Dr Mimi Hoang

Psychologist, Life Coach, Speaker As a policy, I do not correspond with current or former therapy clients via social media.

Dr. Mimi Hoang is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the le***an, gay, bis*xual, transgender, q***r, inters*x, and as*xual (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bis*xual, pans*xual, fluid, and other nonmonos*xual (AKA "bi+") individuals, aut

hored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bis*xual Community Roundtable. Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, a feature in Jan Dee Gordon's LGBTQ of Steel photography book, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bis*xual Movement.” She currently is the owner of Living in Color Therapy and works part-time as the Program Coordinator of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center at Airport Marina Counseling Services, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series.

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07/22/2025

Please remember that bis*xual has never meant "attraction to men and women." If you hear that anywhere, then it's an outdated definition or a transphobic one. The term bis*xual sometimes confuses people because of the prefix "bi" which usually means "two." So people might think bis*xual means attractions to two genders - men and women. But let's go back to the roots.

Heteros*xuality is "attraction to the other gender" and homos*xuality is "attraction to the same gender," thus bis*xuality is "attraction to the same and other gender." And that's because your s*xual orientation is about "what direction your attraction faces," not about the "object" of your attraction. It doesn't say WHO you desire, it says what DIRECTION your desire faces in relation to your own gender.

Also, if someone is still intentionally using the "attraction to men and women" definition even after being aware of this misframing of bis*xuality, then that means they're intentionally saying that gender is binary, which means only "cisgender men and women." You might also see it paraphrased as "attraction to both s*xes." This means they're saying that people should be defined by their s*x assigned at birth and not their gender identity (AKA they're gender critical and transphobic). This would also exclude non-binary genders such as bigender, genderq***r, two-spirit, agender, etc.

A more updated set of definitions for s*xual orientation that includes a broader range of genders and is trans-affirming is:

Heteros*xuality = attraction to people different from your own gender

Homos*xuality = attraction to people similar to your own gender

Bis*xuality = attraction to people similar and different from your own gender

So be on the lookout for the problematic definitions!

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07/18/2025

My Bi on Life series is continuing this Sat! Last week I ran workshop 1 - Bi Pride 360, and it was a wonderful gathering where we discussed bi identity congruence and boosting bi pride. If you missed it, there is still room to register for workshop 2 and 3, happening this Sat (tmrw) and next Sat!

Bi on Life is my original self-empowerment series for bi, pan, fluid, and questioning men, women, and non-binary people who want to improve self-knowledge, self-love, and self-confidence about their s*xualities so that they can become high on life, or in this case, bi on life (we love our puns)!

I condensed this from 6 down to 3 weeks and each session can be taken separately, in order to make my program more accessible for all.

I welcome people from all backgrounds inside and outside the U.S. This series covers the basics for beginners but also can be a "refresher" for those who have been out for a while.

Workshop 2: Coming Out & Living Out
Sat, Jul 19th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Take inventory of your current outness level and set goals
*Improve skills for navigating various coming out situations

Workshop 3: Build Your Bi+ Village
Sat, Jul 26th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Assess your social support system and improve interpersonal skills
*Build your local and bi+ resource kit

Screenings are not required.

All workshops are virtual, may be attended a la carte, or as a bundle for the maximum Bi on Life experience!

Attendees who register for the full 3-part Bi on Life Series will receive a discount code which can be used for the Bi on Love or Bi on Leadership Series.

More info: drmimihoang.com/coaching

See you in my zoom room!!

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07/17/2025

Just me here, a q***r and bis*xual Asian American woman and feminist, s*x-positive, and body-positive professional, showing my true colors and being bi on life. ✨️💜✨️ When do you feel this way in your life?

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07/14/2025

Why isn't there a Straight Pride? Because...

