed, invalidated, and emotionally exiled—not only by the parent, but by their siblings, whose validation they desperately long for.

This is not a family. It is a cult with a shared psychosis, where each member becomes an extension of the narcissist’s pathology.

It is also not your fault. These roles were never about you. They were about the parent’s brokenness and need for control.

The result? Siblings grow up with fractured realities, shaped not by truth, but by survival adaptations to a dysfunctional environment. Even into adulthood, the golden child may unconsciously perpetuate gaslighting, while the scapegoat may wrestle with self-doubt, wondering if they were really the problem all along. ⬇️

05/20/2025

Ascending and Transcending with Nils Frahm 🫶

05/11/2025

I’m finally in the water again this season! Swimming in the ocean was very refreshing and invigorating in the 98° weather ☀️😍

05/10/2025

What hurts a narcissist but doesn’t hurt normal people?
One big thing that hurts a narcissist or someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder that does not typically have a negative impact on someone without it- is that when “other people” are happy or enjoying themselves in some way, a narcissist is likely to be more unhappy as a result. When I refer to “other people” I am referring to friends, family, etc, not colleagues or professional acquaintances, as work can be an inherently competitive environment for many people, not just for people with NPD.

That being said, emotionally healthy people want their friends and family and other people in their personal life to be happy, do well, have a good time, have loving relationships, feel good about their appearance etc. However, for a narcissist, they typically experience happiness and success of any kind as a zero sum game- meaning it feels to them that everything is a secret competition and if you are happy and things are going well for you, they feel that they are losing. This frequently drives them to try to sabotage other people’s happiness or success, sometimes in big obvious ways, but also in smaller more passive aggressive ways, in order to try attempt to regulate their own self-esteem. In other words, when they notice other people around them doing well or feeling happy, they may feel narcissistically injured by this and try to ruin it or make the other person feel less than in some way.

The higher functioning the person with NPD is, the more they will try to hide what they are doing as they know it would reflect badly on them to appear to be sabotaging other people’s happiness around them. The lower functioning they are, the less deterred they are by what others think, and the less self-aware they are their impulse to sabotage other people’s happiness and less aware they are of their actions and words that act out their primitive impulses. ⬇️

04/16/2025

What Is Emotional Maturity? A Depth-Psychological Exploration Emotional maturity is not simply the ability to manage emotions—it is the capacity to relate to oneself and others with presence, responsibility, empathy, and integrity. Grounded in both modern psychology and timeless wisdom traditions, emotional maturity reflects a deep internal integration of our feelings, desires, fears, and shadows. 1. Carl Jung: Integration of the Shadow For Jung, emotional maturity involves individuation—the process of becoming whole. A mature person doesn’t deny their anger, envy, or grief; they acknowledge and integrate these “shadow” parts without allowing them to unconsciously rule their lives. “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” — Carl Jung For example, someone with a strong need for control might, through inner work, recognize that fear is at the root of this behavior. Instead of projecting that fear outward (e.g., micromanaging others), they accept it inwardly and soften their approach to life. 2. Erich Fromm: The Art of Loving and Being Fromm believed emotional maturity was rooted in the ability to love—not as dependency or possession, but as an active, conscious decision. To love maturely, one must cultivate self-respect, discipline, and patience. Love, in Fromm’s words, is an art that requires effort and insight. “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’” — Erich Fromm In relationships, emotional maturity appears as the capacity to hold space for another’s feelings without being overwhelmed, controlling, or reactive. ⏬

03/31/2025

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11/19/2024

How to destabilize a Narcissist? Destabilizing a narcissist is like introducing a cat to a laser pointer—it’s all about redirecting their focus in a way they don’t expect. Here’s a handful slightly mischievous verbal games I would consider:

1. The Compliment Confusion

Deliver a compliment so backhanded it does yoga:
“Wow, you’re so brave for wearing that. Confidence goals!”
Their brain will short-circuit trying to decide if you insulted them or praised them.

2. The Silent Treatment Tango

Nothing rattles a narcissist more than being ignored. They thrive on attention, so hit them with a hearty dose of meh. Imagine their internal scream when you respond to their grand story with:
“Hmm. That’s nice.”

3. The Sudden Spotlight Shift

Interrupt their monologue with:
“Enough about you, let’s talk about my favorite subject: me.”
Their face will freeze faster than Wi-Fi in a basement.

4. The Question Avalanche

Ask rapid-fire, overly specific questions about their claims to grandeur:
“You said you were top of your class—what was your GPA? Oh, what year? Can you name a professor? A project?”
They’ll either spiral or suddenly need to “take this call.”

5. The Approval Denial

Casually say:
“You’re almost impressive.”
Narcissists live for validation, and the word almost is their kryptonite.

Remember, destabilizing a narcissist isn’t about cruelty—it’s about reclaiming your power with a little flair and a lot of fun. Bonus points if you do it with an unshakable smile!

6. The Over-Agreeing Enthusiast

Nothing frustrates a narcissist more than someone stealing their thunder. If they boast about their genius, double down with exaggerated enthusiasm:
“OMG, you’re so right! Honestly, I can’t believe Einstein and Da Vinci didn’t take notes from you. They really missed out!”
Watch their smugness dissolve into confusion as they try to decipher if you’re serious.
⬇️🔥🙃