Evie Shafner, LMFT

Evie Shafner, LMFT As a Marriage & Family Counselor specializing in Imago Therapy, I provide services ranging from couples to individual therapy for all seeking healing.

Imago therapy is an amazing relationship technology that very quickly gets us back to safe communication and experiencing our partner as a source of emotional safety, and passionate friendship. In my 35 years of working with couples as a specialty, Imago is the best system I have known to get us back to that feeling that we had in the beginning of our relationship. Its structured communication tec

hniques distinguish it from all other types of couples therapy. the process itself feels very nonthreatening to both partners. I believe the only part of us that is real, our essence, cannot be harmed and no matter what has happened to us, with compassionate coaching and support, we can take the helm of our own lives and learn to move towards the peace and happiness we long for. Watch Evie discuss her practice and Imago Therapy here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rf81SPNe-JY

You can be in the same room and still feel miles apart. It’s called the Invisible Divorce, when the space between you an...
08/06/2025

You can be in the same room and still feel miles apart.

It’s called the Invisible Divorce, when the space between you and your partner feels cold, distant, or just empty.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way ⤵️

1️⃣ Speak from your values, not your triggers.

2️⃣ Be your own source of strength and approval.

3️⃣ Keep mystery and connection alive by staying true to you.

Passion fades when we forget to tend to the space between us. Rebuild it with compassion, self-responsibility, and a little adult brain power.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Ever find yourself saying something in an argument and instantly regretting it? That’s your Toddler Brain talking! It’s ...
08/04/2025

Ever find yourself saying something in an argument and instantly regretting it?

That’s your Toddler Brain talking! It’s the part of us that reacts fast, blames big, and disconnects hard.

But there’s good news, you can train your brain to pause and connect instead ⤵️

💗 Toddler Brain reacts and creates conflict.

💗 Adult Brain responds and builds connection.

💗 You can train your brain to choose love over war.

Start practicing those Adult Brain phrases now, yes, even when you don’t feel like it! The more you do, the easier it gets.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Want to know if you and your partner are really a team? Being on the same team in your relationship means you lift each...
07/30/2025

Want to know if you and your partner are really a team?

Being on the same team in your relationship means you lift each other up not keep score or tear each other down.

Here’s what being a true team looks like ⤵️

1️⃣ You don’t sweat the small stuff.
You let things go instead of turning every irritation into a fight.

2️⃣ You treat yourself kindly.
Because how you talk to yourself affects how you treat your partner.

3️⃣ You don’t keep score.
Some days one of you gives more, and that’s okay. That’s love.

Being a team means showing up with kindness, patience, and a little cheerleading along the way.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Breakups can feel like your heart is actually breaking and in a way, it is.Even if the relationship needed to end, your ...
07/28/2025

Breakups can feel like your heart is actually breaking and in a way, it is.

Even if the relationship needed to end, your body and mind might still feel shattered. That’s normal, and you’re not alone.

Here’s why ⤵️

💗 Our brains are wired to fear losing connection.

💗 Your brain goes into “addiction mode,” which is why you feel pain, anxiety, or even like you’ll never heal.

💗 Old wounds like feeling not good enough often come flooding back.

But the truth is you can recover with help, support, and time. Healing will come.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Is your phone keeping you from your partner?Social media isn’t the enemy, but it can become an escape when our relations...
07/23/2025

Is your phone keeping you from your partner?

Social media isn’t the enemy, but it can become an escape when our relationship starts to feel disconnected. Instead of scrolling away the distance, it’s time to reconnect ⤵️

1️⃣ If you’re turning to your phone instead of your partner, it’s a sign to look inward.

2️⃣ Put down the phone and have a healing conversation.

3️⃣ When we speak with kindness and love, we can ask for connection, even screen-free time, and actually get it.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Living AND working with your partner? It’s easy to get snappy when you’re together 24/7, especially during stressful tim...
07/21/2025

Living AND working with your partner?

