Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT

03/02/2022

Your attachment style doesn’t define you but knowing what it is may help to create a baseline awareness of why you act and react the way you do. There is no good or bad attachment style, and our attachment styles can change depending on the situation. Knowing your attachment style and your coparent’s attachment style may create more understanding and awareness. We can also start to tune into our kid’s attachment style as it’s developing. Awareness brings about the ability to create positive changes and develop more compassion. 💜 🕊

02/09/2022

08/19/2021

I am thrilled to be assisting Kara Hoppe, MA, LMFT in teaching a virtual couple retreat based on her new book "Baby Bomb- A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents" coauthored with Stan Tatkin. It's for expecting couples and parents of babies and children of all ages. If you know anyone who may benefit please pass on the info. We hope and expect for the retreat to sell out quickly. Here's the link with all the details! https://www.karahoppe.com/couple-retreats?fbclid=IwAR2ZkXHRL2O9NqcYKpSn7LFVVbw2enMl-7Igf6OBTCM-knWbC3P2nr7sa6M

Ready for the secret to becoming successful parents? It’s your relationship—keep it happy, healthy, romantic, and connected. Kara Hoppe, couple therapist and author of Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, presents a revolutionary approach to parenting that will help your re...

09/23/2020

Hi all! I’m delighted to share with you my second article published in the PACT newsletter. Secure functioning isn’t just for married couples, but also for those of you in a co-parenting relationship where the child reaps the benefits.

Learning how to co-parent is complicated. It’s a partnership full of emotional undertones and adjustments. Being divorced or separated and having to juggle the co-parenting realities adds layers of coordination and factors to consider.

03/20/2020

Stephen Porges: Countering the effects of social distancing

“Social distancing and separation are a big part of what is needed to deal with the pandemic. In this short conversation, we talk about how to counter their effects: we still need to be sensitive to our nervous system’s need to socially engage and connect.”

To counter the effects of social distancing and separation, we need to be sensitive to our nervous system's need to socially engage and connect.

10/29/2019

My article was published today in the PACT newsletter. It’s on the topic of the co-parenting partnership in a divorced/separated family system and how co-parents can create common purpose and reduce stress for themselves and their kids.
https://www.thepactinstitute.com/blog/the-big-win-what-divorcing-parents-and-their-kids-want.

The marriage and relationship have ended, and you wish you could just say goodbye to each other and move on. But . . . you have kids.

10/29/2019

My article was published today in the PACT newsletter. It’s focus is on how to create common purpose and reduce the stress of divorce for the co-parents and their kids.

The marriage and relationship have ended, and you wish you could just say goodbye to each other and move on. But . . . you have kids.

02/07/2019

Did you ever wonder why you just DO or DON’T trust someone? Check out Brene Brown’s breakdown of the anatomy of trust that may leave you with that ah ha feeling- now I get it. 😋 Enjoy.

Our revolution is a small, quiet, grassroots movement that starts with each of us saying, “My story matters because I matter.” A movement where we can take to the streets with our messy, imperfect, wild, stretch-marked, wonderful, heartbreaking, grace-filled, and joyful lives. A movement fueled ...

01/18/2019

https://stantatkinblog.wordpress.com/2014/03/16/betrayal-causes-trauma/

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, stantatkin.com In matters of betrayal—lying, cheating, stealing—the breach of the attachment system is acute and often long lasting and can be understood neurologically a…

12/07/2018

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