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09/07/2025

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?
Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group, and I as we walk through the importance of honesty in the healing process after Partner Betrayal. We will discuss the importance of cleaning up the past as well as ongoing relational honesty & what it looks like and what it isn't.

Watch the full episode now: https://www.youtube.com/live/DcXnJI8JB9A?si=VyM87ZBVU4C1w3Qa

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Direct...

09/05/2025

Check out Dan LIVE today on an episode of "Come to the Table Ministry" at 10am PST!

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Direct...

09/02/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. In this episode, Dan Drake Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein take on a powerful listener's question about the binge-purge subtype of s*x addiction. When someone stops their acting out behavior for long stretches of time, it can look like sobriety but is it actually recovery, or just a temporary pause in the addiction cycle?

The discussion explores what binge-purge really means (and how it's different from recovery, sobriety, or even cross-addiction), how to identify signs of “acting in” behaviors like emotional shutdown or passive-aggressiveness, and why some partners still feel unsafe even when no s*xual acting out is occurring.

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They haven’t acted out in a while but is it recovery… or just the purge phase?In this episode, Dan Drake Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein take on a powerful lis...

08/27/2025

In this deep and practical conversation, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein explore the difference between sobriety and true recovery. Sobriety is what someone doesn't do. Recovery is what they do. And that distinction makes all the difference.

Using analogies like beach balls under water, binge/purge cycles, and emotional suppression, they unpack the red flags that indicate when someone might be suppressing behaviors rather than healing and what it actually looks like when someone is leaning into recovery with vulnerability, honesty, and consistent action.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/Da6Io-fV_Oo

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How can you tell if someone is truly in recovery or just white-knuckling their way through another cycle of s*x addiction?In this deep and practical conversa...

08/21/2025

🎙️ Dan Drake Discusses "Recovery Fatigue" on the "Becoming Whole" Podcast

Recovery fatigue—it’s a rarely discussed but all-too-common experience for men rebuilding after betrayal. What happens when the meetings, check-ins, and recovery work start to feel overwhelming or ineffective?

Dan Drake, founder of Banyan Therapy Group and a LMFT with over 20 years of experience, dives into this important topic on the latest episode of "Becoming Whole."

He shares powerful insights on recovery motivation: "If I'm checking boxes trying to do these things to get my wife back and stop her from pestering me, that's going to be a different motivation than 'I get to do these things to thrive and become a better human being.'”

✨ Tune in now to gain valuable tools for navigating recovery. Link in bio!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-fatigue/id1372876594?i=1000722646189

08/20/2025

🌱 The Illusion of Connection
In Wired magazine’s article, "Confessions of a Recovering AI P**n Addict," Monifa Ellis-Addie, a therapist at Banyan Therapy Group, shares her insights:

“AI creates a kind of ‘faux intimacy.’ It can feel like connection, but without the depth of real relationships, it can lead to emotional detachment.”

At Banyan, we’re here to help you rediscover the roots of authentic connection. 💚

✨ Dive deeper into the article—read it now at the link below:
https://www.wired.com/story/confessions-of-a-recovering-ai-p**n-addict/

A “gooner” tells WIRED he became hooked on the cartoonish nature of AI p**n. Several addiction experts say the genre could pose a problem for people prone to compulsive s*xual behavior.

08/19/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. In this gripping episode, Rebecca Crews shares the night everything unraveled. It was February 10, 2010, what they now call D‑Day. Her husband, Terry Crews, was on set across the country. One unanswered call turned into a sickening gut feeling, and by morning, a marriage-shattering confession.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/7R-8XmDNJxA

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What happens when your gut screams at you that something is seriously wrong and you're finally brave enough to listen?In this gripping episode, Rebecca Crews...

08/08/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose.

Designed for those who’ve already begun their sobriety journey, Allan’s book introduces his VIP model Values, Integrity, Purpose and explores how distractions like technology, work, relationships, and emotional disconnection can keep people from living a fulfilling life post-addiction.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/M_8hRNOsqdg
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-geyns-1915f2d

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In this episode, Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose.Designed for those w...

08/05/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. Kim Litton with raw honesty, she opens up about her journey from addiction and trauma to freedom and recovery, offering a powerful message: hope is real, and healing is possible.

Kim speaks about the myths and misconceptions around female s*x and love addiction, the impact of childhood wounds, and how the desire to be seen and valued shaped her early relationships. This isn’t just a story of recovery, it’s a testimony of reclaiming self-worth, breaking generational patterns, and finding true freedom.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/vG4uGxdtMBE
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-nm3hw-1915f07

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Kim Litton with raw honesty, she opens up about her journey from addiction and trauma to freedom and recovery, offering a powerful message: hope is real, and healing is possible.Kim speaks about the myths and misconceptions around female s*x and love addiction, the impact of childhood wounds, and ho...

07/31/2025

Adam Nisenson speaks about the overlooked emotional journey of men navigating betrayal trauma. He introduces the 7 stages of what he calls masculine betrayal trauma—a healing framework that includes taboo topics like ego wounds, self-worth, suppressed anger, competitiveness, and intrusive thoughts.

Adam shares how men often internalize pain, avoid vulnerability, and struggle with the concept of safety in relationships. From unhealthy fantasies to the courage it takes to cry, this discussion challenges outdated beliefs around masculinity and healing.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/gzRleXTTrZg
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ju355-1915f29

Adam Nisenson speaks about the overlooked emotional journey of men navigating betrayal trauma. He introduces the 7 stages of what he calls masculine betrayal trauma, a healing framework that includes taboo topics like ego wounds, self-worth, suppressed anger, competitiveness, and intrusive thoughts....

07/29/2025

Dr. Ken Adams, renowned clinician, author, and expert in the field of s*x addiction treatment—joins Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone live from the IITAP Symposium to discuss his groundbreaking new book Light in the Dark co-authored with Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, this book is the first of its kind to give voice to the lived experiences of adult children of s*x addicts.

Whether you’re a clinician, a survivor, or someone looking to understand the intergenerational impact of s*xual addiction in families, this episode offers hope, clarity, and a new lens for healing.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses topics related to family trauma, s*xual addiction, and shame. Please listen with care.

Learn more about Light in the Dark and Ken’s work at kennyadamsphd.com

Youtube - https://youtu.be/rf7qvZY3FLo
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-f86ev-1915ef3

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Dr. Ken Adams, renowned clinician, author, and expert in the field of s*x addiction treatment—joins Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone live from the IITAP Symposium to discuss his groundbreaking new book Light in the Dark co-authored with Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, this book is the firs...

07/15/2025

Dr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by s*xual secrets and betrayal.

Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion, shame, and broken trust that ripple through families affected by s*x addiction.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/pTZYSVej1W4
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-22tjd-18fc38a

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Dr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by s*xual secrets and betrayal.Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion...