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Shrink at the Movies Ken serves a wide variety of adults in and around Los Angeles, California, including creative professionals in the entertainment industry.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST is a licensed psychotherapist (California Licensed Clinical Social Worker LCS18290) and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, as well as life/career/relationship/executive coach in Hollywood with over 31 years experience.

Many people say they find movies inspirational."Captain America: The Winter Soldier" sure inspired me to check out star ...
04/07/2014

Many people say they find movies inspirational.

"Captain America: The Winter Soldier" sure inspired me to check out star Chris Evans' workout plan; that ain't no foam-padded suit he's wearing (especially in the tank-top scenes). I had to know his secrets, and (well, except for the likely steroid-dosing part, which I'm sure will remain hush-hush) here are at least some:

http://www.printfriendly.com/print?url=http%3A%2F%2Fhealthyceleb.com%2Fchris-evans-workout-routine-and-diet-plan-for-captain-america%2F11939

Create a Print Friendly version of any webpage.

My great-aunt, Esther Howard, appeared in "Caged" with Eleanor Parker in 1950, a ground-breaking film about women in pri...
12/10/2013

My great-aunt, Esther Howard, appeared in "Caged" with Eleanor Parker in 1950, a ground-breaking film about women in prison.

We named our miniature-Dachshund, "Elsa", after the Baroness in "The Sound of Music".

RIP, Miss Parker.

http://variety.com/2013/film/news/eleanor-parker-dead-sound-of-music-baroness-1200938106/

Oscar-nominated actress Eleanor Parker, best known today for her role as the Baroness, the lady friend of Captain Von Trapp who loses out to Julie Andrews’ Maria in 1966 film “The Sound of Music,” ...

Happy Halloween!  Here is an essay that I wrote a while back on my favorite horror film, "The Exorcist" (1973), now cele...
10/31/2013

Happy Halloween!

Here is an essay that I wrote a while back on my favorite horror film, "The Exorcist" (1973), now celebrating its 40th anniversary:

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“The Exorcist” (1973)

[SPOILER ALERT BELOW}

My favorite horror film of all time is William Peter Blatty’s “The Exorcist”, directed by William Friedkin (1973). It is now celebrating its 40th anniversary.

For culturally sheltered or just squeamish, it’s based on a best-selling book of the same name, which was based on a (supposedly) “true” story of a boy in Maryland who experienced demonic possession (“Possessed” by Thomas B. Allen).

I guess I should start by saying that I don’t actually believe in this. I frankly have many issues with the ethics and practices of the Catholic Church, particularly their anti-gay stances, how they deal with money, and most importantly, how they respond to countless cases of s*xual molestation committed by priests, which have been met with cover-ups, denials, lies, manipulations, and millions of dollar spent on legal fees to defend the clearly guilty and hire lawyers to further victimize the victims. As a psychotherapist who helps people recover from the Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) of s*xual abuse, I particularly resent the Catholic Church as the source of priests who are often its perpetrators. I’m left to clean up the mess they made of the broken spirits of the victims of molestation, and it’s a hard job for me, and even more so for clients who are survivors. So, I take a dim view of any institution that in any way “coddles” the perpetrators of one of the most vicious crimes imaginable. Perhaps the new pope is starting to shift focus to more benevolent ideas, but time will tell.

As a licensed psychotherapist and trained psychiatric clinical social worker, I also take issue with the religious belief in “possession” and the “need” for exorcisms, which are mediaeval and barbaric for its victims. In reading “Possessed”, it is my strong suspicion that the boy had a scientific psychiatric condition very much of this world, not some sort of under-world. The subsequent story of Regan MacNeil is just a rather theatrical embellishment on an already exaggerated story.

Now, all that said, back to why “The Exorcist” is my favorite. Because beyond the graphic scenes of horrific images and violence, there is a benevolent message about human decency, sacrifice, and love. It's not blasphemous or whatever, as some have charged; it's actually very pro-Catholic. Think of the title; it's called "The Exorcist", meaning either Father Merrin or Father Karras, not "the demon". It's about a young man (Father Damien Karras) who doubts his own faith because of feeling guilty about leaving his elderly mother to become a Jesuit priest/professor at Georgetown University in Washington, DC, and help mankind.