*Every day is straight pride

*Being straight was never illegal

*No one got kicked out for coming out straight

*No one got jailed for being straight

*No one has to come out as straight

*No one protests straight weddings

*There is no straight conversion therapy

*No one is killed for being straight

*Straight hand-holding is safe

*No one asks if being straight is a phase

*No one outed straight kids

*Straight history is not being erased

07/11/2025

For those new here, let me introduce myself: I'm Dr. Mimi (she/her) and I'm an experienced psychologist, life coach, professor, and community organizer specializing in gender, s*xuality, race, and culture. Personally I identify as bis*xual, fluid, Vietnamese and Chinese American, a cis woman who is femme with an edge, and I'm monogamous and married to a Chinese American woman and we live in Los Angeles with our 2 cats. 🐈‍⬛🐈

As a community psychologist who believes in addressing the micro and macro influences on mental health, I've worked on the local, national, and international levels. For many years I've been a therapist and administrator in community mental health clinics and university counseling centers offering individual, couples, family, and group therapy to diverse clients before opening my private practice specializing in LGBTQ and BIPOC folx, healthy relationships, social anxiety, and body image.

I have a passion for training and have been a supervisor and training coordinator for 15+ years and right now I'm the Program Coordinator of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center where I supervise doctoral- and masters-level trainees. Training extends to teaching, and I'm adjunct faculty at USC's Marriage and Family Therapy Program where I teach Human Sexuality and Interrogating Systems of Inequity in Professional Practice.

My community leadership emerged when I co-founded the first bi student group at UCLA in 1999, co-founded in 2006, and in 2008. I've served on 4 boards and have done lots of speaking gigs including 2 at the White House, 2 for SAMHSA, and one at the Int'l Bis*xuality Research Conference, plus I have multiple LGBTQ publications. I rallied the first bi contingent at LA Pride in 2008 and started the B+ Well Conference in 2024. I've blended all of this into life coaching and created my "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series to uplift bi, pan, and fluid individuals to become bi on life (we love our puns) which has drawn attendees from Germany, Switzerland, and Australia!

Follow me for more tips on and or check out my therapy and coaching services. 💜💜💜

07/10/2025

There is no one right way to be bi+. Honor your truth and find out what feels right for you. People may envision bis*xuality in a stereotyped way, such as being "50/50" or having equal attractions to men and women but bis*xuality is so much more than that and includes so much more diversity than that.

People who are bi+/mspec can run the whole gamut of having differing types of attractions to various genders, differing levels of intensity of attractions to various genders, or having non-gendered attractions. Some may be as*xual or aromantic. Some may be very s*xual or romantic.

Some may be single, dating, or married. Some may be in a mixed-gender relationship or a same-gender relationship. Some may be in a mixed-orientation relationship or same-orientation relationship. Some may be monogamous or ethically non-monogamous.

Some may be vanilla or kinky. Some may be parents or childfree. Some may be feminine, masculine, or androgynous. Some may be not out, somewhat out, or very out. Some may be involved or not involved in the q***r community.

What's important is that you find out what feels best for you from the inside out. No one knows that but you. And then that's when you can live out your truth.

That's when you can find identity congruence and integration because then you are bi+ 360.

Ask me how! Or join my Bi on Life series (starting 7/12!).

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07/09/2025

Being Bi 360 means having bi identity congruence and integration. That means you are bi+ inside and out, in every direction, individually and in community. In a scientific way, that means you are bi+ in all the dimensions of s*xual orientation as defined by Dr. Fritz Klein, bis*xual psychiatrist who created the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid in 1984, a multidimensional way of viewing s*xuality rather than only looking at one dimension (usually s*xual behavior).

I used the KSOG in my dissertation but I've also been using it to help my therapy and coaching clients better understand where they are in their identity journey, assess where they are congruent or incongruent, and to identify goals in improving congruence.

In everyday terms, this means aligning your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, rather than suppressing or compartmentalizing your bis*xuality. This could include your attractions, identity labels, romantic and s*xual relationships, friendships, and gender expression.

I've found that most bi and pan people ideally want to be fully congruent or "Bi 360," and when they start taking steps to express their internal experiences more outwardly, they experience increased groundedness, confidence, and . I've seen it time and time again.

