
09/25/2025
I recently had dinner with a couple whose conversation left me unsettled by the growing trend of outsourcing motherhood to nannies.
I listened as the wife proudly explained that having a nanny allows her to focus on her career and income, while her husband’s role diminished in comparison.
I couldn’t help but reflect on how, unlike the upper class of a century ago where employing help was limited to the wealthy, today it’s become a fashionable means to avoid the very real, transformative challenge of being a parent.
I worry that this modern pursuit of a “lifestyle” free from the disruptions of raising a child not only erodes the authentic experience of motherhood, but also diminishes the essential life lessons that come from engaging directly with parenthood.
I believe that by outsourcing such a fundamental duty, we risk losing touch with the raw, human experiences that truly enrich our lives and those of our children.
They wish to return to a past they have not earned