The story goes that when a famous actress, “Chris MacNeil”, comes to town to film a movie, and her 12-year-old daughter, Regan, starts exhibiting odd behaviors and related paranormal activity in their spacious rented house in historic Georgetown, Chris exhausts every “legitimate” medical resource in the area trying to get her daughter help, to no avail. Eventually, she resorts to the “witch doctor” suggestion that she have Regan undergo an exorcism.

In taking on the task, young Karras faces the demon possessing Regan, the ancient Pazuzu, and helps liberate Regan. Karras makes the "ultimate sacrifice" (emulating the ultimate sacrifice Jesus Christ made in being crucified), and angrily and desperately entices the demon into his body, before committing su***de by jumping through Regan’s bedroom window to fall to his death down a steep flight of stairs outside.

We see Karras question his faith in himself and in his religion and purpose, but Karras’ ultimate act of self-sacrifice, in saving the little girl he has grown to love through her ordeal of being tormented, ultimately proves his faith because he mimics Christ's sacrifice for those He loved.

In the book, Karras is gay, I might add. It’s extremely subtle – it was 1973, remember – and it’s in ONE line, to his handsome young roommate in the cloister at Georgetown, Father Dyer, when he refers to “guys like us…”. At the end of the movie, when Father Dyer visits the MacNeil house as mother and daughter are leaving for home in Hollywood, Dyer finds the house calm and Regan restored to full mental and physical health. As Regan leaves the house to board the taxi to the airport, she reaches up and kisses Dyer; it is implied this is because she recognizes his cleric’s collar and even unconsciously remembers Father Karras “saving” her.

Ostensibly, Dyer is there to “check in” on mother and daughter in the aftermath of the ordeal, but it can also be interpreted that he is there to see where his lover died and process the loss. Dyer is reassured in his faith that Karras did the right thing by seeing the little girl whom Karras saved, at the expense of his relationship and indeed his life.

When evaluating a Hollywood horror movie with distracting special effects, look behind the theatrics, and at the author's original theme and intent of the book/screenplay. I believe the inspirational lesson from “The Exorcist” is to look at who we can save, who we can help when we put others first, and stop doubting ourselves and our ability to help others in Christ's example (or other figures of inspiration, faith, and Good Works to the World).

The theme of Father Karras literally facing his fears wouldn’t work unless the special effects were really, truly scary. As an audience, we must viscerally feel his fear, we must witness the same horrific events, we must go through the same test of faith he does, or the story doesn’t work. The scary effects are just to illustrate how we all must rally our bravery and our commitment to our deepest-held values, to overcome our fears and to help others.

For a raucous exploration of the Meaning of Life, by way of a traveling troupe of devious circus players, check out the ...
06/04/2013

For a raucous exploration of the Meaning of Life, by way of a traveling troupe of devious circus players, check out the revival of "Pippin", now the hottest show on Broadway. Excellent "music therapy" -- with some great existential lessons in the process!

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/pippin-new-broadway-cast-recording/id649895807

Preview and download Pippin (New Broadway Cast Recording) on iTunes. See ratings and read customer reviews.

05/22/2013

"The Great Gatsby" (2013)

In a hurry, so I'll be a man of few words:

When I saw "The Great Gatsby", I came home and said on my personal page, and that I "wanted a time machine and a cocktail, in that order." Really; they captured the ambiance of the Roaring 20's beautifully (not that I was there, but one can speculate; plus my grandfather told stories about meeting Gershwin at a party in 1923 in New York at my great-aunt's house, who was starring on Broadway at the time; it sounded fabulous).

But I was most impressed with the Tobey Maguire/Leonardo DiCaprio "bromance". The tension between them was very fun, and depicted a lovely (if platonic) relationship.

The integration of sets, costumes, music, art direction, choreography, story, performance and DIRECTION (Baz Luhrmann) coalesces into an enjoyable whole that's greater than the sum of its parts.