It’s easy to get snappy when you’re together 24/7, especially during stressful times. But there’s a powerful shift that can change everything

Here’s how to stay sane and kind ⤵️

❤️ Irritation adds up, skip the sighs and eye rolls.

❤️ Notice when you’re in “toddler brain”, reacting fast and harsh.

❤️ Choose your “adult brain”, pause, breathe, and respond with kindness.

You may not control the world right now, but you can control how you show up in your relationship, and that’s powerful.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Do you sometimes wish people were kinder? You’re not alone. We’re not born knowing how to handle emotions or talk kindly...
07/16/2025

Do you sometimes wish people were kinder?

You’re not alone.

We’re not born knowing how to handle emotions or talk kindly when upset. These are learned skills, and they can change everything.

Here are 3 social skills that make life better for everyone ⤵️

1️⃣ Stay calm when you’re triggered.
Breathe first, speak second.

2️⃣ Ask questions and show real interest in others.

3️⃣ Apologize instead of defending.
It’s not about being wrong, it’s about being kind.

Even small acts of kindness ripple out. Let’s all practice being better humans.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Feeling stuck in a life you don’t like? You’re not alone, there’s a way out. Sometimes it feels like life is too hard to...
07/14/2025

Feeling stuck in a life you don’t like?

You’re not alone, there’s a way out.

Sometimes it feels like life is too hard to handle. But what if the problem isn’t just your life, it’s how you talk to yourself?

Here’s how to start shifting that pain ⤵️

1️⃣ Be kind to yourself and stop the self-blame.

2️⃣ Know that change starts with small loving steps.

3️⃣ You can learn to accept yourself even when it’s hard.

There’s no perfect path, just the courage to begin. You don’t have to believe it yet, just start.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Feeling hopeless doesn’t mean you’re broken, it means you’re human. Hopelessness can sneak in when life feels out of our...
07/09/2025

Feeling hopeless doesn’t mean you’re broken, it means you’re human.

Hopelessness can sneak in when life feels out of our control, illness, rejection, deep loss, or even the voice in our head saying we’re not enough. But there’s always something to connect to, love, awareness, life itself.

Even in dark moments, healing is possible ⤵️

1️⃣ Hopelessness is often a sign we’ve lost connection with others or ourselves.

2️⃣ Accepting our reality with compassion is the first step to relief.

3️⃣ You are not alone, reach out, reflect, and remind yourself of your inner strength.

Healing may not be instant, but it begins the moment you stop resisting and start holding yourself with love.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to receive love, even when it’s right there? Sometimes, we try to heal childhood wounds wit...
07/07/2025

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to receive love, even when it’s right there?

Sometimes, we try to heal childhood wounds with people who feel just like the ones who hurt us. It’s not your fault, you just want to feel “good enough” at last.

But true healing doesn’t come from fixing the past. It comes from loving yourself now. Keep these things in mind ⤵️

❤️ Old wounds can trick us into chasing love from the wrong people.
❤️ Self-hatred can block the love we truly deserve.
❤️ Healing starts with self-acceptance and learning to set healthy boundaries.

You deserve a love that feels safe, warm, and true, starting with the love you give yourself.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

Is your phone stealing your connection?We all love our screens, but too much time on them can quietly erode the connecti...
07/03/2025

Is your phone stealing your connection?

We all love our screens, but too much time on them can quietly erode the connection with those we care about most. Real intimacy doesn’t come from screen time, it comes from heart time.

Here are 3 connection-boosting reminders ⤵️

1️⃣ Lead with curiosity, not criticism.

2️⃣ Make space for check-ins without judgment.

3️⃣ Create small, sacred rituals of presence (like a real hello!).

It’s not about rigid rules, it’s about building an emotional bridge that works for both of you.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

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173 S Orange Drive
Los Angeles, CA
90036

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Tuesday 9am - 5pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
Friday 9am - 5pm

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