Gay Therapy La - Ken Howard, LCSW - Psychotherapy and Coaching for Gay Men

Gay Therapy La - Ken Howard, LCSW - Psychotherapy and Coaching for Gay Men Licensed psychotherapist, AASECT Certified S*x Therapist, and life/relationship coach specializing i from 2012-2021.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST is a licensed psychotherapist, AASECT Certified S*x Therapist, and life/business/relationship coach, specializing in gay men -- individuals and couples -- with over 29 years experience. He was also an Adjunct Associate Professor with the USC Suzanne Dworak-Peck School of Social Work, teaching courses in advanced Clinical Practice in psychotherapy, Couples Therapy, and LGBT Issues. He is available for in-person and online counseling/psychotherapy sessions in West Hollywood, national and international coaching, phone appointments, we**am appointments, speaking engagements, and organizational consulting.

09/19/2025

Integrity isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being consistent. Living with integrity means making choices that match your values, even when no one’s watching. For gay men, that can mean honoring who you are in love, work, and community without apology.

When we live aligned with our truth, we build self-respect, healthier relationships, and the kind of confidence that can’t be faked.

💬 What’s one area of your life where living with more integrity would make the biggest difference right now?

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Are you spending your energy chasing things that don’t really pay off?In gay men’s lives, we sometimes trade in “toxic c...
09/19/2025

Are you spending your energy chasing things that don’t really pay off?

In gay men’s lives, we sometimes trade in “toxic currencies” — attention, s*x, money, status, drama, revenge, and jealousy. They might feel powerful in the moment, but they drain us in the long run.

The real wealth comes from healthier currencies: self-respect, authentic connection, peace of mind, and values that actually last.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST breaks this down in his guide and podcast — helping gay men step off the treadmill of comparison and build a life that feels good from the inside out.

🔗 Read our full guide at GayTherapyLA.com: https://buff.ly/tImOVI0

🎧 Listen to the podcast version on the Gay Therapy LA Podcast

09/17/2025

Ever feel like you keep dating the same guy in a different body? That’s not just bad luck—it’s what therapists call repetition compulsion. When we’ve been hurt, part of us unconsciously seeks to replay the story, hoping for a different ending.

The good news? With awareness, support, and healthier boundaries, you can break the cycle. Healing isn’t about blaming yourself for the past—it’s about giving yourself permission to choose differently for the future.

💬 Have you ever noticed a repeating pattern in who you’re drawn to? What helped you break it?

09/16/2025

Too often, gay men are told—directly or indirectly—that who we are isn’t enough. That old shame can sneak inside and turn into internalized homophobia. But the truth? You are enough.
Building self-worth means pushing back against those voices and owning our authentic selves. We thrive when we stop carrying society’s baggage and start living unapologetically.

What’s one way you remind yourself of your worth when doubt creeps in? Share below—your voice might be the encouragement someone else needs today.

09/15/2025

Gay men’s relationships don’t exist in a vacuum—we can learn from straight couples, too. From blending finances, to navigating family roles, to setting boundaries at work, there are lessons that can make our partnerships stronger and more sustainable.

👉 What’s one relationship skill you’ve seen in straight couples that you think gay men could benefit from?

09/11/2025

Today we remember. On days of wakeful news and crisis, it’s normal to feel shaken—but also to choose grounding, compassion, and solidarity. Use this time to connect with what matters: memory, community, hope.

👉 What helps you find calm when current events hit hard?

09/10/2025

Are you sabotaging your relationships?

Many gay men struggle with patterns of avoidance, ghosting, or shutting down emotionally — not because they don’t want connection, but because trauma taught them it wasn’t safe.

In this clip, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explains how self-sabotage and insecure attachment styles can quietly derail intimacy… and what it takes to break the cycle.

💬 Have you ever pulled away just when something was going well? Let’s talk about it.

🔗 Watch the full video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0Nwg508BXfo

09/10/2025

Are you afraid to get close to someone?

For many gay men, that fear doesn’t come from nowhere — it often traces back to early trauma, hypervigilance, and survival mode.

In this clip, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST breaks down how old emotional defenses can quietly block us from intimacy today — and how naming the pattern is the first step toward changing it.

💬 Can you think of a moment when your guard was up without realizing it?

🔗 Watch the full video on YouTube: https://buff.ly/vvQZCuS

Betrayal shows up in many forms—cheating, gossip, broken confidences, even family wounds. This episode + blog explore ho...
09/09/2025

Betrayal shows up in many forms—cheating, gossip, broken confidences, even family wounds. This episode + blog explore how gay men can cope, repair, or walk away while reclaiming trust and clarity.

🎧 Listen/read now at GayTherapyLA.com | Links in bio.

👉 What’s one boundary you’ve set that helped you rebuild trust after a betrayal?

From Obama to Trump, the political whiplash has left deep marks on gay men’s mental health. In this episode, Ken Howard,...
09/05/2025

From Obama to Trump, the political whiplash has left deep marks on gay men’s mental health. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, unpacks minority stress, cultural backlash, and how we can build resilience in a divided America.

Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

How have politics shaped your mental health journey? Share your thoughts below.

"If it’s hysterical, it’s historical."Growing up in an alcoholic household may have shaped everything from your intimacy...
09/03/2025

"If it’s hysterical, it’s historical."

Growing up in an alcoholic household may have shaped everything from your intimacy to your self-worth—especially for gay men living at the intersection of ACA and LGBTQ experiences. In this blog + podcast episode, we explore how past patterns still show up today—and how therapy and coaching can help you break free and build a new narrative.

🧵 If you’ve ever felt hypervigilant, people-pleasing, or distrustful in relationships—this one’s for you.

Tap the link in bio to listen 🎧

💬 Share your thoughts below—or DM for support.

From Invisible to Seen: The Cinderella Syndrome for Gay MenEver felt like you went from the awkward outsider to finally ...
09/02/2025

From Invisible to Seen: The Cinderella Syndrome for Gay Men

Ever felt like you went from the awkward outsider to finally being “seen” in the gay world—only to wonder what happens when the glow-up fades?

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST unpacks the “Cinderella Syndrome,” the transformation many gay men experience, and why true self-worth has to outlast midnight.

💬 Has your own “Cinderella moment” changed the way you see yourself?

🔗 Read & listen: GayTherapyLA.com/blog
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Ken Howard, LCSW, is a gay therapist (Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW #LCS18290 in California) who has been a specialist in serving gay men and gay male couples in therapy and life/career/business coaching for over 27 years. He is also on the faculty of the Suzanne Dworak-Peck School of Social Work at USC, teaching courses in advanced Clinical Practice in psychotherapy, Couples Therapy, and LGBT Psycho-Social-Political Issues. He is available for in-person counseling/psychotherapy sessions at his office in Los Angeles/West Hollywood (near San Vicente and Sixth), coaching, and phone/we**am sessions anywhere in the United States and all over the world, as well as being available for speaking engagements, corporate training, and organizational consulting.