The first session of my Bi on Life series on Jul 12th - "Bi Pride 360," tackles this exact topic, where we will assess your identity congruence and integration. I also provide individual coaching on achieving identity congruence.

For more info: drmimihoang.com/coaching

Let me know how I can help!

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07/08/2025

My Bi on Life series starts this Sat! This is my self-empowerment series for bi, pan, fluid, and questioning men, women, and non-binary people who want to achieve these goals:

1) Learn to understand their identities better and boost identity congruence and integration
2) Fight internalized biphobia and imposter syndrome
3) Grow their bi+ pride
4) Improve their coming out skills
5) Nurture their social support systems and decrease loneliness

I condensed this from 6 down to 3 weeks and each session can be taken separately, in order to make my program more accessible for all. So now is your chance to take this!

I welcome people from all backgrounds inside and outside the U.S. This series covers the basics for beginners but also can be a "refresher" for those who have been out for a while.

Workshop #1: Bi Pride 360
Sat, Jul 12th
9am-10:30 Pacific (90 min)
*Deep dive into your bi+ identity profile
*Fight internalized shame and build bi+ pride, inside and out

Workshop #2: Coming Out & Living Out
Sat, Jul 19th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Take inventory of your current outness level and set goals
*Improve skills for navigating various coming out situations

Workshop #3: Build Your Bi+ Village
Sat, Jul 26th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Assess your social support system and improve interpersonal skills
*Build your local and bi+ resource kit

Screenings are not required.

All workshops are virtual, may be attended a la carte, or as a bundle for the maximum Bi on Life experience!

Attendees who register for the full 3-part Bi on Life Series will receive a discount code which can be used for the Bi on Love or Bi on Leadership Series.

More info: drmimihoang.com/coaching

Hope to see you soon!!

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06/25/2025

My Bi on Life series for bi, pan, and fluid individuals is coming up fast in Jul! This is my signature workshop series that started it all and will help you gain self-knowledge, self-love, and self-confidence, because you can't be confident unless you love and accept yourself, and you can't love and accept yourself if you dont know and understand yourself first and foremost.

I welcome bi, pan, fluid, omni, q***r, and questioning men, women, and non-binary people of all ages and backgrounds, from inside and outside the U.S. This series covers the basics for beginners but also can be a "refresher" for those who have been out for a while and need a little "nudge."

Workshop #1: Bi Pride 360
Sat, Jul 12th
9am-10:30 Pacific (90 min)
*Deep dive into your bi+ identity profile
*Fight internalized shame and build bi+ pride, inside and out

Workshop #2: Coming Out & Living Out
Sat, Jul 19th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Take ineventory of your current outness level and set goals
*Improve skills for navigating various coming out situations

Workshop #3: Build Your Bi+ Village
Sat, Jul 26th
9am-10:30am Pacific (90 min)
*Assess your social support system and improve interpersonal skills
*Build your local and bi+ resource kit

Screenings are not required.

All workshops are virtual, may be attended a la carte, or as a bundle for the maximum Bi on Life experience!

Attendees who register for the full 3-part Bi on Life Series will receive a discount code which can be used for the Bi on Love or Bi on Leadership Series.

More info: drmimihoang.com/coaching

Hope to see you next month!!

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06/23/2025

A quick reminder that the term "q***r" can mean bi, pan, fluid, genderq***r, and many other identitities outside of cishet and monos*xually gay. Q***r has been known for many decades as a shorthand umbrella term for the LGBTQIA+ community. This is called a community identity label.

When an individual calls themselves q***r, then it usually means that they are not cishet but also that they may not be monos*xually gay either. This is called an individual identity label. That could include bis*xual, pans*xual, fluid, omnis*xual, or other non-monos*xual orientation. They could be gay-bis*xual (more strongly attracted to the same gender than to other genders), have attractions that are person-specific, or have a non-binary s*xual AND gender identity (genderq***r, bigender, two-spirit, etc).

People who are monos*xually gay or le***an don't typically use the term q***r as an individual identity label (there are exceptions, of course). These individuals may refer to the community as q***r, but they usually refer to themselves as gay or le***an. That means they're s*xually and romantically attracted to one gender only, and in this case, to the same gender only.