From a shrink POV, I would say this underscores my notion that unmarried straight men are often lonely. After college, and before wives, their opportunities for non-s*xual intimacy (with either s*x, but particularly with other straight men) can be limited. The Maguire/DeCaprio performances depict two guys bringing out the best in one another as a result of the time they spend together.

I suppose I should reiterate "everything in moderation", as "Gatsby" sometimes illustrates the evils and perils of excessive alcohol use. But it also depicts its social benefits, and how.

It's also mentally healthy to experience flights of fancy, or to be "transported" by a work of entertainment. "Gatsby" certain does this, and makes us yearn for a time and place that is either long gone, or perhaps never was. I tend to vote for the "long-gone" part, but I think we revisit it every time we laugh at a party, every time we dance to fun music, and every time we spend time with people we find fascinating and lovely. Maybe those days aren't as "gone" as we might think. I think they can be as close as your next available Saturday night...

04/28/2013

"Pippin" (Broadway Revival, 2013 - Music Box Theatre, NYC)

Taking a little diversion from my usual shrink's take on movies, I'm going to share my thoughts on an event that I find incredibly exciting, even though I wasn't even there -- except perhaps in spirit. Last week (Thursday, 4/25) saw the long-anticipated opening on Broadway of the first revival of Stephen Schwartz's long-running musical "Pippin" since its first run starting in 1973 and running for over 1,000 performances, making stars of Ben Vereen, (choreographer/director) Bob Fosse, and others.

Why would a shrink be interested in this? Well, first, in my "off-hours" I've been known to train on a circus trapeze myself for general fitness (which is a lot harder, but a lot more fun, than it looks), and director Diane Paulus has re-conceived "Pippin" as under a big-top circus, complete with dancers and acrobats mixing into one kinesthetic kaleidoscope. I'm also a gay shrink, and the revival of "Pippin" is known for featuring hunky dancer/acrobats in colorful costumes that tend to show off muscle. And, "Pippin" is one of my favorite scores of all-time, one of several Broadway scores that I could, conceivably, sing "on-demand" from start to finish (cough*geek!*cough). But those are the personal reasons.

The professional side of me examines "Pippin"s themes that emerge after all that "Magic to Do" (the opening number) gets done, and one is left with the messages and lessons that linger after all the "golden glance" has faded.

For, at its core, Pippin is about a young man searching the existential questions and "meaning of life", which I tend to help my younger clients with frequently in my office. Who am I? Why am I here? What's the (friggin') point of all this? What has meaning? Why should I settle for the ordinary, when I am extra-ordinary?

These and other questions get explored, in hip-gyrating Fosse-esque dance moves and in gloriously-tuneful, Schwartz- style songs (just like his other Broadway hits, "Godspell", "Wicked", and, the lesser-known but still-long-running, "The Magic Show").

During Pippin's first song, "Corner of the Sky", we learn that he is recently home from school and searching for someplace that he "fits in", like "cats on the windowsill". How many college students today, up to their jazz-hands in student-loan debt, come home to their parents' home or set out for some "exciting" city (that leaves them stimulated, but chronically broke) and find that there are no jobs and no real point beyond "decaf or regular"? Whether it's Pippin's Middle Ages or the present day, we can find plenty of young men (and women) trying to make their place in the world. Pippin asks the questions that millions of young Americans are asking themselves today.

Pippin makes valiant attempts to find what he's existentially looking for. He seeks it out in the "Glory" of war, only to find that it's not all it's cracked up to be (and, pray tell, how many recent returnees from Iraq and Afghanistan could tell you THAT these days?).

Pippin's Jiminy-Cricket/Clarence-The-Angel style mysterious mentor, the "Leading Player", warns him to use concepts from Mindful Meditation and being "in the moment" that we hear so much about today, imploring him to live each day for itself and savor the "Simple Joys" of life.

The message, however compelling, doesn't quite sink in from his mentor, and Pippin seeks the wisdom of the ages from his age-defying grandmother, "Berthe", who cajoles him to start living, for "Spring will turn to Fall"... in just "No Time At All." I've had this experience, myself, as an older 40-something therapist trying to gently guide some of my 20-something clients from making the same mistakes I did at their age, and give the advice I never got when I wish someone had (most of which is conspiratorial, frank, and subversive, and the exact opposite of what their parents tell them, which my young clients appreciate immensely).

