Maya Nehru Coaching

08/08/2025

“I’m fine” can be a reflex.
It’s short. It’s polite.
And it often hides what’s really going on.

You might say it because:
- You don’t want to burden others with your feelings.
- You’re not sure how you feel yet, & “fine” feels safer than explaining.
- You fear judgment or rejection if you share the truth.
- You’re used to minimizing your needs to keep the peace.

The problem? Every time you default to “I’m fine” when you’re not, you reinforce the idea that your real feelings are too much, inconvenient, or unwelcome.

So save this list for a quick guide for what you vanish say instead.

You don’t have to spill your life story every time someone asks how you are.
But even small shifts toward honesty can help you feel more grounded, connected, & seen.

08/07/2025

If you struggle to know where your boundaries are, you’re not alone. Many of us were taught to focus on being liked, agreeable, or helpful, often at the expense of tuning into what we actually need.

Reflective questions help you reconnect with your internal cues - your feelings, energy, discomfort, & values. These cues are the foundation of your boundaries.

Because you can’t set boundaries you haven’t first identified. So use these questions as a starting place.

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08/06/2025

I saw this quote the other day & had to share: “You are not disturbing the peace. You are disturbing the dysfunction.” 🤯👏🏽

In systems where dysfunction has been normalized, whether in families, friendships, or workplaces, asserting your needs can feel disruptive. But, like I’ve said before, that discomfort isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong. It’s often the nervous system’s reaction to long-standing patterns being challenged.

Healthy relationships make space for honesty, repair, & growth. If speaking up “causes problems,” the problem likely existed long before your voice did. Comment below if this quote resonates with you!

08/05/2025

For the days that feel overwhelming, overstimulating, & just deeply difficult. Use these mantras to anchor yourself in the moment & in your body. ⚓️

Which one speaks to you?

08/04/2025

It’s that you’ve been directing them toward people who were never able — or willing — to meet them.

When we grow up in environments where emotional needs are dismissed, minimized, or pathologized…
we often internalize the idea that we’re the problem.

So we stop asking.
Or we shrink what we ask for.
Or we seek closeness from people who feel familiar — not necessarily safe.

Here’s the shift:
It’s not too much to want reciprocity, clarity, care, or emotional presence.
It’s just not sustainable to keep asking people who are unavailable to give it.

You don’t need to lower your needs.
You need to raise your standards for who you offer them to.

08/03/2025

Setting boundaries can feel terrifying, especially if you’re used to keeping the peace, reading the room, or prioritizing everyone else’s comfort before your own.

But the fear you feel isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong. It’s a sign you’re doing something different. Something brave. Something healing.

When setting boundaries feels scary, come back to these reminders. You’re not being mean. You’re being honest. You’re not pushing people away. You’re protecting your peace. You’re not breaking the connection, you’re learning how to make it sustainable.

07/31/2025

PSA: you don’t have to be available for everyone all the time! In fact, your mental & physical health need you not to be.

I know it’s hard to set that boundary & create time & space for yourself. But listen to this: constant availability can lead to things like burnout, resentment, & nervous system dysregulation. When you’re always “on,” your brain doesn’t get the rest it needs to process stress or recharge.

Protecting your time & energy creates space for emotional regulation, self-reflection, & clarity. Basically, it’s psychological hygiene!

07/28/2025

When your safety depended on harmony, of course you became the one who noticed what others needed first.

This isn’t about being “too sensitive” or “overthinking everything.” It’s about a nervous system that learned early on that attunement = survival.

If you’re tired, anxious, or resentful from always being the emotional barometer in the room — that makes complete sense.
And you’re allowed to unlearn it.
You’re allowed to choose presence over performance.
You’re allowed to ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Because, spoiler alert: you matter too. 🫶🏽

07/27/2025

Self-love can be a part of your every day. 💕 It’s making choices that support your well-being, even when they feel uncomfortable.
It’s turning down plans when you’re emotionally exhausted.
It’s giving yourself permission to rest before you hit burnout.
It’s recognizing that your needs matter, even when they inconvenience others.

The more you consistently meet your own needs, the safer your body starts to feel with itself. Giving yourself a sense of safety? That’s love.
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07/25/2025

Regulating your nervous system doesn’t have to be complicated.
It’s often found in the small, repeatable moments: warm food, deep breaths, soft textures, natural light.
Moments where you remember your body isn’t the enemy & it’s something to nurture.
Life can be chaotic & stressful, so yes - you’re probably overstimulated more often than you realize.
And you’re allowed to choose habits that gently remind your system it’s safe to slow down. ✨🙏🏽 So take a moment to check in with yourself & ask what your nervous system is needing right now.

07/24/2025

PSA - You’re not difficult, you’re just no longer ignoring your needs.

For so long, you may have been praised for being easygoing, low maintenance, flexible, or “chill.” But what they really meant was: you didn’t ask for much.

Now that you’re tuning into what actually feels good, safe, & right for you, it might feel like you’re being “too much” or “hard to please.”
You’re not.
You’re just finally being honest about what you need - & that’s a powerful step in healing.

09/26/2024