A reminder too that the older generation (e.g., Baby Boomers, Silent Generation) tend to avoid using the term q***r due to the derogatory way it was once used. And sometimes people's behaviors and identity labels don't match and sometimes people may change their identity labels over time. This may be due to circumstance, individual growth, social pressures, or cultural changes.

Thus, q***r as an individual identity label can mean a myriad of things about one's s*xual and/or gender identity. So when an individual refers to themselves as q***r, an important follow-up question could be, "What does q***r mean to you?"

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06/16/2025

Hi all, Bi on Life is coming up in Jul! My signature coaching series is for bis*xual, pans*xual, and fluid individuals to learn self-knowledge, self-love, and self-empowerment so they can become bi on life (we love our puns!). In these interactive 90-min workshops I mix lecture, discussion, and activities using empirical research, clinical knowledge, community narratives, and my own lived experience as a bis*xual psychologist with over 25 years of community leadership. To maximize accessibility for all, I have shortened the series to 3 weeks and you can register for each session as stand-alone sessions.

Bi on Life: self-empowerment series for bis*xual, pans*xual, and fluid individuals

Workshop 1: Bi Pride 360
Sat, Jul 12th at 9am-10:30am PT

Workshop 2: Coming Out & Living Out
Sat, Jul 19th at 9am-10:3am PT

Workshop 3: Build Your Bi+ Village
Sat, Jul 26th at 9am-10:30am PT

*All workshops are virtual, and may be attended a la carte or as a bundle

*If you register for all 3 sessions of Bi on Life, you will receive a $20 off voucher for another series (Bi on Love in Sep or Bi on Leadership in Nov)!

For info: drmimihoang.com/coaching
For tix: bionlife2025.eventbrite.com

I can't wait to run my series and I can't wait to see you in my zoom room!

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06/13/2025

Bi+ folks, connect with q***r spaces if you want to stop diving into compulsive heteros*xuality. Many bi+ (and gay) people, especially women, feel compelled to follow heteronormative behaviors due to society's pressures, such as to date or get married to someone of the other gender, to look and act gender-conforming, etc. As a bi+ person who might be in a mixed-gender relationship, you might feel this pressure even more because your relationship is perceived as straight. As a bi+ woman, you might just feel drawn to comphet in general because of s*xism and patriarchy, which plays a powerful force on women's behavior in general. For example, people might "tell you to smile," grow your hair long, wear dresses or make-up, act more lady-like, get married and have a baby, etc. Some of these pressures might be explicit but some of it might be implicit and indirectly expressed.

If you find yourself mindlessly being drawn to comphet, you might want to stop and check in with yourself, and then try to more intentionally focus on q***r spaces, art, and culture. Watch a q***r show or movie, read a q***r book, listen to a q***r podcast or q***r music. Hang out with q***r friends. If you don't have any q***r friends, then go make some! Attend a q***r group, community event, or pride event.

And this is also about your own gender expression too. That could mean wearing clothes that might be less gender conforming, styling your hair differently, wearing less (or more) make-up, even moving your body differently. Sit, stand, and walk in a less gender-conforming way. If you're a bi+ woman, express yourself in a more masculine way. If you're a bi+ man, express yourself in a more feminine way. Non-binary people may also want to flex their gender expression in a new or different way. Or redefine what femininity and masculinity means to you. Because comphet affects us on many levels, you may want to challenge it on many levels.

Need more help in this arena? Contact me for therapy or coaching! 💖💜💙

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About Dr. Mimi

Dr. Mimi Hoang is a nationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the le***an, gay, bis*xual, transgender, and q***r (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bis*xual, pans*xual, fluid, and other nonmonos*xual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bis*xual Community Roundtable. Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, mentions in Cosmopolitan and HuffPost, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bis*xual Movement.” She currently works as a Staff Psychologist at Loyola Marymount University (LMU) Student Psychological Services, Professor of Clinical Psychology at Antioch University Los Angeles, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series.

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