Pamela J. Warren Psychotherapy

10/29/2019

What a great reminder...

I woke up this morning and I realized first thing that I had completely forgotten to write and post my gratitude list last night! One thing I’m grateful for today is that I didn’t spend a single minute beating myself up for that. I have already wasted way too much of my life piling on for things I can’t change. What I do instead now: I ask myself if there’s anything I can learn.
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today: waking up safe and sound in bed after so many near of us were evacuated during the night; being able to leave for a last minute trip to legoland to get out of the smoke; a safe drive; E working so hard; E not having to go to school; having so much fun on our first trip to legoland; perfect weather, no lines; laughing with O; O telling me that there’s some good in the bad and some bad in the good; meeting up with friends and riding roller coasters; O making a new friend at the pool then eating dinner together; the wait staff singing happy bday to O and him giving 2 of his 3 mini cupcakes to his new friend; a dance party; finally making it back to the room to crash out; self-compassion in action.

09/15/2018

REDEFINE YOUR GOALS...

07/10/2018

An act of today:

Look at something completely out of your ordinary viewpoint .

06/30/2018

I love this self-compassion writing exercise....

Recent research suggests a new tool women can use to improve body image.

06/07/2018

Cultivating the capacity to be in the present moment....

Six powerful steps you can take to transform your inner and outer reality.

06/07/2018

The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
— Jellaludin Rumi

06/05/2018

Following The Current
Going With The Flow
The expression going with the flow is a metaphor that applies to navigating a river. When we go with the flow, we follow the current of the river rather than push against it. People who go with the flow may be interpreted as lazy or passive, but to truly go with the flow requires awareness, presence, and the ability to blend one's own energy with the prevailing energy. Going with the flow doesn't mean we toss our oars into the water and kick back in the boat, hoping for the best. Going with the flow means we let go of our individual agenda and notice the play of energy all around us. We tap into that energy and flow with it, which gets us going where we need to go a whole lot faster than resistance will.
Going with the flow doesn't mean that we don't know where we're going; it means that we are open to multiple ways of getting there. We are also open to changing our destination, clinging more to the essence of our goal than to the particulars. We acknowledge that letting go and modifying our plans is part of the process. Going with the flow means that we are aware of an energy that is larger than our small selves and we are open to working with it, not against it.
Many of us are afraid of going with the flow because we don't trust that we will get where we want to go if we do. This causes us to cling to plans that aren't working, stick to routes that are obstructed, and obsess over relationships that aren't fulfilling. When you find yourself stuck in these kinds of patterns, do yourself a favor and open to the flow of what is rather than resisting it. Trust that the big river of your life has a plan for you and let it carry you onward. Throw overboard those things that are weighing you down. Be open to revising your maps. Take a deep breath and move into the current.
DailyOM...