Still unconvinced, Pippin seeks out (and finds!) the joys of carnal pleasures ("With You"). I can't blame him; all this current talk about "s*x addiction clinics" (there are five, count 'em, five of these in Beverly Hills alone, all expensive, all commercial, all of dubious value) gives the youthful joy of s*x a really bad name. But, I have worked with guys (and some women) who really do over-do it with s*x, as a means of fulfillment, in the same shallow way that "retail therapy" solves real problems. Satisfied, but somehow chronically un-satisfied, Pippin zips it up and moves on, still searching for his particular "corner".

He next tries to find that elusive fulfillment by murdering his father, the King, becomes king himself, and then finds that's a thankless job due to complaints from the People about inadequate social services and high taxes (whoever heard of such a thing!). He brings his father back to life (it's a 70's musical; stay with me) and moves to the country.

Here, he finds "Catherine", a widow with a young son (who has a sick pet duck). He finds that "patching the roof, and pitching the hay" is nothing for someone as "Extraordinary" as him. How many of us all, in frustration and existential angst, have uttered, "I went to college for THIS?" or, "You gotta be kidding me?", right before doing something we really hoped our Pride could keep us from ever doing. We've all been there, and we can all identify with the frustration, we all yearn for living lives that validate our own (occasionally grandiose) visions of ourselves. Yet, when Pippin does it, he looks so stupid in his malcontent. Could it be that that's the point that bookwriter Roger Hirson would want us to get? Perhaps so.

Struggling to come to terms with the almost inevitably sorta mediocrity of everyday life, Pippin starts to finally consider those simple joys in a "Love Song" with Catherine.

Catherine returns the sentiment, perhaps foreshadowing their happy life together, with her own complacent capitulation in "I Guess I'll Miss the Man". Despite the inherent and inevitable flaws of any partner, when it comes right down to it, if they weren't around, we'd miss them, too, even on their worst days. Ain't love grand?

Pippin has one more chance to literally glow in glory, as the mysterious Leading Player and the accompanying band of hot, well-choreographed Players, entice him to burn himself up in a Mediaeval fire-box contraption that will offer short-term, perhaps, but still radiant, glory -- like the glowing Sun. This is some serious stuff, for in all its stylized splendor, a catchy Broadway musical seriously contemplates the merits and detriments of su***de. As a therapist, I've seen this issue and up-close and personal a number of times. Sure, no Leading Player, no pyrotechnics, but a confused and desperate person seriously contemplating the decision, nevertheless. This is where it all "gets real".

I won't completely spoil the ending, because I like the show and I want people to go see it on Broadway often enough to keep the show open until I venture away from my West Coast enclave (that I rarely leave) in time to see it in New York myself (Music Box Theatre).

But in the course of "an hour or two", there is certainly magic to be done in a musical that helps us have all of our lives flash "before our very eyes" (oops; oh, wait -- that lyric is from "The Magic Show" finale -- sorry -- told you I was a Broadway geek) and, at last, makes us feel just a little better about the "extraordinariness" of the ordinary lives we lead.

"Simple Joys" -- indeed.

04/24/2013

Hey Fans!

So: There is some talk about turning this Fan Page into a TV show! You know, kind of like "Siskel & Ebert & The Movies" meets "Love Line" meets "The Barbara Walters Specials". What do you think? Would you watch me interview the stars of new and classic movies and ask them in-depth questions about their childhoods, careers, and "character motivations"?

Remember when Barbara Walters asked Katharine Hepburn what kind of tree would she be? That sort of thing. Or, like the old Dick Cavett show -- intelligent talk, about new and classic movies (or TV shows). It'll happen -- if YOU tell producers/networks YOU want it! What do think? What you tune in to see?

Leave any suggestions/comments below; thanks! :)

They say "the clothes make the man."  Um-hmmmmmm.  Can't wait to see this!
04/23/2013

They say "the clothes make the man." Um-hmmmmmm. Can't wait to see this!

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