08/29/2025
I saw a post the other day about what makes women look “wealthy” rather than “cheap.”
I’ll admit I got sucked in to find the answer, which was basically- move slowly. And let me tell you… this post had thousands of views.
Ugh, I felt so sad reading this seemingly innocent post.
Here’s the thing, for decades, even centuries, women have constantly been sold and shamed into some ridiculous metric about our worth, which usually has something to do with our appearance.
And we consistently buy into it because… well because our mothers bought into it and their mothers bought into it and so on.
We spend our money, time, energy, on beauty. Obsess over our weight, our bellies. Shame ourselves over our jiggles. Try to crack some secret of how to appear “valuable” or “rich” so that we can attract someone valuable and rich.
Let me share a secret with you - ALL women are valuable. ALL women are worthy. You can be any size, shape, jiggle, look, and you are STILL valuable.
YOU (yes I’m talking to you) are SO much more than what you look like. You have feelings and profound insights and intuitive senses, you have deep intelligence and wisdom, a fire and passion, you have a glow, a love, a softness that feels so safe. You have an unmatched courage to confront life despite being told otherwise. When you step up to be a leader, you are really f*ing good at it. When you follow, you are really f*ing good at that too. In fact you are just really f*ing good at a lot of things.
The only thing that can ever change your value is what you believe about yourself.
So Maybe, just maybe, if one by one, we start pouring our energy into truly loving ourselves, just as we are, instead if trying to meet some made up crazy societal standard, then maybe we can move into a world where our daughters can be just be themselves and look like themselves without any shame, without any worries about whether they look cheap or wealthy. Wouldn’t that be a truly beautiful day.
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