Banyan Therapy Group

10/02/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released: When Therapists Miss the Mark: Betrayal Trauma, Addiction Recovery & Outdated Advice

What happens when a betrayed partner feels invalidated, not only by the one who hurt them, but also by a professional who should be offering support? In this...

09/30/2025

What happens when a betrayed partner is told that their trauma is detrimental to an addict’s recovery?

In this discussion, we unpack why this perspective is outdated, harmful, and rooted in misunderstanding.

We explore the difference between sobriety and true recovery, how shame resiliency plays a role, and why betrayal trauma responses are valid—not intentional attempts to sabotage healing. Recovery requires accountability, empathy, and facing reality, not avoidance.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/PjrF7b2l3xA

What happens when a betrayed partner is told that their trauma is detrimental to an addict’s recovery? In this discussion, we unpack why this perspective is ...

09/22/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. How has purity culture in evangelical Christianity shaped views on lust, s*x addiction, and shame and what needs to change?

In this powerful conversation with Tabitha Westbrook we unpack how distorted teachings about lust and responsibility create division between men and women in the church. They discuss the deep harm these messages cause, the rising incidence of addictive behaviors, and the urgent need for the church to evolve.

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How has purity culture in evangelical Christianity shaped views on lust, s*x addiction, and shame and what needs to change?In this powerful conversation with...

09/18/2025

We will be exploring the language around binge/purge cycles, acting in versus acting out, and the idea of switching addictions or the “whack-a-mole” effect. The discussion digs into the difference between sobriety and recovery, why consistency matters, and what partners can look for when trying to determine if change is genuine.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/irQwzkXak40

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We will be exploring the language around binge/purge cycles, acting in versus acting out, and the idea of switching addictions or the “whack-a-mole” effect.T...

09/07/2025

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?
Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group, and I as we walk through the importance of honesty in the healing process after Partner Betrayal. We will discuss the importance of cleaning up the past as well as ongoing relational honesty & what it looks like and what it isn't.

Watch the full episode now: https://www.youtube.com/live/DcXnJI8JB9A?si=VyM87ZBVU4C1w3Qa

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Direct...

09/05/2025

Check out Dan LIVE today on an episode of "Come to the Table Ministry" at 10am PST!

Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Direct...

09/02/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. In this episode, Dan Drake Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein take on a powerful listener's question about the binge-purge subtype of s*x addiction. When someone stops their acting out behavior for long stretches of time, it can look like sobriety but is it actually recovery, or just a temporary pause in the addiction cycle?

The discussion explores what binge-purge really means (and how it's different from recovery, sobriety, or even cross-addiction), how to identify signs of “acting in” behaviors like emotional shutdown or passive-aggressiveness, and why some partners still feel unsafe even when no s*xual acting out is occurring.

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They haven’t acted out in a while but is it recovery… or just the purge phase?In this episode, Dan Drake Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein take on a powerful lis...

08/27/2025

In this deep and practical conversation, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein explore the difference between sobriety and true recovery. Sobriety is what someone doesn't do. Recovery is what they do. And that distinction makes all the difference.

Using analogies like beach balls under water, binge/purge cycles, and emotional suppression, they unpack the red flags that indicate when someone might be suppressing behaviors rather than healing and what it actually looks like when someone is leaning into recovery with vulnerability, honesty, and consistent action.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/Da6Io-fV_Oo

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How can you tell if someone is truly in recovery or just white-knuckling their way through another cycle of s*x addiction?In this deep and practical conversa...

08/21/2025

🎙️ Dan Drake Discusses "Recovery Fatigue" on the "Becoming Whole" Podcast

Recovery fatigue—it’s a rarely discussed but all-too-common experience for men rebuilding after betrayal. What happens when the meetings, check-ins, and recovery work start to feel overwhelming or ineffective?

Dan Drake, founder of Banyan Therapy Group and a LMFT with over 20 years of experience, dives into this important topic on the latest episode of "Becoming Whole."

He shares powerful insights on recovery motivation: "If I'm checking boxes trying to do these things to get my wife back and stop her from pestering me, that's going to be a different motivation than 'I get to do these things to thrive and become a better human being.'”

✨ Tune in now to gain valuable tools for navigating recovery. Link in bio!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-fatigue/id1372876594?i=1000722646189

08/20/2025

🌱 The Illusion of Connection
In Wired magazine’s article, "Confessions of a Recovering AI P**n Addict," Monifa Ellis-Addie, a therapist at Banyan Therapy Group, shares her insights:

“AI creates a kind of ‘faux intimacy.’ It can feel like connection, but without the depth of real relationships, it can lead to emotional detachment.”

At Banyan, we’re here to help you rediscover the roots of authentic connection. 💚

✨ Dive deeper into the article—read it now at the link below:
https://www.wired.com/story/confessions-of-a-recovering-ai-p**n-addict/

A “gooner” tells WIRED he became hooked on the cartoonish nature of AI p**n. Several addiction experts say the genre could pose a problem for people prone to compulsive s*xual behavior.

08/19/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. In this gripping episode, Rebecca Crews shares the night everything unraveled. It was February 10, 2010, what they now call D‑Day. Her husband, Terry Crews, was on set across the country. One unanswered call turned into a sickening gut feeling, and by morning, a marriage-shattering confession.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/7R-8XmDNJxA

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What happens when your gut screams at you that something is seriously wrong and you're finally brave enough to listen?In this gripping episode, Rebecca Crews...

08/08/2025

New quick conversations episode has been released. Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose.

Designed for those who’ve already begun their sobriety journey, Allan’s book introduces his VIP model Values, Integrity, Purpose and explores how distractions like technology, work, relationships, and emotional disconnection can keep people from living a fulfilling life post-addiction.

Youtube - https://youtu.be/M_8hRNOsqdg
Podbean - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-geyns-1915f2d

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In this episode, Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of S*x Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose.Designed for those w...